Friendships

[SeekingHisWill]

Why does it seem girlfriends aren't as into their friendships as we age? Or maybe it's the society as a whole now?

I guess I'm feeling a little discouraged when it comes to having good friendships. I'm 32 years old and I have a few friendships that have been with me for a number of years... 2 childhood friends that are too busy with their family/home life to nurture or give any time or energy to the friendship and another who is my best friend (but only because she's the closest at this time - not necessarily because our friendship is that great) who does make an effort for the friendship even though she has 3 small children, a husband, a home etc. Even still... for someone like me who doesn't have children and who enjoys time away from her significant other... there still doesn't seem to be the quantity or quality amount of time from her.

I tried to cultivate some friendships with a couple girls at church but it just seems (and I'm not angry - just sad) everyone has too much going on in their lives. And then I think if the friendship (with me) were really important people would make time, no? I make time for things that are important to me.

I don't know... just feeling really discouraged in regard to good girlfriends these days!

Anyone share that feeling, feel opposite or have thoughts regarding this subject - please share! :)

[flybaby]

I find that as we get older our ability to invest time in girl friendships diminish. I'm raising three kids and don't have the time to just go out for coffee like I used to. I am able to have people into my home, but with the understanding that I still have three kids to take care of.

You mentioned that you don't have any children, I would imagine that if you had a close friend who also didn't have any children, you might both be able to invest the time into the friendship that it seems you want. I know that my friends without kids really don't understand my time restraints. It's not that I don't want to have close friends, it's just that I can't at this season of my life. It will be much different as my children grow older and are more independent.

I hope this makes sense and that I'm able to give you another perspective on the situation.

[cnw]

I think we just all go through stages. Some years I have incredible friendships....other years I feel lonely. Usually that is when God is telling me I am too far away from him.

[karenoka27]

I think we just all go through stages. Some years I have incredible friendships....other years I feel lonely. Usually that is when God is telling me I am too far away from him.
I agree and have experienced the same thing at times. The friends I have now all have good relationships with the Lord and that is what we share with each other. We encourage, pray and praise together. Then we go back to the life we live.