Do you suppose...

[Kaninchen]

Do you suppose it is wrong not to marry and have children? I'm not just referring to not wanting them now....I don't want them ever.

Ever since I was five, according to my mom, I've been telling her that I'm never going to get married and I'm never going to have children. When I was little, I of course liked playing with other kids my age, but as an adult and even earlier, as an older teen, I never had much of a soft spot for children. They are okay, but I don't enjoy children and prefer not to get stuck watching them even at family reunions and such. For instance, my cousin Andi who is four adores me, and she's really sweet so I'm happy to sit with her for an hour or so. Then, I'm done. I can't imagine having children. To be honest, I think I'm far too selfish. When I say I've had enough of someone's company, it is very difficult for me to sustain it. I can't imagine having a child who would need access to me on demand. I can't even do that for my best friend, who I love more than the stars and moon! Also, I've never wanted to marry. Most of my friends have talked about idealistic wedding plans since they were really little. I never did. When I was small, I wanted to drive race cars. :lol: I don't even like driving a regular car much now, but I love being single, being able to do world travelling as soon as I have the money, and having a single lifestyle. Occasionally, people presume I don't know myself too well and say someday I'll want marriage and family, but I know they are wrong. I do know myself exceptionally well. But sometimes I wonder, what do others think about this choice? I'd really like to know.

[Bethany67]

No I don't think it's wrong. I knew at a very early age (and announced) that I wasn't going to be a mother and I never was, although I did marry (to a man who understood and accepted my personal convictions on the matter). I'm a part-time stepmother but those early years were so hard; I don't even think I'd do it again if I'd known then what I know now. I love my stepkids; my wedding vows contained a commitment to them as well, and I've learned a lot through it (it does challenge our root of selfishness - it has to by definition), but I'm just not maternal, and I'm not looking forward to the stepgrandmother phase.

If God's given you the gift of singleness, go with that but with the aim of serving Him wholeheartedly and without the natural distractions that a family brings. There is a risk in the single life being a licence to live as we want, and I don't believe that's God's intention for any Christian.

[Jeanne D]

I don't think God expects or calls everyone to be married or to become parents.
Paul clearly states in the Word, that you can better serve the Lord as a single person. So as Bethany stated, serve Him wholeheartedly! God bless.

Jeanne

[flybaby]

I think as long as you feel the Lord leading you not to get married, then you shouldn't.

Also, if you absolutely NEVER want children, I would recommend you not get married because there is a chance for bc, whatever kind you use, to fail. The only way to be 100&% sure you won't have kids is to be abstinent all of the time.

[Yattara]

If this is part of God's plan for you, then I don't think it's wrong. Not all people are called to procreate or marry. And frankly, what other people tell you regarding this, isn't always right. It is true for some people, of course. It's not for us to know His will, after all.

[CoffeeCat]

As others have said, there is NOTHING wrong with staying single. :)

1 Corinthians 7:78 says this: "I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am."

Some of us are given the GIFT of being single. Others are given the gift of marriage. People can serve God in either context, although if they're single, they might have quite a bit more freedom to move about, travel, and minister in ways they couldn't had they married.... and of course, the same goes for married folks... they can do things and minister in ways they maybe couldn't if single. We're all given a great gift, from God, here. If we feel called to be single, or to be married, that's what we should go for.

[karenoka27]

Most of your responses are saying a very important thing. What we do with our life has everything to do with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

OP says,"I don't even like driving a regular car much now, but I love being single, being able to do world travelling as soon as I have the money, and having a single lifestyle."

You need to choose whom you will serve, the world or God. Living single may be what God has called you too, but it would be for His glory and His purpose for your life.
Praying for you.

[Kaninchen]

Most of your responses are saying a very important thing. What we do with our life has everything to do with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.

OP says,"I don't even like driving a regular car much now, but I love being single, being able to do world travelling as soon as I have the money, and having a single lifestyle."

You need to choose whom you will serve, the world or God. Living single may be what God has called you too, but it would be for His glory and His purpose for your life.
Praying for you.

I guess I rarely give much conscious thought to what God wants me to do, especially in situations like this where an instantaneous yes or no choice isn't required. My belief is that if God wants something for my life, I'll be led in that direction whether or not it occures to me to venture in that direction independently. Being single is something for me, it's what I want. But I figure, if that's not God's plan, he'll put the right man in my path and make it happen. Once in a while I pray to ask for guidance in situations like this, like I did the last time I was dating someone, but I don't ever feel a definite answer coming through prayer; it's more like things fall into place. I assume that's God's doing.