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    Beautiful Woman

    Everyone likes beautiful things and beautiful people. We as human beings enjoy things that are pleasing to the eye. Van Gogh’s Starry Night and Da Vinci’s Pieta are two works of beauty that come to my mind. Not only do we enjoy taking in great beauty with our senses, but most of us also do things to try to appear pleasing to the eyes of others. It’s almost instinctive. But how important is this in determining the worth of a human being – particularly the worth of a woman?

    The Miss America Pageant was recently held. My friends and I used to watch it every year as children and teenagers. Then for weeks afterward, we would have our own Miss America pageants. We would make tiaras out of tinfoil and use our grandmothers’ quilts as regal robes. It was great fun!

    But as our generation has aged, we have noticed a problem. Beauty pageants, from the ones for pre-school girls to the ones for young adult women, focus on a sexualized construct of femininity. And with all of the plastic surgeries and severe age limits for the adult women and the temporary dentures and wigs made for the pre-schoolers, these beauty pageants also promote a hypocritical opportunism.

    Now don’t get me wrong. I am not a prude by any means. My mother was a beautician and I grew up, almost literally, in a beauty shop. I love my make-up, hair spray, new clothes, and especially new jewelry. And, like most women, I enjoy attention from a man. But in spite of that, there is something in our society today that almost demands an immodest behavior and dress from women and it bothers me – especially as a Christian woman.

    These televised pageants and other media presentations often place a narrow view as to what constitutes female beauty and places great pressure on many women to conform to that impossible standard. And judging these little girls and young women on the sexualization of their physical bodies causes other, more important attributes, such as intelligence, honor, gentleness, stalwart grace, and strength of spirit to be not associated with femininity and therefore not be attributes to be aspired to.

    Here is an example. Pageant officials always call swimsuit portion of the beauty contest the “physical fitness” portion. There is nothing wrong with encouraging physical fitness and even rewarding it for that matter. Americans today are growing more and more obese by the year. We have no regard for our health, only our fleshly desires. There is nothing wrong with recognizing those who maintain good health and allowing them to encourage others.

    However, one does not have to strip a young woman to virtual nakedness and make her march around a stage in high heels and scrutinizing her leg length and breast size to determine if she is physically fit or not. She could wear a modest outfit of jeans and a tee shirt and you could tell the level of her fitness just as easily.

    They claim to reward these girls with scholarship monies for their “physical fitness.” Scholarship monies should come from scholarly attributes such as intellect, goal setting, wisdom, integrity, service to the community, and experience in a given field.

    The Biblical construct for femininity is neither sexualized nor hypocritical. It is gender-based, obviously. Being feminine is for women. And while there are many instances in the Bible of people wrongly prioritizing the outward fleeting beauty of women as total beauty, the Bible itself speaks to a different source of a woman’s feminine nature and what makes her beautiful.

    Proverbs 31:30 - “Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but the woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” (Our most important feminine attribute is our fear of the LORD)

    Genesis 1:27 - “God created mankind in His Own image. In His own image he created him – both male and female He created mankind." (As a woman, I am to reflect the image of Almighty and Holy God.)

    Philippians 2:3 - “Don’t do anything through strife with others or glory-seeking vanity, but rather in the mindset of setting others in higher esteem than ourselves.” (As a woman, I shouldn’t set myself above other women because of my looks, intelligence, Christian values, or any other characteristic I choose. Life is not a competition to see who can exalt themselves vainly above others.)

    1 Peter 3:3-4 - “A woman’s adorning of herself shouldn’t be outward. Hairstyles, jewelry, clothes….this doesn’t make the woman. It should be the hidden qualities of the heart – a meek and quiet spirit – which greatly pleases God and He considers to be a high price”(Self-explanatory)

    1 Corinthians 3:16 - “Don’t you know that you are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives in you? If anyone defiles the temple of God, God shall destroy him, for the temple of God holy, and you are that temple.” (As a woman, all of my actions should reflect holiness.)

    Galatians 5:19 - “These are the works of the flesh: immorality, impurity, indecency…..”(When you dress up 5-year-old children in outfits that immoral women wear and call it cute, that is impure and indecent.)

    Proverbs 11:22 - “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful woman who shows no discretion.” (Superficial outward appearances are not what constitute the worth of a woman.)

    Matthew 23:27 - “Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees. You are hypocrites. You look good on the outside, like a whitewashed tombstone, but inside you are impure and unclean like dead bones!” (Jesus said that the superficial was…….superficial.)

    1 Samuel 16:7 - “Don’t be impressed with Saul’s handsome face or tall stature, because I have rejected him. You don’t look at people the way that I do. Mankind looks at the outward appearance, but God looks into the heart.”(Self-explanatory)

    There were quite a few beauty contests in the Bible. And none of them were stemming from anything good or Godly - only humanism.

    Queen Esther was made to undergo a year’s worth of superficial beauty treatments and to physically compete for King Xerxe’s attention. It's reminds one of The Bachelor today, no? Yet what is she to be remembered for? She rescued her people. I believe her famous line is, “Pray for me…..and if I perish, I perish.”

    When King David was dying, he was having chills. Did they put more blankets on him? No. They thought about sharing body heat. Well, that was fine. He had lots of wives that he could have shared body heat with. But they didn’t do that. That had a beauty contest. They scoured the countryside for the most beautiful, young, virgin that they could find. By the time that they put her in the bed with him, he was not responsive.

    In fact, in the Old Testament, a woman’s three best qualities were being beautiful, young, and being a virgin. When Job gets his family restored, it said that he had three daughters and there were no women in the land who were as beautiful as they were.

    It’s funny that in the New Testament, the description of women and wives are very different. It seems that Godly character and not the ability to win a beauty contest is what God is interested in for women.

    Luke 1:28 – The angel shared with Mary that she had found favor with God. Just as many women had found favor with mortal men for their physical attributes, Mary had found the ultimate favor - favor with God for something that could best be described as great and humble faith in Him and her belief in His Trustworthiness.

    Matthew 27:18 – Jesus describes the woman who anoints Him with oil as having beautiful actions. “Why are you bothering this woman? She has done a beautiful thing to me.” Just like Job’s daughters, this woman was given a permanent place in history, but for a different reason. Jesus said wherever the gospel would be preached, people would hear about her beautiful actions.

    It is a woman’s lot in this life to adorn herself and take care of herself and to make herself as attractive as possible to find favor with men. There is no denying that. Be that good, bad, or whatever your opinion of it, it is a reality. And we should take care of our bodies and ourselves and we should want to please our spouses. However, the manner in which our young girls and young women are being taught by the world to dress and behave is frightening and the favor that they are finding with men is not a respectful favor.

    I submit that it is of a greater importance as a woman to find favor with God and to be so awesomely blessed as to have Jesus Christ, Himself, say of her, “…she has done a beautiful thing to me." May we as women, as we strive for all kinds of beauty, strive for the Biblical beauty - fear of the Lord and obedience - that will win the favor of Jesus Christ.

    The men in our lives who truly love us will always find us beautiful - no matter what. We always find them handsome, do we not?

    Therefore, may we live, dress, speak, and serve others so that God, Himself, deems us beautiful indeed.
    Comments 12 Comments
    1. miepie's Avatar
      miepie -
      I agree! Most young girls that hang around where I live are barely dressed in the summertime..... as soon as the first ray of sunshine appears in spring, the clothes disappear slowly too...... I hate seeing that......
      Thanks for this great article!

      Love you lots,
      Mieke
    1. th1bill's Avatar
      th1bill -
      [COLOR="#8b0000"]I thank you for this article you have written. I am an old fuddy-duddy that went after women for all the wrong reasons before I was called by our LORD. The funny thing is that when I quit looking the LORD sent a long legged, Blond haired woman to grow old with that is one year older than myself. Now, both of us are old and I am bald and she is gray. The nice thing is that she still loves just me and I'm nuts about her. The LORD removed the possibility of physical encounters from both of us at about the same time and the love that we share for each other has grown beyond measure.

      This morning I saw Wynonna Judd, whom I have always considered a beautiful woman and she has lost fifty pounds and has become a beauty queen knock out. My wife used to wear a dress with a bussel that went down to her ankles and was the sexiest thing I ever saw on any woman. If you don't understand what I'm saying just remember Miss Kitty on Gun Smoke. Wynonna had a dress that came down to her ankles and she was just beautiful this morning as she performed in Florida.

      Like yourself I would give anything if young ladies would value themselves the way my wife, my daughter and my granddaughter do. My granddaughter is 18 in four months, chooses her own clothing and dresses modestly because she wears a wedding ring of commitment to Her LORD, Jesus, the Christ. She is a virgin and claims she will never get pregnant because of what it will do to her body. I'll bet that before she gets very far out of college that some young fellow will be sent by the LORD that will change that though.

      Modesty is such a valuable quality in both sexes and it just kills me to see it lost in this generation. Thank-you once morefor the post.[COLOR]
    1. Beckrl's Avatar
      Beckrl -
      I married that hot girl, my wife.

      Well let me explain, One reason I found my girl friend [wife to be] to be sexy was not by what she ware, or how she looked [ although she is hot]but how she carried herself. I called her a "Lady" even when she were only 19 years old.
      That's what really caught my attention.

      She carriers herself at a very high degree, She honors herself unto God. Now that is a beautiful woman!

      And that where some 23 years away.
    1. threebigrocks's Avatar
      threebigrocks -
      I see many of the girls these days and how they dress, as they get on and off the school bus. Most of them are middle school aged kids, 11 - 14 or so. Who told them that to dress the way some of them do is attractive? The world did. What they see, what they hear around them. They don't see a beauty that is whole - beyond the adornment, perfumes and braided hair.

      There is character of woman, and without that even the men they try to attract will tire of even a drop dead gorgeous woman who puts her body before all else over time. The wholeness of a woman, any person, includes not only body but mind and soul.
    1. IMINXTC's Avatar
      IMINXTC -
      What I appreciate about this type of forum: You see all these beautiful gals, knowing they are beautiful, without actually seeing them.

      Great article, I hope many get the chance to read it.
    1. lovex's Avatar
      lovex -
      This was beautiful....not to mention very true.
    1. byfaith1's Avatar
      byfaith1 -
      Thank you for this encouraging word. Biblical beauty. After being bombarded daily that a woman must be a certain age, a certain weight and no crows feet or any gray hair, tight abs and buns to be acceptable, it's refreshing to come here be encouraged to walk in His truth as to who you are as a woman.
    1. beachbum53's Avatar
      beachbum53 -
      Thanks Jayne, good read. The beauty pageants also bring to mind the 'preschool pageants' or whatever they are called. There is one on TV, I don't know the name, and never had the desire to watch. I never did care for these children pageants. Recently I saw a 'celebrities' (( don't even like the name celebrity)) daughter when glancing through a magazine when I was getting my hair cut. I believe she was five and had on high heels. Not the long spiky ones but heels. and clothes way too 'old' for her. Of course some designer had made the dress or suit, can't remember which.

      Years ago I could look in the junior department for a shirt or sweater, they fit me better, but for a long time that has been out of the question. The clothes they are selling I have one 'step granddaughter' who is 17 and is very beautiful. Even when she was around 10 or 12 she said 'yuk' to the fads and still is very modest; praise God, (who she has always loved) She is another subject on that one!
      Well I could go on about 'beauty' today but we all know about that subject.

      Find it interesting Jayne about the verses from the OT and the NT. Thanks

      BTW I am letting my hair go gray, few more haircuts and my color should be out. I can't say it's because of any 'biblical thing' but just have grown weary of fighting the aging process. I was showing my son the back which is already out and was saying it didn't look too bad to me. I wish I could remember what he said exactly, something like What God has made is beautiful...
    1. Equipped_4_Love's Avatar
      Equipped_4_Love -
      There are plenty of days when I feel far from beautiful. I know I am growing older, and losing my physical appeal, but to God, I will always be beautiful
    1. Lefty's Avatar
      Lefty -
      Absolutely. The most beautiful as well as the most severely disfigured person on Earth can both say; "I'm beautiful because God made me exactly as he intended", and that's the key to accepting ourselves and all those around us equally.
    1. JLM Lives's Avatar
      JLM Lives -
      You are correct. respect and trust of Jesus Christ and expressing the atributes of the HOLY SPIRIT in our lives , enhance beauty is such a supernatural way. It's awesome to witness the transformation of men and women as they progress in the WAY. Jesus is awesome.
    1. Diggindeeper's Avatar
      Diggindeeper -
      Quote Originally Posted by JLM Lives View Post
      You are correct. respect and trust of Jesus Christ and expressing the atributes of the HOLY SPIRIT in our lives , enhance beauty is such a supernatural way. It's awesome to witness the transformation of men and women as they progress in the WAY. Jesus is awesome.
      You are correct, JLM. isaiah 3:9 tells us that our countenance can witness against us! And it truly does. But, oh my, I have actually witnessed the visible change that comes over a person once they meet the Lord! And in my years here in this life, I have seen this happen time and again. People whose actual appearance CHANGED, and in place of the evil or despair or sadness or hopelessness became radiant, glowing, looked happy and not fearful! People not only ACT different once they meet the Master, but they indeed LOOK different.

      It truly is awesome to see this happen.
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