Advice?

[ph33r]

My wife, when she is tired gets really irratated. I was talking to her and she got all worked up so I told her she needed to calm down that she was letting her anger get out of control. That made her more mad and she hung up. I didn't call her back because she was mad and I didn't know what to say. Then she called me and is screaming and cursing at me telling me I don't care about her and that I offened her and should have called back to say I was sorry. Then I tried to apologize i sat there calmly while she screamed and cursed at me. I was thinking I am sitting her not saying a thing while you scream and curse at me if that doesnt show I care what does? So I am stumped how do I deal with this. How do I lead my wife bibilically like I should guiding her to truth? How do I show her that she shouldnt let herself get so out of control. Guy's help me on this one!:o

[jponb]

Let your light shine. Keep resisting the invitation for a verbal confrontation. Pray to God that her eyes, ears, mind, and heart are opened. We can only plant or water the seed. It is God who gives the increase. Pray for increase and peace while waiting for the increase.

[baxpack7]

My wife, when she is tired gets really irratated. I was talking to her and she got all worked up so I told her she needed to calm down that she was letting her anger get out of control. That made her more mad and she hung up. I didn't call her back because she was mad and I didn't know what to say. Then she called me and is screaming and cursing at me telling me I don't care about her and that I offened her and should have called back to say I was sorry. Then I tried to apologize i sat there calmly while she screamed and cursed at me. I was thinking I am sitting her not saying a thing while you scream and curse at me if that doesnt show I care what does? So I am stumped how do I deal with this. How do I lead my wife bibilically like I should guiding her to truth? How do I show her that she shouldnt let herself get so out of control. Guy's help me on this one!:o

The Proverbs have a few verses that would be good for your situation.
Here's one that I think can work:
Prov 15:1 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=20&CHAP=15&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=1) A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Try to avoid arguments, but certainly be understanding when you DO reply, AND-reply with love:)
God bless!!

[ilovemetal]

first of all, women are crazy.;)

second, i have a story.

before i was a 'real' christian i had problems. massive rage, anger, impatience, hatred and whatnot. small things set it off. and i couldn't help it. thing is, as galations describes the fruits of the spirit (peace, joy, love, patience etc...) it should reflect our very being. the main sign that the Holy Spirit lives inside us is we produce it's fruit.

Matthew 7:16, 17
By their fruit you will recognize them. Do people pick grapes from thornbushes, or figs from thistles? Likewise every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit.

i would, from the limited information i have, say talk to her about he spiritual life, and seek to comfort her and give her strength. it took the love of Jesus to give me the fruits, and though i still slip up, even more than i would like, i have overcome so so much anger and rage. and i've learned patience, and love...it truley is amazing what the Holy Spirit can do.

anyways, that's all i got. i hope you two can work it out.

[ph33r]

If you have read any of my other posts for example my post in the counseling forum. A large amount of this is my fault, I just am looking for a way to defuse the situation.

[SFASH]

The way you are handling it in my opinion, is the right way. You seem to have a great deal of grace, in not letting yourself be drawn into an argument.

Quietly praying through the storm is highly recommended. When things are settled down, and your wife is feeling better, then you can try to address the original problem(s) and perhaps reach an agreement on how to deal with these things in the future. A little give and take, and not so much about who is at fault.

Will pray for you as well.