Hello everyone. I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the correct thread, but right now I'm hurting so much and I don't know what to do.

To give you guys some background, I met this girl (23 and I'm 22) about 2 months ago and to say we hit it off is and understatement. I loved being with her and spending time with her. We went on several dates and had a great time with each and everyone of them. We both met our parents and went great each time. We both live with our parents so we would stay at each others house for the weekend because we live 2 hours apart and that didn't bother anyone. We both thought that we were falling in love with one another, and we decided to take a mini-vacation to Dallas to meet her Best-Friend. To say this weekend went horrible was an understatement. I tried so hard to impress her best-friend, that in the act of doing so, made me become someone I've never seen before, someone who became jealous, anti-social, just overall not who I am. I made the situation more awkward because during the weekend she told me she was having doubts if she really was falling for me and if she really did like me as much as she told herself she was, and I took that as she was breaking up with me and it just turned into a train-wreck the rest of the weekend. I tried to have fun and show her I'm who she wants to be with, but instead I was caught up in trying too hard to impress her friends and worried that she might leave me. Right now, were on a "no-talking" break for a couple weeks, because she is freaked out at just everything she saw this weekend, and to be honest I was freaked out as well. I'm just afraid to lose her because she honestly means so much to me and I know somewhere in her heart she has those feelings for me, that those feelings are just clouded by frustration and scared by everything, and I just don't know what to do or say. I'm so lost. I honestly can say I might love this girl. She means so much to me. I don't want to lose her, and I have hope and faith that somehow, God is doing this to bring her and I closer together, and I pray that God is showing her during this break how much she misses me and that her feelings of falling for me and liking me alot were true. I just hate not being able to talk to her, not being able to be with her and holding her. I'm just afraid and I don't know what to do. Please Help? :-/

Where to begin?

Why in the world, if things were going so well with your girlfriend, did you feel it was necessary to become someone else to impress her friends?

Not following the logic here.

I try so hard to impress people because she meant so much to me, that sometimes when I try to hard I get quiet for a second but then I'm able to snap out of it because I realize to myself that they'll like me for who I am, and this weekend I just couldn't snap out of it because I tried so hard and that's not who I am, a jealous anti-social person, and she knows that. I'm just afraid and don't want things to be like this. I miss everything about her and love everything about her. I just don't know how to show her to give me a chance and those feeling she thinks she has toward me are true. Ive been praying every night that the Lord help me and somehow bring her back to me and have those feelings click in her like she thinks she has. :-/ I'm just so lost. :(

I wish I knew how to help you and say what would give you an answer.. but, I'll leave that up to Jesus.

My advice:
Figure out why you felt that you had to "impress" her. If you start doing that now... do you think you'll have to do that for the rest of your life while spending time with her? I understand that this relationship is "new" and (from what I've seen at least) no one is themselves when they first enter in a relationship. We all try to be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend and in the end, the truth comes out. I would just be still.. and wait on the Lord. (One of the hardest things to do in my own opinion, but the result is much better than if we act ourselves) And learn to be who God made you. Not who your girlfriend wants you to be or who you think she wants you to be. Hey, if your not anti social, then your not anti social. But if you are, then you are. Trying to change yourself, you start to loose all the integrity that you have... and that is no good.

Relationships are tough... but, I have to admit, they do teach you things. Learn from this, and change it. Pray about it. Turn to the only one who doesn't change Himself to be "cool" or "impressive". He is just Jesus. The same.. Always, forever, yesterday, and tomorrow.

I totally echo everything lovex has said -- seek the Lord.

Aside from that, also something a little more practical: Have you tried to explain to her that you were only trying to impress her friends? What I would advise is respect her wishes for a 2-week break, then at the end, just go to her and lay it all out. Also be sure to tell her how much you missed her, and tell her what you learned during that 2-week break. Be honest and forthcoming. Try not to let your emotions, or your missing her, cloud your reason. If she truly loves you, too, she will also miss you, and will be more than willing to get back together with you when that time comes.

For now, take it slow. I am not trying to talk like your mom or something, but you 2 are still very, very young, and I know that you want to try and rush things, but remember, the best relationships are those that sre fostered slowly, and based on trust and mutual respect. Trust her that she will do the right thing, and respect her enough to give her her space. She will see you as a mature individual, and that will be very attractive to her.

It sounds like you were just acting on impulse before. Learn from this, and seek the Lord's guidance.

Thanks for the advice. I just don't know how to pray for like, I guess, what I hope and felt god was doing between us, having us fall in love you know??? I'm just at a loss for words which is very rare to say the least.

Well start there... pray for what you hope, tell God your desires but ultimately you want to do everything that will glorify Him. If the desires of your heart are not align with His will, I'm sure you'll be able to tell. So for one, you can start praying that the desires of your heart ARE align with His will and no matter what you get out of this situation, you'll know that His will was done, regardless if you get the girl

This has been moved to our Counseling area since that is what the OP seems to be seeking.

Carry on. :)

I just want to know she's ok you know?? Like there has been all this bad weather and I hope she is doing fine in it but I just want to konw she's ok with all the bad weather, but I don't want to interrupt her break you know?

The best thing for you to do is to Get an even closer relationship with God, and pray for her understanding. The key to her heart is Gods heart. Remember, That's God's daughter, if you want her you gotta have God in you first, and she needs to see that. So if something goes wrong just entrust God to take care of her.

Just my 2 Cents. >.^

God Bless ,
Gavin