HELP with blended family

[SANDIEGOMOM]

I am hoping someone can shed light to my situation. I got married to an amazing man (of GOD!! yea) about 2 years ago - he had been divorced for over 10 years and has a 12 year old boy. We dated long distance so there seemed to be little contact with the ex and nothing but a great relationship with the son. Now, we are in the same city - the ex wife is always in the picture and the son is now entering the 'teen' years. We also now have a small baby together and our lives have changed dramatically. I know of many situations where the ex makes your life miserable by being mean and hateful - mine is the opposite as she wants to ALWAYS be around. She has since married and has 3 kids of her own (they are also Christians) - I am having a hard time not only being a step mom sometimes (I am a lot younger than my husband) but also 'sharing' my husband with schedules and jugging a newborn and a teenagers life! I feel very selfish a lot and I am not sure how to settle into this situation. I try my best to hand it all over to God and find peace but I get so frustrated so easily and take it out on my husband. I hate the fact that he was married before and how we 'share' everything with a smile on our face (but deep down I am not smiling). HELP!

[Sold Out]

I feel very selfish a lot and I am not sure how to settle into this situation. I try my best to hand it all over to God and find peace but I get so frustrated so easily and take it out on my husband. I hate the fact that he was married before and how we 'share' everything with a smile on our face (but deep down I am not smiling). HELP!

Well, from my viewpoint, you have it pretty good considering the situation. I have friends in blended families and the ex is horrible. Be thankful that everyone is getting along. You chose to marry this man knowing he was married and had a child, so there really is no reason to be upset about it anymore. It is what it is. Just rejoice that you have a godly husband and precious baby. The stepson and pleasant ex-wife are a bonus!

Maybe you are having a little post-partum depression? A lot of new mothers experienced that 'overwhelmed' feeling for a while, even in the best of circumstances.

[Cynthia]

I had a similair problem. I was/am jealous of my husband's life before marriage to me. He has three children from a previous marriage and I get so jealous when they talk about their mom like she's a saint in front of me and the kids and Tom talk about people I don't know and about good times I wasn't included in. Also, the kid's mom is a sponsor or leader in everything the kids do I see her all the time! Urg!
But I learned to set a side my own jealousy to focus on what is best for the kids..a strong united family. It takes a lot of hard work and whenever I find myself feeling jealous of bitter I pray to God to help me overcome these feelings and then try to replace these thoughts with more righteous thoughts. It takes time, but with the help of God you to can overcome!

[livingwaters]

:)That is real good advice, Cynthia!!!! God never said life would be easy...Amen....HE just promised HE'd be right there with us...Alleluia.

God bless:)