:cry:I am new to this forum, and joined to get a Christian advice on this situation. I am pregnant(8 weeks), and I just found I have an ectopic pregnancy. The doctor of course wants me to have surgery to remove the ectopic pregnancy. or I can take a drug(injected) called Methotrexate. She wants my decision by tomorrow. I am having a really hard time with this, and to me it's like I'm murdering my own child. I saw the little heart beat, and that just makes it more real to me. I have 2 beautiful children already. I know this needs to be taken care of because the risk of major complications and possibly death, but I don't know how I'm going to deal with it.

My question is What would you do? If you have been through the same situation what did you do or how did you handle it?

Thanks

:cry:I am new to this forum, and joined to get a Christian advice on this situation. I am pregnant(8 weeks), and I just found I have an ectopic pregnancy. The doctor of course wants me to have surgery to remove the ectopic pregnancy. or I can take a drug(injected) called Methotrexate. She wants my decision by tomorrow. I am having a really hard time with this, and to me it's like I'm murdering my own child. I saw the little heart beat, and that just makes it more real to me. I have 2 beautiful children already. I know this needs to be taken care of because the risk of major complications and possibly death, but I don't know how I'm going to deal with it.

My question is What would you do? If you have been through the same situation what did you do or how did you handle it?

Thanks

I think if you talk to your doctor more you will find the risk is death!!! You will bleed to death internally when the fallopian tube burst.

I had an ectopic pregnancy too. I lived to tell you this because I had surgery to remove the baby. It was the worse pain, emotionally/spiritually, I've ever had. But I had two live children, like you, at the time. They need you to stay alive!

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hi.:hug:

We are not doctors,so we have to be careful not to give you medical advice. As was suggested, you should call a Pastor tonight and talk with him.
If you are unable to do so, pray with your husband.

Dear Father,
I bring this precious mother before You. This is such a hard thing to face. Father, if there be no other alternative in this situation,please give her peace in her heart. If there is something else that can be done, please give wisdom.
Father, thank You that You care so much for us. And I know that should this child, not see life on this earth that they will be safe in Your arms.
In Jesus Name,amen

I know this is what I need to do:cry:, but I guess I am looking more for support and how to cope with the situation. Thank you for your kind words.

I have spoken with my pastor, and he assured me that that going ahead with the doctor's advice is the best alternative. He said the baby is going to die anyways, and it is better to have one death instead of two.

I wish I could just give you a hug right now.
I'm glad you found this board and please understand that we are here to encourage you in whatever way we can. This is a difficult time for you and the best we can do is pray and just listen to how you are feeling.
We really care.:hug:

I know this is what I need to do:cry:, but I guess I am looking more for support and how to cope with the situation. Thank you for your kind words.

I have spoken with my pastor, and he assured me that that going ahead with the doctor's advice is the best alternative. He said the baby is going to die anyways, and it is better to have one death instead of two.


I also wished I could be with you during this time!!

I did not mention earlier that the surgery went ok, physically. I prayed that God would forgive me and I named the baby Bobby Ray since I did not know if he was a boy or girl.

Its been a long time ago. I've had two children after the ectopic pregnancy also. Those two are 19 and 20 now, they are not even 365 days apart. Everyone thought they were twins for the longest time. Two wonderful blessings. So altogether I have four.

I guess I mention all that to let you know life will go on and you will be a great Mom to all your children. And you will see this one in heaven one day!!!

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After my surgery I went to a support/counseling group that is Christian based. It is called PACE. It stands for Post Abortion Counseling and Education. It really helped me get through.

I had completely forgotten about the program until about 3 days ago when I found my workbooks in the basement. Now I know why I found them. God let me find them for you.

I'm doing an online search now to see if there is one in SC.

I pray for the peace and comfort of the Holy Spirit for you. God is very aware of your feelings about the situation and I pray that He will help you cope and that this will be an opportunity for your walk with Him to become even closer. Many times God allows certain things (hurtful, painful or otherwise) to take place in our lives in order to draw us nearer to Him.

I looked online and did not find the PACE program for SC, but if you do internet search for your area I believe you will find one. I found too many hits, so weeding through them was hard.

Please know you are doing what is best for you and your children. And let Jesus love you through this time. And stay in touch with me.

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:cry:I am new to this forum, and joined to get a Christian advice on this situation. I am pregnant(8 weeks), and I just found I have an ectopic pregnancy. The doctor of course wants me to have surgery to remove the ectopic pregnancy. or I can take a drug(injected) called Methotrexate. She wants my decision by tomorrow. I am having a really hard time with this, and to me it's like I'm murdering my own child. I saw the little heart beat, and that just makes it more real to me. I have 2 beautiful children already. I know this needs to be taken care of because the risk of major complications and possibly death, but I don't know how I'm going to deal with it.

My question is What would you do? If you have been through the same situation what did you do or how did you handle it?

Thanks


This is very dangerous. Thank God they found it out now. Please take care of it asap.

I'm so sorry. :( I wish I had advice, but I can share your pain...our first child was an ectopic preganacy. (went on to have six!!)
I can only say what you already know- the Lord is so faithful to heal the broken heart. I am praying for you and will certainly continue to do so. May God be your refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble, as he longs to be.

with love because of Jesus-lori

My only child was an ectopic pregnancy...... I did NOT want to go into the theatre....... but had no choice either....... :cry:
After a while God showed me a dream with a babygirl in a crib in Heaven...... it was so beautiful....... I know I am going to hold her the day that I die..... and sometimes I am looking forward to that........

Love you,
Mieke :kiss:

Hugs and prayers to all my sisters who have had to deal with this very difficult and heartbreaking situation. :kiss: :hug:

I am praying for you also.:hug:

I too had an ectopic pregnancy:cry: I had emergency surgery and really didn't have the time to sort things through. My first Sunday back at church, I spoke with a woman who said to me, "oh, your surgery was like an abortion". Thanks. I spent the next countless years blaming myself and thinking I should have died in 1995:( Seek counseling and stay close to the Lord. Talk about it and grieve. These are things I didn't do and I payed the price. I will be lifting you up in prayer:pray::hug:

I had to have emergency surgery at 14 weeks for an ectopic pregnancy. I found it really hard to deal with the grief of losing a child, but knew that it was part of God's plan, so I had to go through the grieving stages that you normally do when you lose someone. My heart ached for what might have been, I already had three children, so I knew what a blessing I missed out on, however it's God's arms that held me through the many tears I shed in private because unless you've been there it's difficult to understand the loss you feel.

Hold tight to the Lord and He will carry you through this time. :hug: Linda

My heart goes out to all the women on this thread that has gone through this. Thankfully God gives us Grace and Mercy to endure! And then we can thrive in his Love.:hug: