Welder4Christ
Oct 15th 2008, 02:24 AM
Oh, my goodness!!! I am in complete shock right now, and I know that the Lord is holding me together right now, because I should be freaking out.
So, I just got off the phone with my husband's wife....That's right!!! His other wife. My husband, whom I am separated from (still married), but who supposedly wants to reconcile with me, is married to another woman, and has been for 2 yrs. I honestly can't believe that he would go and marry another woman while still being married to me.
I knew he had been involved with her, but I had no idea that they were legally married!!!! So, while he had been trying to make amends with me over the past 3 months, he has been in the middle of divorcing her. He completely lied and told me that they were never legally married. I am in shock!!!
Not only that, but I found out that he has been stalking another woman, and that they were going to go out this coming Saturday. Wait a minute....I thought he wanted to get back together with me?!!! I feel completely betrayed, and feel like a complete fool.
So, right now, I am utterly confused and baffled. I have been putting off finalizing the divorce, because I know that the Bible says divorce is a sin, and he claimed that he still wanted to be married to me, but now, I know that I have no other alternative.
I also found out that he lied to me about having MS, and that he used the money that I gave him (supposedly for our daughter's medicine, doctors appts., and food) for pot and pornography. Apparently, his other wife has been supporting him these past few months.
For the past 3 years he has been keeping me out of my daughter's life, and has told everyone that he has no idea how to find me, and that I am a threat, and has made so many false accusations against me. I have also learned that my daughter has been stealing and lying, and that she has many behavioral problems that I was not aware of. He has also had child protective services called on him, and my daughter lied to protect him.
Now I know why the Lord has been telling me not to take up residence with this man. I also know now that I need to finalize the divorce, and file for sole custody. I am the only one of us working right now, as he hasn't worked for several months. I know this, because he admitted it to me, only he told me that it was because he has MS. I know now that that is a lie.
He is very mean to our daughter...whenever I talk to her on the phone, I hear him yelling at her. He also lays guilt trips on her for doing poorly in school, and forgetting her assignments, telling her that she is making him sick.
So, I know now that I need to finalize the divorce, and I will no longer have guilt over this!! I also need to file for custody. I can barely provide for myself right now, but I know that if I go through with this, that the lord will provide for us, and I will also be able to raise her with the love and godly upbringing that she so desperately needs. I know that she has very low self-esteem, and that she says her daddy doesn't love her.
Please, friends, pray for strength for me over the next few weeks, and pray that God really lays hold of this situation. I already know that my husband will make this very difficult for the both of us, and right now, the way he has been acting, I do fear for my safety.
It is my belief that he is slipping into mental illness, and he has been violent to me before. PLEASE, dear friends, pray that the Lord will intervene, and that He will bring everything together for good. I am really afraid right now....I wouldn;t put it past him to come after me if I proceed with this. Please pray for divine protection. Please pray that He fills me with His peace and re-assurance.
Does it sound like I'm doing the right thing?! I believe I am.
So, I just got off the phone with my husband's wife....That's right!!! His other wife. My husband, whom I am separated from (still married), but who supposedly wants to reconcile with me, is married to another woman, and has been for 2 yrs. I honestly can't believe that he would go and marry another woman while still being married to me.
I knew he had been involved with her, but I had no idea that they were legally married!!!! So, while he had been trying to make amends with me over the past 3 months, he has been in the middle of divorcing her. He completely lied and told me that they were never legally married. I am in shock!!!
Not only that, but I found out that he has been stalking another woman, and that they were going to go out this coming Saturday. Wait a minute....I thought he wanted to get back together with me?!!! I feel completely betrayed, and feel like a complete fool.
So, right now, I am utterly confused and baffled. I have been putting off finalizing the divorce, because I know that the Bible says divorce is a sin, and he claimed that he still wanted to be married to me, but now, I know that I have no other alternative.
I also found out that he lied to me about having MS, and that he used the money that I gave him (supposedly for our daughter's medicine, doctors appts., and food) for pot and pornography. Apparently, his other wife has been supporting him these past few months.
For the past 3 years he has been keeping me out of my daughter's life, and has told everyone that he has no idea how to find me, and that I am a threat, and has made so many false accusations against me. I have also learned that my daughter has been stealing and lying, and that she has many behavioral problems that I was not aware of. He has also had child protective services called on him, and my daughter lied to protect him.
Now I know why the Lord has been telling me not to take up residence with this man. I also know now that I need to finalize the divorce, and file for sole custody. I am the only one of us working right now, as he hasn't worked for several months. I know this, because he admitted it to me, only he told me that it was because he has MS. I know now that that is a lie.
He is very mean to our daughter...whenever I talk to her on the phone, I hear him yelling at her. He also lays guilt trips on her for doing poorly in school, and forgetting her assignments, telling her that she is making him sick.
So, I know now that I need to finalize the divorce, and I will no longer have guilt over this!! I also need to file for custody. I can barely provide for myself right now, but I know that if I go through with this, that the lord will provide for us, and I will also be able to raise her with the love and godly upbringing that she so desperately needs. I know that she has very low self-esteem, and that she says her daddy doesn't love her.
Please, friends, pray for strength for me over the next few weeks, and pray that God really lays hold of this situation. I already know that my husband will make this very difficult for the both of us, and right now, the way he has been acting, I do fear for my safety.
It is my belief that he is slipping into mental illness, and he has been violent to me before. PLEASE, dear friends, pray that the Lord will intervene, and that He will bring everything together for good. I am really afraid right now....I wouldn;t put it past him to come after me if I proceed with this. Please pray for divine protection. Please pray that He fills me with His peace and re-assurance.
Does it sound like I'm doing the right thing?! I believe I am.