ok..well this is going to sound pretty pathetic but, lately ive been feeling very isolated. my girlfriend and i broke up and then ive pretty much lost contact with all my best friends. To make matters worse, meeting new people has always been a challenging task for me. I've praying about this and asking good to send the right woman to me and send christian friends into my life. Basically what im saying is that its tough dealing with a break up and feeling like your friends arent there. Sorry for the sob story lol what do you guys think i need to do about this?

I understand how you feel. It's been hard for me to make new friends, as most of the people I know are getting to the point of getting married. I've had quite a few really nasty break-ups. My main point is, don't let yourself dwell on "what if" and don't say "what could have I done?" This got me in a nasty cycle of depression and self-doubt. I began to berate myself every chance I got. I know it's really hard and break-ups are upsetting. The main thing right now is to find a hobby or something to immerse yourself in. Do you have family to support you? I find it can be best to just hang out with family for a while and be kind to yourself.

I'm twenty-three and have prayed God will send me the right man in marriage someday. I also look at the break-ups and try to see them as learning experiences.:hug:

Nick, I am very sorry you're going through this. I know it's rough.

Right now, I honestly think you need to lean on God and spend some time with Him... just by yourself. I know that's not what you want to hear, but before another woman does come into your life, you need to be at peace with yourself and most importantly, with God. Just lean on Him, brother. :hug: Keep in His word, walk with Him.... and yes, absolutely keep on praying for Him to send Godly people into your life as friends. We ALL need that!

I will be praying for you, too.

And in the meantime... sometimes, the easiest way to make a friend really is to just be one. In what ways are you involved in your community and church? There are always extra things to do in that area of your life, with other people your own age.

:) God bless.

You guys are absolutely right! I am involved in some extracurricular activities and i do spend a lot of time with family. Its just after the break up, i dealt with it in anger and just sorta secluded myself, which is something i shouldnt have done. To coffeecat's response, your right! That may not be what i wanna hear but its what i NEED to hear and i thank you for saying that.

The Lord be with you to help you and encourage you and give you good friends to help you. :)

ok..well this is going to sound pretty pathetic but, lately ive been feeling very isolated. my girlfriend and i broke up and then ive pretty much lost contact with all my best friends. To make matters worse, meeting new people has always been a challenging task for me. I've praying about this and asking good to send the right woman to me and send christian friends into my life. Basically what im saying is that its tough dealing with a break up and feeling like your friends arent there. Sorry for the sob story lol what do you guys think i need to do about this?
Hi Nick, your situation is not pathetic at all, many of us have been through it at some point in our life, and I'm glad that you are opening up about it, which isn't always an easy thing to do. ;) So, kudos to you! :hug: When you go through a break up, sometimes you realize just how much more time you have on your hands, time that was usually spent with the ex. And yes, unfortunately, more time that can be spent dwelling on the past, should we choose to take that route. Getting out there and getting involved with fellow brothers and sisters in Christ is excellent advise, as well as keeping yourself busy in general. But in the midst of all that activity, remember to seek God first, because we can easily get lost in our own agenda of things. I remember back when I was keepin myself busy inorder to keep my mind off things, and as I was driving to meet up with friends, this song came on the radio - By Your Side by Tenth Avenue North. Some of the lyrics just really hit me, and I realized that I was so focused on keepin myself busy, that I had unintentionally become too busy for God. I cancelled my evening out and turned around to head home. I spent some much needed time alone with God instead, and felt tremendously fed and blessed. God Bless! :pp

Why are you striving these days
Why are you trying to earn grace
Why are you crying
Let me lift up your face
Just don't turn away

Why are you looking for love
Why are you still searching as if I'm not enough
To where will you go child
Tell me where will you run
To where will you run

And I'll be by your side
Wherever you fall
In the dead of night
Whenever you call
And please don't fight
These hands that are holding you
My hands are holding you

Look at these hands and my side
They swallowed the grave on that night
When I drank the world's sin
So I could carry you in
And give you life
I want to give you life

(Chorus 2x)

Cause I, I love you
I want you to know
That I, I love you
I'll never let you go

JesusmySavior, thanks for the encouragement. And Sedux thanks for the story. I really needed that. I'm going to listen to that song! And you're right. I have been hearing that alot, seeking time with God alone. I cant let my this affect my future, otherwise ill be stuck here. I cant lie about it, this situation hurts alot. But i have been talking to God and I learned to trust him and ONLY him. I also learned that this is time to let him make me into the man he wants me to be.

Hey nick.
sorry but this is not what you want to here. but i believe God is in control. when you notice that people around you have left and that you are all alone. why was your first reaction to look for more friends? i know the friends you are looking for are christian friends. but i believe God may be asking you to find him. and to have a period of quietness with him.

you can go to a garden or anywhere where you can find peace. just sit down and talk to God. by talking it can mean praying or anyway that you feel that you are talking to God."But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well." Matthew 6:33.

if you find it difficult, you can look for a spiritually strong person in your church and confine your problem to him/her. and ofcourse praying helps

ok..well this is going to sound pretty pathetic but, lately ive been feeling very isolated. my girlfriend and i broke up and then ive pretty much lost contact with all my best friends. To make matters worse, meeting new people has always been a challenging task for me. I've praying about this and asking good to send the right woman to me and send christian friends into my life. Basically what im saying is that its tough dealing with a break up and feeling like your friends arent there. Sorry for the sob story lol what do you guys think i need to do about this?

Get active!!! lol you gotta occupy your time and try and keep ya mind off it and pray that God mends your heart.This is just an f.y.i and opinion im not sting that you do this at all but my last two relationships that i thought would've lasted for a while all ended tragically.The Lord reminded me that they ended because i put those ppl before him. he reminded me that he was jealous and that he will not have anything or anyone else before him.So now im reali careful not to make the same mistake.Make sure you get before God and ask him why he allowed the break up you'll be amazed at what he tells you.I myself have become very hesitant to get back into relationships because of the stress and drama they cause...Peace and Faith!:)

Nick J what God has for u is more than awesome and enough :pp
I will hold u in :pray: Nick

ok..well this is going to sound pretty pathetic but, lately ive been feeling very isolated. my girlfriend and i broke up and then ive pretty much lost contact with all my best friends. To make matters worse, meeting new people has always been a challenging task for me. I've praying about this and asking good to send the right woman to me and send christian friends into my life. Basically what im saying is that its tough dealing with a break up and feeling like your friends arent there. Sorry for the sob story lol what do you guys think i need to do about this?

hey nick
I can undersand the pain you must of felt when you broke up. my ex dump me in july , and I never felt so much pain before , anyway , I undesand how you must feel , if you need some give me a PM and know your in my prays ;)
and remember you will all way have jesus to care for you :hug: