Letting Go Of My Anger

[trodder]

As a young man I had a terrible habit of holding onto my anger.
I would not let it subside just the opposite, I fed it.
Finally the prayers of my loving wife were answered and I gave my life to the Lord and my anger issues began to gradually go away. That was twenty one years ago.

Here lately I have felt that same feeling of wanting to feed my anger return but I don't want to go back to being the ogre I once was.
My wife and I have a happy life together with two grown children serving the Lord I have nothing to be angry over yet, I find myself getting mad over silly things and not wanting to let it go.
I could use some advise.

[Nyoka]

First of take it to God and give it to him then get into scripture about how we have victory over sin. Second I would get checked to make sure there isn't a medical reason why this is happening. If there is no medical reason then you know you just need to learn control in this area and God will help you with that one if you let him.

[cheech]

I know exactly what you are talking about. Due to hurt and pain, I had anger issues that I kept shoving down. They'd explode every now and then. Shove them down, explode, etc. Of course I come from a family whose tempers flare quickly (mom's side hold grudges, thankfully the kids don't...as much) Finally, I too received help from the Lord but over the last few months my quick anger along with other partyers began to return. In my case, something triggered it and it's been a heck of a fight but the Lord is good and patient and has been working in me again.

So my question is...have there been any triggers that could have set you back on that road to feeding your anger? Any stressors? Are you doing any work for the Lord? We all know the enemy is always trying draw us back to our old ways to keep us bound. It's been 21 years since you were like this...what has changed or is changing in your life that you can think of that could be a reason for the change?

I have literally had to go on my knees this time as it's been so strong. You may have to do the same, taking it to God. There is nothing too big or too small for God to handle. You have to be very determined not to go back to that way of life because it can be hard to break sometimes but never impossible. Make sure the battle stays in your mind and you push it out from there because once it gets to the heart it can be damaging. Also you may want to pick a day you know you will be home all day and fast and pray over this asking God to remove every issue that is bothering you (anger and whatever else you may be going through) and to replace it with the fruits of the spirit:

Galatians 5:22
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23gentleness and self-control.

I have been praying this every day and I have definitely seen a difference.

[Sold Out]

As a young man I had a terrible habit of holding onto my anger.
I would not let it subside just the opposite, I fed it.
Finally the prayers of my loving wife were answered and I gave my life to the Lord and my anger issues began to gradually go away. That was twenty one years ago.

Here lately I have felt that same feeling of wanting to feed my anger return but I don't want to go back to being the ogre I once was.
My wife and I have a happy life together with two grown children serving the Lord I have nothing to be angry over yet, I find myself getting mad over silly things and not wanting to let it go.
I could use some advise.

I would suggest doing a word study in the bible on the word 'anger'. That way you can see exactly what God has to say about it. When I do a word study, I just use my concordance to look up where the word is used in scripture, and I also study the greek/hebrew words that are used. It will help you gain much insight.

[trodder]

I appreciate the replies very much. I Admit I don't turn everything over to God. I try to work it out myself to no avail. I end up in a deeper hole than when I started. God please forgive me.

Sorry it took so long to get back to your replies, I don't get to log on as often as would like to. My wife and I are trying to get some remodeling done at our home. Funny thing is I've not gotten upset once over it. Go figure.
I'll try to keep these things in my heart beginning with committing it to prayer first.

[wondercoolguy]

Another really good thing to do is put it in the prayer section of this forum. Good Godly Christians praying for you is always a good thing. I had an issue that I put in there that had to do with anger toward my wife and with in about 48hrs I felt full release from it. I'm not saying that will happen in the same speed but I know I'll be praying for ya.:pray:

[Buck shot]

Howdy Trodder,

There has been a lot of good things mentioned here. The one that closest matches my experiences is the one on triggers. For me it is not being busy. When i feel that i am not getting something accomplished i get frustrated with wasted time. (this gets frustrating to my wife as she seems to be fine with just wasting time :lol:) This must be the balance that is needed in our life as the Lord has blessed us with being married for almost 20 years so far.

In my opinion you should ask the Lord to search your heart and show you what the triggers are for ya. Old satan would love to know them so that he could keep pulling them but if you can find out what they are then you can laugh instead of getting upset. I know that's easier said than done but spend some time in prayer. Also admit that you are at fault when you get angry with those around you as you have here on this thread. When we humble ourselves it does wonders for us and those around us :)

I hope this helps...