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[Jovan]

I have full custody of a three yr old boy with joint guardianship and reasonable access granted to the mother ,I have had custody since he was 16 months ..I am now going to court to remove guardianship and order supervised visits only ..I knew this person for a month when she became pregnant it was only trough the pregnancy and following year and half i discovered.. what had appeared to me and people in general as a kind beautiful normal person was ..hmmm... evil ? mentality ill ?..possessed.. as are her family and friends..it is like some sociopathic cult..and me and my child are under attack and no one as of yet (except my family) realized the depth of their sickness..they are smart, aware ,know how to manipulate the system
still her actions lost her custody ..it is the most frightening thing could ever imagine someone who can put on this mask of normalcy you and then in the very next endanger your life and that of your child's and you know it is intentional and everyone else is still of the belief it is lack of parenting skills or or poor judgement...pray for me..my faith has been destroyed.. she used prayer, the church..with such sincerity while setting me up to be completely violated..I don't want to hate , I don't want to think anyone's unredeemable but something very symbolic and spiritual is going on here..way beyond a man and a dysfunctional women with a child parting..it is a unbelievable tale and that's been the agony it took a year and a half of living in virtual hell to get the courts to just accept enough to get custody.. another year and a half of even greater hell to gather enough evidence to take this next step.I thank god I have my child with me.. but we need to be safe and secure and that has not come yet
and its all so unspeakable i feel ashamed ..for even being connected with
and dont really know how to even begin to express it and ther months yet until court date..im struggling with the role of forgivness in this ?compasion ?..but it places me in such danger..i dont have the wisdom anymore to discern what is and what.. I wish would be

[Sold Out]

Do YOU have a support system of family, church, friends, etc?

Not to put salt in the wound, but we reap what we sow (Gal 6:7). You said you wish you had never gotten mixed up with her, but you did (bad judgment) and now you are reaping the consequences. Don't get mad at God over something you brought on yourself. All you can do at this point is just do the right thing (which it sounds like you are trying to do) and always keep in mind that this too shall pass.

You can have forgiveness ready for her, but unless she asks to be forgiven, you don't have to offer it to her. Just have the heart to forgive her if & when she asks.

I would just encourage you to pray and study the scriptures and get plugged into a local fellowship of believers (if you are not already). Christians are part of a body, and we need other Christians to help us function correctly in the body.

[unkerns]

Definitely get connected with fellow believers to help

[paidforinfull]

I have full custody of a three yr old boy with joint guardianship and reasonable access granted to the mother ,I have had custody since he was 16 months ..I am now going to court to remove guardianship and order supervised visits only ..I knew this person for a month when she became pregnant it was only trough the pregnancy and following year and half i discovered.. what had appeared to me and people in general as a kind beautiful normal person was ..hmmm... evil ? mentality ill ?..possessed.. as are her family and friends..it is like some sociopathic cult..and me and my child are under attack and no one as of yet (except my family) realized the depth of their sickness..they are smart, aware ,know how to manipulate the system
still her actions lost her custody ..it is the most frightening thing could ever imagine someone who can put on this mask of normalcy you and then in the very next endanger your life and that of your child's and you know it is intentional and everyone else is still of the belief it is lack of parenting skills or or poor judgement...pray for me..my faith has been destroyed.. she used prayer, the church..with such sincerity while setting me up to be completely violated..I don't want to hate , I don't want to think anyone's unredeemable but something very symbolic and spiritual is going on here..way beyond a man and a dysfunctional women with a child parting..it is a unbelievable tale and that's been the agony it took a year and a half of living in virtual hell to get the courts to just accept enough to get custody.. another year and a half of even greater hell to gather enough evidence to take this next step.I thank god I have my child with me.. but we need to be safe and secure and that has not come yet
and its all so unspeakable i feel ashamed ..for even being connected with
and dont really know how to even begin to express it and ther months yet until court date..im struggling with the role of forgivness in this ?compasion ?..but it places me in such danger..i dont have the wisdom anymore to discern what is and what.. I wish would be

There is no reason for you to loose your faith simply because the mother of your child chooses to twist and abuse the Word of God so that she can manipulate others with it.

I would suggest that you pray for and look for a well-established church which teaches sound doctrine (if you are not attending one already). I agree with the advice the other members gave you - you need the prayers, help and support of fellow Christians now.

Do not allow what happened to you make you bitter - for your own sake, and the sake of your child you need to forgive her. Let it go. Pray for her soul. It is hard to carry a grudge against someone if you are praying for them. If she still doesn't want to repent, well, let God judge her, not us.

[Frances]

:pray: that the Lord gives you the wisdom you need to allow Him to be Victorious over evil, through you, in this situation - and for the protection of the child.