http://bibleforums.org/ Submit your Counseling requests here. en Wed, 22 May 2013 12:08:15 GMT vBulletin 60 http://bibleforums.org/images/misc/rss.png http://bibleforums.org/ http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247347-When-is-enough-ENOUGH?goto=newpost Fri, 17 May 2013 17:59:39 GMT I've been visiting this board for many years (since 2006). The reason I was searching for help was because of my desperate situation with my husband. (We were never "officially" married, but are considered to be in a "common law" marriage. Our state recognizes it and we agree that we are married to each other and have confessed to God that we are.) At the time, he was not a believer, but he is now. His poor decisions have affected me and my family (three children) so much. I am weary. I am tired. I don't know how much longer i can keep going with all the drama that is assocated with his mentality and decisions. I've tried to be a witness to him and am very thankful that he is now a believer, but I don't know how much longer I can wait for him to mature to the point where I feel we will be truly compatable.

I've been waiting for almost 17 years.

I've mentioned some of the issues going on in our lives on the prayer request board.

I would appreciate any advice you may have to offer.

Thank you very much. ]]> Counseling Requests zsl http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247347-When-is-enough-ENOUGH http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247328-Advise?goto=newpost Thu, 16 May 2013 15:10:03 GMT I can usually work through these problems through prayer and waiting on God and I know He is going to work this out but I need some advise in the meantime. I have attended the same church for the past 20 years, with the exception of about... I can usually work through these problems through prayer and waiting on God and I know He is going to work this out but I need some advise in the meantime.

I have attended the same church for the past 20 years, with the exception of about three years (5 years ago) when I helped a friend at his church as worship leader. I have been and still am very involved. About 6 months ago my wife of 25 years and my absolute best friend decided that she no longer wants to attend. She has started going back to the church where I led worship. This has put me in a position of trying to go to two different churches. I told my wife that I would tell our pastor and choir director (pastor's wife) that I was going to leave to support her decision. My wife said that she doesn't want to be the one blamed for me leaving, so if I give them that reason she will be angry with me. She is very adamant that I not say anything about her, but she wants me to leave. I can't just walk away because I play guitar and lead worship. I feel it would be irresponsible to leave without saying anything. I have absolutely no reason to leave that does not involve my wife. To give any other reason to leave would be a lie. This is beginning to cause much tension in my home.

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Please Advise! ]]> Counseling Requests nimblewillsgrace http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247328-Advise http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247309-Can-t-get-this-girl-out-of-my-mind?goto=newpost Wed, 15 May 2013 15:56:59 GMT There is this girl in a painting class I took who is, hands down, the most beautiful female I have ever laid my eyes on. She's sweet and kind, but I can tell she wouldn't be the right kind of person for me. Even knowing this, I still can't stop thinking about her. It's distracting me from my time spent with God and really slows me down in anything I do. I won't say something is wrong with me for being attracted to a woman, but this seems to be really getting out of hand. Advice? ]]> Counseling Requests Biskits http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247309-Can-t-get-this-girl-out-of-my-mind http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247129-Should-I-be-honest-and-up-front-with-my-boss-or-let-God-be-God?goto=newpost Mon, 06 May 2013 06:07:02 GMT <sub>So here's the situation. I am a 1st grade teacher at a private Christian school. My friend is a 1st grade teacher at a public school. She recently found out that she won't be renewed for next school year. Meanwhile, my 1st grade partner is retiring. Which means there is an open 1st grade position at my school.

So far, I've recommended my friend to my boss... BUT...

I don't know if she is the right fit. Why? Simply because she's not Christian. What would you do if you were me? How does she feel about it? She's excited at the prospect of working with me, because we know we would be great grade level partners. She's excited about the prospect of having a full time job. She did tell me she is not gung ho about Jesus, but she is gung ho about teaching.

So far, I've recommended her to my boss. I figure I will let her application and interview speak for itself, rather than putting pre-thoughts into my boss' head.

Here are some pros and cons

Pros:

+ She's my friend. I'd like to see her working next year, and I can help her by giving her my stamp of approval
+ She's a great teacher
+ I know for a fact that she and I would be great grade level partners. We get along very well. I know we would be good at sharing ideas and collaborating

Cons:

- She may not be the right/best fit for my school. Mainly and only because it's a Christian school, and she is currently a non-practicing Roman Catholic. When I asked her about this, she said she wouldn't lie about her beliefs. She's not gung-ho about Jesus, but she is gung-ho about teaching. She loves the idea of working with me, and is more than OK working at my school, even if she has to teach a Bible curriculum. I think it's because of A. she would have a full time job and B. she knows we would have a blast working together

Do you think she should apply, or do you think she shouldn't and leave the position open for a "believer" ?

Should I tell my boss ahead of time that she's not a gung-ho Christian? So far, I have not. I feel a bit mixed about this. On one hand, I don't want to put pre-determined thoughts into my boss' head about my friend's ability. On the other, maybe my boss should know in advance.

Right now, I'm letting it be and letting it play out. I suppose the application and interview will let them know more about her. She won't lie. May the best person win.

Do you think I'm going about this right? Or should I tell my boss about my friend's beliefs or lack thereof?

Another way I look at it is:

If it were not for me, would she work at my school at all? No way.

But since it might be "because of me," is this God's way to bring her right where He wants her?

I feel like God's will will be done, and He'll place whoever He wants as my partner. However, I do feel slightly guilty not having yet mentioned to my boss that oh, by the way, she's not exactly an active believer. But I like to believe in time she will become more... especially if she works here. But, there's no guarantee of that, and the two could end up being a bad "marriage." But maybe I'm overthinking it. Maybe all I should do is recommend her, let her decide, and then let my staff decide. After all, wouldn't that be "letting God be God" ?

Any thoughts are appreciated. Thanks.</sub>
]]> Counseling Requests SteveL http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247129-Should-I-be-honest-and-up-front-with-my-boss-or-let-God-be-God http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247046-Requesting-prayers-during-a-difficult-time?goto=newpost Fri, 03 May 2013 04:09:57 GMT I am a Christian and look to God every day for strength and guidance and know without Him, I am nothing. Four years ago my relationship of 25 years ended, I lost my business and my home all in the same month, and I am still mentally dealing with... I am a Christian and look to God every day for strength and guidance and know without Him, I am nothing.

Four years ago my relationship of 25 years ended, I lost my business and my home all in the same month, and I am still mentally dealing with these things. I have come a long way but have a long way to go. God has seen me through many things in those 4 years and I have come up from where I was and give Thanks to God almost every day for all He has done. I listen to Joyce Meyers often online and she has given me straightforward advice and inspiration.

In short, I am asking people out there to include me and others like me, in their prayers, who are going through the same things. ]]> Counseling Requests Dave http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/247046-Requesting-prayers-during-a-difficult-time http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/246997-What-qualifies-as-blasphemy?goto=newpost Tue, 30 Apr 2013 14:24:57 GMT The scripture essentially says that if you commit blasphemy against Christ then you are forgiven. It goes on to say that if you commit it against The Holy Spirit, then you shall not be forgiven. But what actually qualifies as blasphemy? I remember a... The scripture essentially says that if you commit blasphemy against Christ then you are forgiven. It goes on to say that if you commit it against The Holy Spirit, then you shall not be forgiven. But what actually qualifies as blasphemy? I remember a while back, before i was saved, I was watching an episode of Family Guy. In the show, God is a character - depicted as an old man in a white robe and a long beard who appears every now and then. In one case he was depicted as a drunk and perverted individual. His character had said something that, while it was wrong, made me laugh. There were even times when I would crack a very inappropriate joke about God or Jesus among my non Christian friends around the same time. I knew I shouldn't have and in my heart I knew that it was wrong. However, have I blasphemed against God for that, even though I regretted it? Likewise, what of the writers and creators of shows like Family Guy? If they one day realize that what they have done is wrong, could they be forgiven?

I have also read that blasphemy isn't just speaking against the Lord, that it is the entire, 100%, complete rejection of him from your life. If this is the case then why in the world would Jesus say "If you completely reject me then you will be forgiven, but not if you reject God directly" when he has already said "No one can come to the father except through me"? Some things I've read online simply state that "if you feel worried that you have committed blasphemy, then you have not and there is no reason to worry." Exactly how true is this? I feel bad for coming to an online forum to ask this sort of advice, but I cannot seem to find anywhere in the scriptures that further explains blasphemy beyond "if you speak against Jesus you are fine. If you speak against The Holy Spirit, then you're not." Please help. I don't need something that's just gonna make me feel better. I need the truth. :/ ]]> Counseling Requests Biskits http://bibleforums.org/showthread.php/246997-What-qualifies-as-blasphemy