Feb 21st 2009, 08:15 AM
My new marriage is falling apart... I need help please
My name is Joshua R and my wife’s name is Melissa H, I say Melissa H because Melissa and I got Married on Jan 17th and when we got home from our honeymoon my mom had informed Melissa and I that my dad had lost our marriage license and that we were legally not married… this news crushed us.
As of Feb 17 our marriage has become void:mad:
i have become soo depressed, now she is talking about moving out because of the fighting that has been going on (i lost my cool) she said she loves me and we will work on it threw marriage counseling but she needs space right now
i lost God in my life guys i failed at becoming the spiritual leader and my anger problems have came back to haunt me please pray we come together and this gets resolved fast... i cant sleep, eat, work I CANT BELIEVE I DID THIS TO THE LOVE OF MY LIFE PLEASE GUYS PRAY FOR US IM SO SAD THE TEARS JUST KEEP ROLLING AND SHE WONT LET ME TALK TO HER. HELP ME GOD HELP ME!!!!
Feb 21st 2009, 08:20 AM
Seriously, this shouldn't have even been an issue. Your vows are not void, just your legal status.
Spend the $50 or whatever it is to get your license re-issued, then go to a local magistrate and spend another $50 or whatever it is, to have a quick service to legalize it.
Of course, because you apparently have some anger issues or what-not, there are other things in play.
Sounds like you need to calm down and ease off for a couple of days. Anger and over-emotionalness is what is causing your actual problem, so maybe dropping that is in order?
Feb 21st 2009, 10:08 PM
Jonah 4:4 Then said the LORD, Doest thou well to be angry?
Psalm 32:5 I acknowledged my sin unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the LORD; and thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Sometimes you just have to give GOD your burdens, let God handle it for a change, we are incapable of getting ourselves out of a paper bag. Purify yourself by naming your sins to God (or simply saying you've sinned), then pray to God the Father through the Son and ask for this to be solved (John 14:14).
Feb 22nd 2009, 02:50 AM
I will be praying for you. I hope you are able to be there for your wife, and have the ability to help her through all this, and also that you are able to lean on God. I am praying for you.
Feb 22nd 2009, 04:07 AM
Something else I thought about, but your state should have a record of your marriage license, as in, they should have a copy.
Feb 22nd 2009, 05:19 AM
When my wife and I got married they lost our marriage liscense twice, it was two month before we were legally married. No biggy, its just a piece of paper the real marriage happens with the Lord, the 2 become one flesh when the two have sex.
As for what happened with your anger, fights happen (alot) and it doesnt matter who you are they WILL happen and they WILL get nasty sometimes. The key is to really love your wife: will you stay with her through anything? Are you willing to serve her the rest of your life? Will you serve the Lord overall? Will you put her needs before yours? These are things the 2 of you gotta get sorted out.
In the worlds eyes your allowed to divorce, but from Jesus's eyes the only way this bond will ever be broken is through death. You decide to go with the worldly divorce, and go with another girl thats called adultry. You also dont have to sign the divorce papers.
Also know this she is just as responsible before the Lord as you are, She walked out on you instead of being your wife, and now she is ignoring her "head" (authority).
It took the two of you to do the damage now the two of you are going to have to smother any pride and got to the Lord and make it work.
Love you fellow brother and welcome to the married life.
Feb 23rd 2009, 04:46 AM
) she said she loves me and we will work on it threw marriage counseling but she needs space right now
Chill Out, counseling will help, you are going to get through this, focus on the positive. SHE LOVES YOU and WILL work on it. Do give her some space, take a walk, calm down , meditate on the Lord, picture yourself being kind and gentle, patient and calm. That is the Man you need to be, with the Lords help you can do it.
Feb 23rd 2009, 03:53 PM
We'll be prayin' for ya! You really need to make sure that your relationship with our Father is on tract before you can expect you relationship with anyone else is going to work. I agree ya'll can work it out! :pray::pray::pray:
Mar 31st 2009, 08:55 PM
Lord I lift my friend up to you and I pray you would give him strength and encouragement and the help he desperately needs right now, Father.. that you would lift him out of this pit and save his marriage in Jesus' Name, and thank You Lord. Amen.
Apr 19th 2009, 09:47 PM
With all the stress and changes of getting married its easy to lose perspective and make small problems into major issues. Don't get into knots over a minor legal issue. Your marriage is under God, and you did the right thing to have a ceremony to be accountable to your family and friends. Just arrange to get another license.
My wife and I have been married for just under 2 years, we've never been legally married because we got married overseas and never got a certificate. Its a non-issue.
My prayers with you for the success of your marriage, hope you both just settle down, take a deep breath, and realize this is not the end of your marriage.
Apr 19th 2009, 11:20 PM
Maybe you should tell Dad to face his neglect and pay for another licence for you. You are still legally married, you just don't have the piece of paper saying so. Have you ever driven a car and left your drivers license at home or misplaced it? does that mean you are no longer legally allowed to drive? or would you just go get a copy of your license?
Apr 20th 2009, 07:08 PM
It's been a while Bassfisher... i hope things have smoothed out. How about an update so we know how to be prayin :hug: