It's all a test?

[Kelly12345]

Do you believe God gives you tests in order to get ready for something important?

Last night I hung out with a guy that I really like that I went to high school with. He got in contact with me in late Septemeber and we speak on the phone about 1-2 times a week. He has said that he doesn't want a serious relationship however.

So, I really like him but after last night I think that maybe he just doesn't like me and even if he doesn't I somehow feel at peace with it.

I have never hung out with a guy before...and never have had telephone calls with guys before either - ever. I've never had a boyfriend.

Do you think these things are tests for my real future husband?

[Revinius]

Is he Christian? Does he live his life sacrificially for Christ? -> This is the major test and all other tests need this as a pre-requisite.

God brings things in our life not so much to test us but to develop our character using the spirit within. Hardship teaches humility etc. On the other hand, bad stuff does happen, and it is usually related to our sin or sins of others against us and it would be immoral to attribute such stuff to God. So the conclusion we should really take away is to remain faithful to Him above all, above any human man and above ourselves.

[Cara Lott]

I definitely agree with Revinius about asking the critical questions about his faith before you go any further. I don't think I would call it a test for a future husband, though I will say that every person you meet and interact with will bring out different qualities in yourself, so you can learn more about yourself with each new friendship/relationship. These experiences will help you in deciding guys to date in looking for a future husband if you choose to date versus courting.

I have a number of guy friends, and none of them has ever called me 1-2 times a week, while my ex-boyfriend used to call me once a week. My advice: just take it slow, let him call the shots (as in he decides when he's ready to date, and he does the asking), and if he really shows no signs of interest in you, then either be willing to be "just friends" or call it off.

[Kelly12345]

Well - he hasn't called me since Mon. night.

My dream is to have a man that loves me and will marry me. I want to love and to be loved. I just pray that I do not mess the opportunity up.

[unkerns]

read the book of James

[Revinius]

I definitely agree with Revinius about asking the critical questions about his faith before you go any further. I don't think I would call it a test for a future husband, though I will say that every person you meet and interact with will bring out different qualities in yourself, so you can learn more about yourself with each new friendship/relationship. These experiences will help you in deciding guys to date in looking for a future husband if you choose to date versus courting.

I have a number of guy friends, and none of them has ever called me 1-2 times a week, while my ex-boyfriend used to call me once a week. My advice: just take it slow, let him call the shots (as in he decides when he's ready to date, and he does the asking), and if he really shows no signs of interest in you, then either be willing to be "just friends" or call it off.

Perhaps best not to encourage serial dating, although it can be unfortunately common, but rather holding out for a guy to win your hand.

[Revinius]

Well - he hasn't called me since Mon. night.

My dream is to have a man that loves me and will marry me. I want to love and to be loved. I just pray that I do not mess the opportunity up.

So.... is he all for Christ? That is the question on which hinges your and his future.

[thebaker]

I think it is good to learn to talk to the opposite sex and build friendships. Just be careful when it comes to dating. Like others said, check to see if he is a Christian if you want to build a more intimate relationship. Just ask God to lead the way and see where it takes you.

[Ixthus]

As for you're question about tests. Look at the book of Job