Needing help with porn problem..

[bldintex]

About a month ago our pastor was talking about how we need to give the thing up that has been pressured on us by the Lord. I was struggling with porn for the past year or so (about giving it up) and about six months ago I thought I gave it up, but it reared it's ugly head again within a week. About three weeks ago we had communion at church and I was adament about praying about a change in major at school (along with praying for forgiveness) however he just said "It's time" over and over (referring to wanting me to fast from a few weeks earlier). Anyways, I did a 72 hour fast with only milk and water in order to set myself straight with the Lord and my desire to give up pornography. It's been a little over three weeks now and the devil is working so hard. I had an e-mail from a friend that had a link to porn in it. I got a Maxim magazine in the mail today...it keeps going and going, But I WILL over come through Jesus...

lol, sorry. I just got so upset about with the devil and needed a place to let my frustrations loose...

[turtledove]

Hi bltindex, Yes, in Christ, you can continue to say "no" to porn and you can be an overcomer..because God does set us free from addictions. Others should be lending their comments and support here; but I just wanted to point you to this link if you haven't seen it yet. It was posted by one of our administrators who also ministers on Breaking the Chains and is located in the stickies on top of this section..It includes scriptures to help in dealing with addictions or anything that really can bind us. Giving it to you so you can just click on it and read...:)

Here it is: http://bibleforums.org/forum/showthread.php?t=67228

Peace and prayers, :pray:

wiseoldowl

[Slug1]

About a month ago our pastor was talking about how we need to give the thing up that has been pressured on us by the Lord. I was struggling with porn for the past year or so (about giving it up) and about six months ago I thought I gave it up, but it reared it's ugly head again within a week. About three weeks ago we had communion at church and I was adament about praying about a change in major at school (along with praying for forgiveness) however he just said "It's time" over and over (referring to wanting me to fast from a few weeks earlier). Anyways, I did a 72 hour fast with only milk and water in order to set myself straight with the Lord and my desire to give up pornography. It's been a little over three weeks now and the devil is working so hard. I had an e-mail from a friend that had a link to porn in it. I got a Maxim magazine in the mail today...it keeps going and going, But I WILL over come through Jesus...

lol, sorry. I just got so upset about with the devil and needed a place to let my frustrations loose...Ya know, his tactics are the same cause this week my wife received a Maxim mag in the mail as a promotional addition for a subscription. Since this is my stronghold that has been toppled over but I'm still cleaning up all the pieces I have to keep fighting.

So, what do you do with the authority that you have through Jesus Christ as you fight?

[Gregg]

Maybe we are already healed and we just have to act like it.

Relapsing with porn or other signature sins makes us feel like we are far away from God. In the name of Jesus Christ, get thee behind me satan!

God Bless you and yours.

[HisLeast]

Have you ever considered that there may be a legitimate want thats only manifesting itself as an urge for pornography, because porn fills that void for short while?

[groovemongrel]

Ya know, his tactics are the same cause this week my wife received a Maxim mag in the mail as a promotional addition for a subscription. Since this is my stronghold that has been toppled over but I'm still cleaning up all the pieces I have to keep fighting.

So, what do you do with the authority that you have through Jesus Christ as you fight?

Its the subtle stuff that can slip me up. Stuff you thinks ok but really isn't.

[Slug1]

Its the subtle stuff that can slip me up. Stuff you thinks ok but really isn't.Exactly! I went to go buy that movie Hancock last week. I kept putting it off cause their are elements in that movie that are linked to my stronghold. Then I'm walking through Walmart and I see it's still on sale for $14.95 so I grab it. As I'm walking up to the counter to pay I reach back and no wallet. So I start brainstorming where it could be. Then I remember that I had taken it out while driving my wife car and set it on the seat I was sitting. I call her and ask her to go out to the car and look cause my fear is it fell to the ground as I got out and it's been out on the street and now long gone. Since I came to the store with my friend we took his car. Anyway, it was there on the floor between the seat and door.

As I walk back to the movie section to return the movie it was as if God spoke directly to my heart as I was convicted to the fact I was disobedient to what I know is my weakness that leads to lust. He allowed me to fail just so He could also show me how He protected me from myself by "making" me forget all about that wallet as I got out of the car. As this knowledge filled my heart and the understanding filled my thick head it took alot to not bust out in tears in praise to my Father in Heaven as He cares for me right there in the middle of Walmart.

Nothing wrong with the movie but it has elements that will tempt me to fantasize and thus sin. Yeah, it's the subtle stuff that satan uses to work in the temptation and then next thing... I'm on my knees crying and asking God for forgiveness.

Now, as for the OP... where I failed was not pulling out my sword. That Sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:10-20) is how you battle satan by ordering him to leave you in the Name of Jesus Christ. Has to be done out loud, no yelling needed. Just do it and if the temptation hits you 10 times a day... you swing that sword 10 times in a day.

[bldintex]

Now, as for the OP... where I failed was not pulling out my sword. That Sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:10-20) is how you battle satan by ordering him to leave you in the Name of Jesus Christ. Has to be done out loud, no yelling needed. Just do it and if the temptation hits you 10 times a day... you swing that sword 10 times in a day.
Exactly, when I start noticing my mind to drift I just say "I rebuke you right now in the name of Jesus and cast you out of my body." I find it simply amazing how fast my perverse thoughts will leave my body.

Another thing that helps(sarcasm) with this issue is my luck with women. I always have the most beautiful "perfect" figured women attracted to me that are not Christian... and never a Christian girl. I know I'm not ready for a relationship, but it really frustrates me when it seems like I could have that girl I have always fantasized about so easily...It's amazing how the Lord has changed my perception of what a girl should look like.

Well, I have to get up in 6 hours...thanks for your help guys.

[groovemongrel]

Now, as for the OP... where I failed was not pulling out my sword. That Sword of the Spirit (Ephesians 6:10-20) is how you battle satan by ordering him to leave you in the Name of Jesus Christ. Has to be done out loud, no yelling needed. Just do it and if the temptation hits you 10 times a day... you swing that sword 10 times in a day.


What verse do you use as the sword?

[Slug1]

What verse do you use as the sword?Well, I was referring to the Sword of the Spirit from that scripture... when temptation strikes me sometimes the armor is all I need and I go on with the day ignoring it. Some days are rough and I have to pull that sword and begin to rebuke satan.

1 John 4:4 is a good one for me to say against satan as I rebuke him.

[unkerns]

Be real with your wife and your friends, I would be letting my wife know that that mag is causing me to fall for other women, and that I dont want that (same type of thing happened for me) In order to quit something you have to quit. That means leave not even a speck open for the devil to slip in right now. There might be some overly graphic movies, or music, or whatever get rid of them. By the way this is a whole life change as well, your whole life must be devoted to him in order to change this.

[truthseeker2]

About a month ago our pastor was talking about how we need to give the thing up that has been pressured on us by the Lord. I was struggling with porn for the past year or so (about giving it up) and about six months ago I thought I gave it up, but it reared it's ugly head again within a week. About three weeks ago we had communion at church and I was adament about praying about a change in major at school (along with praying for forgiveness) however he just said "It's time" over and over (referring to wanting me to fast from a few weeks earlier). Anyways, I did a 72 hour fast with only milk and water in order to set myself straight with the Lord and my desire to give up pornography. It's been a little over three weeks now and the devil is working so hard. I had an e-mail from a friend that had a link to porn in it. I got a Maxim magazine in the mail today...it keeps going and going, But I WILL over come through Jesus...

lol, sorry. I just got so upset about with the devil and needed a place to let my frustrations loose...

Tell your friend not to send you any more mail with anything relating to porn. I don't know your situation but if you can cancel the Maxim subscription.

[bldintex]

The porn influences have stopped. Maxim stopped coming. And it has been almost a month now. God is Good.

[Welder4Christ]

About a month ago our pastor was talking about how we need to give the thing up that has been pressured on us by the Lord. I was struggling with porn for the past year or so (about giving it up) and about six months ago I thought I gave it up, but it reared it's ugly head again within a week. About three weeks ago we had communion at church and I was adament about praying about a change in major at school (along with praying for forgiveness) however he just said "It's time" over and over (referring to wanting me to fast from a few weeks earlier). Anyways, I did a 72 hour fast with only milk and water in order to set myself straight with the Lord and my desire to give up pornography. It's been a little over three weeks now and the devil is working so hard. I had an e-mail from a friend that had a link to porn in it. I got a Maxim magazine in the mail today...it keeps going and going, But I WILL over come through Jesus...

lol, sorry. I just got so upset about with the devil and needed a place to let my frustrations loose...

Hi, bldintex;

So many people struggle with pornography. I've talked to women whose husbands are addicted, as well as men who struggle, and just can't seem to get victory over their urges. Pornography is so destructive, and I am fully convinced that one of Satan's ways of infiltrating the church, in order to destroy it. You would not believe how many Christian men, including pastors, struggle with pornography.

One thing that I tell all of them is that, in order to overcome this struggle, you must be in the Spirit. This is the only way....willpower just isn't going to cut it!!! The thing about porn addiction, that is different from an addiction to drugs or alcohol, is that even when you're not being exposed to pornography directly, the thoughts can still linger. This is one of the things that keeps a lot of people coming back. For example, if you catch glimpse of a racy billboard, a magazine in the stroes, or even a pretty girl walking down the street, it can trigger desires and urges in you.

That's why it is absolutely imperative that you stay in the Word, and continually feed your spirit, for it is only the Spirit of God that will overcome the flesh!!! In no way should you feed the flesh in any way. Refrain from looking at porn, and ask that the Lord fill you with His Holy Spirit. He is the only one who can help you to overcome this...unfortunately, you are absolutely powerless on your own. You can stop the behaviour, but the Lord is the only one who will be able to take away those urges.

I would also highly suggest getting involved in some sort of support group at your church, with like-minded men who can help you, and to whom you can be accountable.

There is a really great book that I would recommend to you. It's called At The Altar Of Sexual Idolatry, by Steve Gallagher, founder of Pure Life Ministries. PLM is a ministry that deals with men struggling with sex and porn addiction. They have some really great resources on their website.

Anyhow, what I would suggest to you is to get as close to God as you can, and just feed off of His word. Get yourself out of the flesh, and allow His Spirit to work in you. The Bible tells us that we are to be transformed by the renewing of our minds. This is exactly what you need...Your mind is, in a sense, being controlled by these urges, and you need a complete transformation by the Holy Spirit in this department, so that He is the only one who has control over you.

I hope this helped somewhat. Just remember, you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you...not in your own strength, but in Christ's.

Be blessed