Ways to encourage my husband

[mrsparks]

Hi ladies! I was wondering if you could give me ideas about how to encourage and uplift my husband. For example, I try to cook meals that he likes. What are some things that your husband appreciates? Thanks in advance!

[beckisted2004]

I...
- make my husband's lunch everyday and throw in a little love note
-do the dishes (they're usually his job ;))
-meet him out on the front porch every night when he comes home from work and give him a hug and kiss
- let him rent "boy" (action, war, scary) movies for our date night

I just asked my husband what I did to encourage him...he said, "You cook and you clean and well....you do everything. You take are of me and lubs me." :lol:

[SavedByGrace]

Aww Becky, that is so sweet.

[Diggindeeper]

I learned a long time ago just to walk over to my husband, be it to his recliner where he is all stretched out, or as he comes walking down the hallway to the living room, or when he comes inside to get a cold drink of water while mowing or whatever, but I just walk up, put my arms around him, look him straight in the eyes, and tell him, "I am so proud you are my man!"

...and without fail, this big grin spreads across his face, and in that deep voice of his, he says something real romantic like, "Thanks. Now, what brought that on?"

And I end up getting tickled.

But this works. I promise.

Just tell him.:idea:

[Lanie]

Hi,

I'm sure you must have heard or even read Gary Chapman's book - Five Love Languages. For those of you who haven't, it states that we all have a primary love language. The 5 languages are:

Physical Touch
Encouraging words
Receiving gifts
Quality time
Acts of service

I have not read the book, but my husband and I took the quiz on-line to find out what our love languages are. This has helped us a lot to make the other one feel special by showing appreciation in the way that makes us feel loved.:hug:

[graceforme]

One of the best ways to encourage our husband is to show him that we are thinking of what pleases him, rather than thinking of what makes us happy. This doesn't have to be any "earth-shattering" thing, but it can be some small thing.

I liked what Zig Zigler said in one of his books about a sweet potato. It went something like this: He loves baked sweet potatoes, but his wife doesn't. So, if he walks through the door and smells a sweet potato baking, the main thing that comes to his mind is that his wife was thinking about him. When she made the decision to buy the potato, she was thinking about him. When she was at the store choosing the perfect potato to bake, she was thinking about him. When she took it home and washed it, getting it ready to bake, she was thinking about him. While the potato was baking, and the aroma filled the kitchen, she was thinking about him. Since she doesn't like baked sweet potatoes, he knows that she prepared the potato selflessly - she only did it because of his love for them. And he knows, that throughout her day, she was thinking about him, and what would please him.

I think the very best way we can encourage our husband is to pray for him.

God Bless.

[VisionOfYou]

I thank him for the things he does around the house, or tell him he did a good job, whether it's a project I asked him to do or one of his usual chores. It makes him feel good to be appreciated. :) Make sure he gets to do all his favorite activities and eat all his favorite foods, even if they're not on my list. :P Pay attention when he's talking. Tell him the reasons I love him and why I'm proud of him. :D

[flybaby]

Tell him I love him everytime we end a phone conversation and other times throughout the day.

Write him love notes for no reason.

Kiss him frequently

Tell him how much we appreciate his hard work.

Make him food he likes.

Let him go moose hunting (that's where he is right now).

Cuddle at night even when I don't want to because I know how much he appreciates it.

Buy him jerky when I shop at costco.


That's just a few of the things.

[Momof5]

One way is real, honest respect for him. I respect who he is, I respect what he does. I love him, yes, but I respect him more.

[Jeanne D]

There are so many ways you can encourage your husband.
Some things I do are:

Make sure he has a hot, tasty meal every evening when he comes home

Get the coffee pot ready for the morning for him

Tell him I love him often

Thank him for all of his hard work......


You are a wise woman to want to do this mrsparks. I didn't always do these things. Early on I would criticize him too often. As the Lord began to deal with me on this, I began to encourage him and the Lord did an overhaul on our marriage. We fell in love with each other all over again.
Many blessings to you both!

Jeanne :hug:

[CoffeeCat]

I love this thread. As I'm going out with someone, but I'm not married yet, I won't participate..... but I wanted to thank all you ladies for the wonderful ideas and advice I see, and I can't wait to see more. :hug:

[Diggindeeper]

Oh! Mrsparks, I forgot something.

Brag on him in front of other people!

Tell them about the great things he did, and make the little things sound like great ones! How he "fixed" something! About the wonderful way he brought you chicken soup and Tylenol when you were in bed with a fever! Or how he faithfully, day after weary day, he trudges off to work and works hard to earn a living for your family!

Lift him up in the presense of other people. And let him hear you bragging on him.

But never, NEVER throw off on him, especially in front of others.

There's just something in a man...the more he hears you brag on him, the better he does in trying to live up to your bragging! And EVERYONE who knows you will say, "Boy! That is one lucky lady! They don't make them like her husband any more!"

[cnw]

I asked him and every couple months I ask him again what he likes me to do and he tells me.

respecting him
not arguing with him in front of kids
havinge the house clean when he gets home
cooking some of his fav dishes
just spending time with him (love lang quality time)
one of the things is making the bed OOps which I forgot to do and I should before he comes home....