Michelle Lee
Aug 30th 2008, 06:33 PM
Hello all, I'm new here. My name is Michelle. Well, let me tell you my story as to why I'm here... And why I need help...
My husband Doug, decided about 3 weeks ago that he no longer wants to be married. He wrote it in an email from work and had to go away on a military job thing for the weekend. So, we're still in the same home together since then and he's firmly standing his ground of not wanting to be married to me anymore. We have only been marriend for a year and a half. Our communicatins were really off the entire time. We even tried councelling. Nothing seem to help. But, I will also take part of the blame as there were many things that I could have done differently and to help make things better between us and I just didn't bother. Many things! So, he came to the point where he suffered in silence wondering how can he get out of this marriage without breaking my heart? Obviously, there was no way around it. And this is why he chose to write it in a letter. That way he didn't have to deal with the emotional part of things. Okay so, since this letter, he's been staying out, or not coming home and now plans to go away for the weekend. Last Sunday, he left his email account open. I KNOW it was wrong and I've asked for forgiveness, but I was going out of my mind with what he was really up to. Sad to say, I found a love letter from a woman he met over the internet. And just so happen, he's going to that particular state she lives in this weekend. I confronted him about my findings and he denies that he ever really tried to persue this person. That he is going to visit friends of his out there. That he's innocent. That he's sorry for having done that. He keeps giving me his word that while we are still married on paper and living in the same house, that he would be faithful. I asked him to give our marriage one last chance. You see, he plans on going on a temporary military assignment for 3 weeks in another state Next week. I told him to have his space all this time up until he returns from his assignment and come and re evaluate his feelings for our marriage before saying no. He said, that the chances are that as of now, he is 99% sure that he doesn't want to try anymore. But that he is not closed to the idea and we'll see. He said that he doesn't want to give me false hope and I should move on because, he already has. I'm very confuse and very hurt. I cry EVERY single day. I pray and talk to God for his help and mercy and hope that he will save my marriage. Everyday, when I awake and find that he is still away from me, my hope starts to wither. I don't want to give up hope so I pray, pray, and pray somemore. I miss him sooo much. I want my heart to stop hurting. I ask that you pray for him especially. He needs your help to find his way back into our marriage. I'm lost without my best friend... :help::pray:
My husband Doug, decided about 3 weeks ago that he no longer wants to be married. He wrote it in an email from work and had to go away on a military job thing for the weekend. So, we're still in the same home together since then and he's firmly standing his ground of not wanting to be married to me anymore. We have only been marriend for a year and a half. Our communicatins were really off the entire time. We even tried councelling. Nothing seem to help. But, I will also take part of the blame as there were many things that I could have done differently and to help make things better between us and I just didn't bother. Many things! So, he came to the point where he suffered in silence wondering how can he get out of this marriage without breaking my heart? Obviously, there was no way around it. And this is why he chose to write it in a letter. That way he didn't have to deal with the emotional part of things. Okay so, since this letter, he's been staying out, or not coming home and now plans to go away for the weekend. Last Sunday, he left his email account open. I KNOW it was wrong and I've asked for forgiveness, but I was going out of my mind with what he was really up to. Sad to say, I found a love letter from a woman he met over the internet. And just so happen, he's going to that particular state she lives in this weekend. I confronted him about my findings and he denies that he ever really tried to persue this person. That he is going to visit friends of his out there. That he's innocent. That he's sorry for having done that. He keeps giving me his word that while we are still married on paper and living in the same house, that he would be faithful. I asked him to give our marriage one last chance. You see, he plans on going on a temporary military assignment for 3 weeks in another state Next week. I told him to have his space all this time up until he returns from his assignment and come and re evaluate his feelings for our marriage before saying no. He said, that the chances are that as of now, he is 99% sure that he doesn't want to try anymore. But that he is not closed to the idea and we'll see. He said that he doesn't want to give me false hope and I should move on because, he already has. I'm very confuse and very hurt. I cry EVERY single day. I pray and talk to God for his help and mercy and hope that he will save my marriage. Everyday, when I awake and find that he is still away from me, my hope starts to wither. I don't want to give up hope so I pray, pray, and pray somemore. I miss him sooo much. I want my heart to stop hurting. I ask that you pray for him especially. He needs your help to find his way back into our marriage. I'm lost without my best friend... :help::pray: