swearing

[Mama's Boy]

Ok here it goes. I live in nowheresville pop 1500. I became a believer in christ so time ago. I work in the oilpatch and for anyone who does not know it is the Devils playground. Millions are made and lost overnight. The real hard thing for me is to stop swearing when things go bad. Like for instance I can literally watch $200,000 dollars of gas go up the flare stack in 5mins that I am responsiable for. My launguage has gotten extremly better since I made the most important decsion BECOMING A CHRISTIASN however when the crap hits the fan I still find myself swearing and cursing like a sailor. To give you an example everthing in the oilpatch is this way. Nobody asks for a pipe wrench. It is an f'ing pipe wrench. Every facet even idle chit chat at coffee is littered with cursing. There is only one other believer at work and him and I became fast friends but we work in differnt capacities. I rely heavily on him to help me but as i said we do not always work togather. I have a hard time telling my co-workers and lifelong friends of my decsions to accept christ not because I am denying him but more of the fact that I feel like a hypocrite. It was not that long ago that I was partaking in the spoils of the oil money. 120,000 annualy salary at 22 years old. Drugs drinking and allnight parties were common place for me. Now that i have changed (still have a long way to go) I am not about to shoot myself in the foot by having a holier than thou type of attitude and becoming enemy #1 at the work place. I have been blessed in many aspects of my life and I am thankfull for the job and financial security that comes with the title. But i honelsty never noticed the language until I stopped swearing. (trying to). For the most part in day to day dealings I have can honestly say that I am not much of a curser. But when work is going bad and that is prety normal it can be stressfull and I have a hard time keeping my mouth clean.
Before I ask for help I wanted to let you know about the way the i was raised. For starters I grew up with a normal family but church and christ were not part of it at all. My parents who live close by are good people but God and Christ have no room in thier lives. My Mom could make a salior blush with her cursing and my Dad's only ambition is to make another million at anyones expense. We have a profitable multimillion dollar business that trumps all other concerns. Until I was 19 years old and playing Junior hockey (Canada EH) I had nevr heard of salvation or grace or anything. It was all money money and more money and then Hockey hockey hockey. I talked to my pastor and he said to silmply stop swearing. So I asked him to stop being a socialist (we are close friends I happen to know his political stripes) The point I am trying to make is how do you change somthing that is ingrained since you could ever remember. :B If anyone has a similar experiance or advise I would love to hear from them

Thanks and Peace

Mama's Boy

[Tanya~]

Hi Mama's boy!

You start right where you're starting, and that is with the conviction that you need to stop. So you're on the right track! Keep praying about it, and learn to recognize when you're swearing. You can make an agreement with someone that you'll give them $5 every time you swear. Someone who can hold you accountable, like your Christian friend. When it gets too expensive maybe you'll see the benefit of choosing other ways to express yourself!

[Mama's Boy]

Thanks for the advice. I will give it a go. I am thinking about $5 towards my kids with each swear. I will either stop swearing or they will have a new trampoline in no time.
I looked at several other posts about swearing and found that many people sub in other words in liu of swearing. I found some were funny and others not to my liking.

My personal favoirte in SNAP you can scream, yell it, utter it under your breath and it helps at least so far.

Thanks and peace

Mama's Boy

[Bullrider]

Ok here it goes. I live in nowheresville pop 1500. I became a believer in christ so time ago. I work in the oilpatch and for anyone who does not know it is the Devils playground. Millions are made and lost overnight. The real hard thing for me is to stop swearing when things go bad. Like for instance I can literally watch $200,000 dollars of gas go up the flare stack in 5mins that I am responsiable for. My launguage has gotten extremly better since I made the most important decsion BECOMING A CHRISTIASN however when the crap hits the fan I still find myself swearing and cursing like a sailor. To give you an example everthing in the oilpatch is this way. Nobody asks for a pipe wrench. It is an f'ing pipe wrench. Every facet even idle chit chat at coffee is littered with cursing. There is only one other believer at work and him and I became fast friends but we work in differnt capacities. I rely heavily on him to help me but as i said we do not always work togather. I have a hard time telling my co-workers and lifelong friends of my decsions to accept christ not because I am denying him but more of the fact that I feel like a hypocrite. It was not that long ago that I was partaking in the spoils of the oil money. 120,000 annualy salary at 22 years old. Drugs drinking and allnight parties were common place for me. Now that i have changed (still have a long way to go) I am not about to shoot myself in the foot by having a holier than thou type of attitude and becoming enemy #1 at the work place. I have been blessed in many aspects of my life and I am thankfull for the job and financial security that comes with the title. But i honelsty never noticed the language until I stopped swearing. (trying to). For the most part in day to day dealings I have can honestly say that I am not much of a curser. But when work is going bad and that is prety normal it can be stressfull and I have a hard time keeping my mouth clean.
Before I ask for help I wanted to let you know about the way the i was raised. For starters I grew up with a normal family but church and christ were not part of it at all. My parents who live close by are good people but God and Christ have no room in thier lives. My Mom could make a salior blush with her cursing and my Dad's only ambition is to make another million at anyones expense. We have a profitable multimillion dollar business that trumps all other concerns. Until I was 19 years old and playing Junior hockey (Canada EH) I had nevr heard of salvation or grace or anything. It was all money money and more money and then Hockey hockey hockey. I talked to my pastor and he said to silmply stop swearing. So I asked him to stop being a socialist (we are close friends I happen to know his political stripes) The point I am trying to make is how do you change somthing that is ingrained since you could ever remember. :B If anyone has a similar experiance or advise I would love to hear from them

Thanks and Peace

Mama's Boy

Hi Mama's Boy...warm greetings from a Canadian brother north of the border...

Thank you for posting about your concern about your swearing. I know the guilt, shame and embarassment of fowl language as a believer. I too have the same problem that needs to be dealt with by the Lord and my own heart. While I was growing up I was never much for cursing. It became a problem in my mid life. I am 52. The reason? It is because I had a lot of anger issues that were not dealt with. I was angry at God (yes), angry at my dad dying when I was only 5 1/2 years old, angry at my mother and step-father, my peers, I was sexually molested by a pedophile when I was 7, anger, anger, anger...the language of anger to me is profanity.

I let it get out of control and now it is a very tough battle. I had so many things/pain buried deep down inisde my heart that when they started to rise to the surface I responded by using profanity. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me but there is no magical "poof"--it's gone. Just like my alcoholism, I stopped drinking when I asked God to 'win this thing' and He did. I have been dry for years now. I have no desire to drink and I do not miss it. As for swearing, I need to believe that God will empower me to stop. I hate this sin and it grieves God's heart and mine. I currently feel like a slave to this thing but I know that if I persevere with the renewing of my mind and look to God for victory in this area I will stop this misery.

God is dealing with me in regards to my anger issues. It is a painful process sometimes but worth it. I believe that I will win this battle but I must be patient with God and even myself. It is easy to become discouraged when we sin repeatedly something that deep down we hate and reject. But God is faithful and He will help you MB. The fact that you posted about his shows that you are on the right track and have a heart's desire to overcome this vice.

I have posted about a number of issues on another forum but never about this thing until now. Your post prompted me to respond about my own plight. Shame made it tough to admit to this but I thank you for giving me the encouragement to come forward about my own battle. You are not alone in this struggle--far from it.

Take care MB. I know it's a toughie but we can win this thing. It might take time but we can become victors. When you are around a lot of profanity it is easy to pick it up when one's guard is down. So easy...I am not blaming anyone else about this sin of mine...just stating a fact.

Hang in there, Bro! We aren't beat yet. It might seem like it sometimes but our Saviour lives and He is our Hope. Our hope for now and the future cannot die!

Bye for now MB.
Michael

P.S.: You played in the OHL? Can I ask who?

[livingwaters]

Hi, Mamasboy!!! Glad to hear from you...You know, as Christians we still can have issues at times. I'll tell you the scripture I stand on, amongst others, is Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Amen....I believe that says it ALL!!!!

Also, always be bold in the Lord....That is our instruction from Jesus...go out and preach the gospel....you don't have to have a "holier-than-thou" attitude, you just have to BE "holier-than-thou." Let them see Christ in you...Amen and Amen!!!


Philippians 1:20 (http://bibleresources.bible.com/passagesearchresults.php?passage1=Philippians+1:20&version=9)
According to my earnest expectation and my hope, that in nothing I shall be ashamed, but that with all boldness, as always, so now also Christ shall be magnified in my body, whether it be by life, or by death
I use to have a "sailor's mouth." But, when Jesus stepped in, vulgarity stepped out.....Alleluia...If HE did for me, HE'll do for you, as HE is no respector of persons...Glory!!!~~~:hug:

God Bless---Hope this helps!!! :o

[livingwaters]

Hey, I found this....You could put it in your lunch box and lunch area to remind you of what you need to stop....Now, this is just a funny...Don't get offended!!!:lol:
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[Bullrider]

Hey, I found this....You could put it in your lunch box and lunch area to remind you of what you need to stop....Now, this is just a funny...Don't get offended!!!:lol:
http://i279.photobucket.com/albums/kk130/sassycindy2008/thBiteMe.jpg[/IMG]]

Sure beats slagging poor sailors!

Michael

[crossnote]

I don't see the swearing to be the cause but rather times when you are under pressure or are frustrated. Otherwise it doesn't sound like you are walking around singing what a beautiful f-n day. I work around truckers ( I is one) and dock workers..they speak the same language. Anyhow when I get frustrated (which is the real problem) once in a while I will blurt out from the abundance of my heart. So how do we deal with frustration? That's where we grow in faith (trust) thru His Word knowing that He is in control no matter how bad or insignificant the situation seems to be. And I will notice that the F meter goes up in proportion to the length of time I spend away from His Word.