Hello all. I had some questions I wanted to ask you, but first I'll lay the ground work. I've been dating a girl from a bit over a year now, and we're both christian. The thing is, she knows a lot of homosexuals due to her work in theatre. We've discussed how their lifestyle is wrong, but I feel sometimes that she disregards that and seeks out people like this. She even keeps in contact with a homosexual friend from where she use to live via phone. This bothers me a lot, but I'm not sure how to bring it up. Any suggestions?

Is she a testimony or a witness to them? I know there are those called by God to live as a testimony to certain people where others can not.
If, on the other hand, she is too submersed in her "culture" then the problem is not that she hangs around a worldly crowd, but that she is worldly herself. Maybe get deeper into the heart issue or find a new girlfriend that wont drag you into a worldly atmosphere.

Hello all. I had some questions I wanted to ask you, but first I'll lay the ground work. I've been dating a girl from a bit over a year now, and we're both christian. The thing is, she knows a lot of homosexuals due to her work in theatre. We've discussed how their lifestyle is wrong, but I feel sometimes that she disregards that and seeks out people like this. She even keeps in contact with a homosexual friend from where she use to live via phone. This bothers me a lot, but I'm not sure how to bring it up. Any suggestions?

This is a very good question that doesn't have very easy answers. I am in a similar situation. My sister is a homosexual and wants nothing to do with Christianity. She lives with a woman and has many homosexual friends.

Where do you keep the balance between maintaining relationships with Ungodly people and culture? For me, I choose to have a relationship with my sister and her girlfriend, however, I admit it's not close because there is a very fundamental difference in belief systems.

In your situation, since your girlfriend is a Christian, she is at least open to listening to truth. Make sure she understands that homosexuality is a sin and you can use several passages of scripture including:

Leviticus 18:22
Leviticus 20:13
Romans 1:18-32
1 Corinthians 6:9-11
Timothy 1:9-11

Also, let her know that the bible tells us not to be yolked with unbelievers. That would include close friendships as well as personal relationships. She is in a difficult situation working with many homosexuals.

Bottom line is keep encouraging her to learn the truth for herself from scripture and pray about it. Ultimately she will have to put Jesus first and foremost and by doing so some relationships might fade away but remind her it will also open doors for other relationships and friendships. Also encourage her to seek out Christian friends either through small groups, bible studies, or other activities with Christian people.

Hello all. I had some questions I wanted to ask you, but first I'll lay the ground work. I've been dating a girl from a bit over a year now, and we're both christian. The thing is, she knows a lot of homosexuals due to her work in theatre. We've discussed how their lifestyle is wrong, but I feel sometimes that she disregards that and seeks out people like this. She even keeps in contact with a homosexual friend from where she use to live via phone. This bothers me a lot, but I'm not sure how to bring it up. Any suggestions?


If you have been dating her for over a year, you two should be close enough to talk about anything, especially in this dating stage. You must keep your feelings known, if it makes you uncomfortable, tell her.

This will come up again but in other circumstances and you need to know how she will regard your feelings about matters.

Maybe she feels "secure" around them as in they wouldn't think of her in any sexual way.. Serious... Tell her to talk to them gradually about God and the bible etc... It'll plant that tiny seed and thats all that needs to be done I'd think...

Being casual friends isn't a problem, and we do need to interact with unbelievers to a certain extent to show them the love and truth of God. However, people who have views that are opposed to Scripture (and especially those who blatantly live those views) should not comprise the bulk of our close friendships. Bad company corrupts good morals. Period. I also agree with the person who said that at this stage in your relationship you should be able to discuss issues like this and make your feelings known. If she is unwilling to listen to you then she is not ready for a serious relationship. You should only date someone who has the potential to become your spouse, and if this girl doesn't trust you enough to follow your leadership then she may not have the potential of becoming a godly wife.

I appreciate the input guys, it's been very helpful. I've been thinking over our relationship very hard the last month. It's been hard to decide what to do sometimes.