My daughter is 11. She's a good kid; well behaved, A-B student. Great sense of humor. I'm very blessed. However, I'm concerned in that she holds grudges and won't seem to let things go. At times, she will tell some story about a wrong done to her days, months or even years ago with the same hurt/anger as when it happened. I've talked to her about this; we've looked at scripture together and I've prayed for her and with her. Not sure what else to do or say that will move her to understand the need to let go. Any suggestions?

No suggestions but will be praying. Learning how to forgive and let go may be something she has to learn how to do on her own. I hope not but I will be praying.

I think that the lessons of forgiveness are best learned by the example of Jesus Christ. If your daughter has accepted Jesus as her Saviour, then all you need do is point to Him and His example. If she has yet to take that step of faith, then trust God that He is leading her to the cross and she will be laying down that tendency by His leading.

Keep an eye on it, however. My own sweet daughter who is now just nearly 29, was delivered of 4 demons, one of which gave his name as "Rejection" and admitted that he was with her since the age of 10. It was at 10 years of age that she was hurt by friends. We taught her about forgiveness and letting go, and she had acepted Jesus as Saviour at age 7. Consider the confusion I had over the fact that this saved little girl had received serious oppressing spirits at such a tender age!

Sometimes the watchful eyes of a Christian parent and the guidance of a Godly mother and father will not serve to prevent these errant things from happening. It is by their own choices that these infections occur. In our case, I believe that we weren't faithful in prayer enough over our children, and we didn't understand our own spiritual authority enough.

So, pray, pray, pray and stand guard over them before the Lord! Anoint your home in order that a spiritual stronghold will not be the thing you are battling, but rather only a manifestation of an immature emotional state in one area.

I will pray for you and your daughter!

My daughter is 11. She's a good kid; well behaved, A-B student. Great sense of humor. I'm very blessed. However, I'm concerned in that she holds grudges and won't seem to let things go. At times, she will tell some story about a wrong done to her days, months or even years ago with the same hurt/anger as when it happened. I've talked to her about this; we've looked at scripture together and I've prayed for her and with her. Not sure what else to do or say that will move her to understand the need to let go. Any suggestions?


We are to forgive the person who has repented. We are to not sin in our anger. Are there some sins that are so bad that the sin should have anger/action to fight against. Should we be angry at abortion? Should we be angry at child abuse? Should we forgive the person who hits us when they see us? We need to forgive the sinner if they ask for repentence, but forgiving does not mean condoning the action.

As a young man a group of boys cornered me in a small wooded area. One of the older boys stood over me on a fallen tree. He urinated on me and my favorite new leather jacket. I have not thought about this for years (in fact I cannot tell you the last time I thought about it). I can tell you that sitting here I have no anger towards these boys. And that even without them repenting (to my knowledge) I have no anger towards them and can honestly pray that they receive blessings today (wherever they are). I still have a hot button for the action of bullies ganging up on people. Is it the result of my experience, I do not know.

On the other hand she is only 11 and all of us have many lessons as we walk on our journey to Jesus Christ. If she truly seeks Jesus, she will learn about forgiveness.

God bless you and yours.

Moxie, when my daughter was young, she had a problem with lying. It was so frustrating because she didn't need to lie, she just did.
Finally one day when she was old enough, I sat her down and asked her if she realized that this was a serious issue. She said yes! I wasn't expecting that...so we prayed. Not long after, I noticed she wasn't doing it anymore.

My only advice to you is to get on your knees and pray for your precious one.
I always tell people that I raised my kids on my knees!
I will pray as well.:hug:

Moxie,
... Please do ot find an indictment(sp?) in what I'm about to publish for that is not intended at all.
... Morals of this type are easier caught than taught. What do I mean? Look at the teachers, the students and everyone else around your daughter. If she goes to public school she is surrounded by students and teachers that are all telling lies and holding grudges for their own purposes. If she views the television or movies she sees people lying and seeking after revenge for an assortment of reasons.
... While I am pro-home school, I am not pro-isolation, it would be rude and counter productive to isolate our children from the world they are to influence when they are grown. You, your husband and her grandparents have a life style to always exhibit for your young lady. I would say that you need to put special emphasis on telling the truth, and going the extra step i forgiving, even when it hurts.

Thank you all for the prayers and suggestions, you've given me some extra stuff to think about and take to the Lord. :hug: