So, what present should I ask for from my fiance once we get married?

[TransformedSon]

Apparently, on top of everything else, the bride and groom buy presents for eachother.

I'll probably get her jewelry, or buy her a massage or something like that.

What are some ideas of what I should ask for?

I'm thinking a PS3...I'm not a huge gamer, but I know it has a blu-Ray player also. I have a Wii already. I saw the gamer thread in here too, and would like some input from yall about the PS3.

[Xel'Naga]

Depends, how much do you want to spend on yourself ;)

[Followtheway]

Dont waste the money on each other, use it to serve the Lord instead

[HisLeast]

Apparently, on top of everything else, the bride and groom buy presents for eachother.

That's weird, I've never heard of that. If you want my honest opinion, just rest from more purchases. The engagement ring was probably a nice chunk of change, and I imagine you'll be spending a good amount of money on all the wedding services too, right? And all this is even before the honeymoon.

Besides this, you're going to get a good amount of stuff via wedding gifts.

[Uriel]

I am in a similar boat as you. Getting married in August not sure what to get my wife if we even do it. Think we are going to do engagement presents, hers being the ring and the nice steak dinner I took her out to. She wants to get me a pipe. So I think if we do any thing I will get her sometime nice from the honeymoon or pay for her passport. We are doing a cruise to New England and Canada.

[tango]

Unless you've got lots of spare cash floating about I'd suggest not going crazy on presents for each other. You've got the rest of your lives to worry about what to buy each other, for now focus on the wedding day and remember that it's not the destination, it's the start of your married lives.

[HisLeast]

Unless you've got lots of spare cash floating about I'd suggest not going crazy on presents for each other. You've got the rest of your lives to worry about what to buy each other, for now focus on the wedding day and remember that it's not the destination, it's the start of your married lives.
Quoted for truth.

[HankZ]

If you think you will end up with a couple hundred bucks left after paying for everything else, you may want to ask for a "Weekend to Remember," conference. I don't mean to sound mushy, but believe me when I tell you it will save you lots of headaches down the road and might even save you from sleeping on the couch too often.;)

[TransformedSon]

Unless you've got lots of spare cash floating about I'd suggest not going crazy on presents for each other. You've got the rest of your lives to worry about what to buy each other, for now focus on the wedding day and remember that it's not the destination, it's the start of your married lives.

I agree all the money being spent on this stuff is absolutely ridiculous. I'm going to talk with her about our presents.

[TransformedSon]

If you think you will end up with a couple hundred bucks left after paying for everything else, you may want to ask for a "Weekend to Remember," conference. I don't mean to sound mushy, but believe me when I tell you it will save you lots of headaches down the road and might even save you from sleeping on the couch too often.;)

Pardon my ignorance, but what does that mean? "Weekend to Remember"?

We're already going on a honeymoon, if that's what you mean...

[BroRog]

Apparently, on top of everything else, the bride and groom buy presents for eachother.

I'll probably get her jewelry, or buy her a massage or something like that.

What are some ideas of what I should ask for?

I'm thinking a PS3...I'm not a huge gamer, but I know it has a blu-Ray player also. I have a Wii already. I saw the gamer thread in here too, and would like some input from yall about the PS3.

Just starting out, I think the best presents are the ones you make yourself, or have some kind of sentimental value. For instance, you might take a picture of the two of you on honeymoon and put it in a frame.

You could buy her a special leather-bound Bible with a special message from you to her written inside the front cover.

Forget the PS3. :)

Think in terms of something unique, unusual, one-of-a-kind, a small treasure of some kind.

Want something completely off the wall?

My wife and I give massage oils, massage booklet, and massage tools to our friends as a wedding gifts. Why? First, no one else would think of it. Second, young couples need to learn to express intimacy through touch, in a relaxed and restful state of mind and body. One thing that husbands need to learn is the art of touch and to learn how to touch a wife without any strings attached if you know what I mean.

So, if you want to give your new wife a gift, give her a nice relaxing massage from the neck down to the toes. And don't expect anything in return. Just enjoy her company in the quiet of an evening. Believe me, after you have children, the quiet evenings will be sorely missed. :)

What to ask for? Let her surprise you and enjoy whatever she gives you. Believe me, its all for the best. :)

[HankZ]

Pardon my ignorance, but what does that mean? "Weekend to Remember"?

We're already going on a honeymoon, if that's what you mean...



http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3204637/k.3EE3/About_the_conference.htm

If this doesn't work, go to familylife.com and click on Weekend to Remember.

[tt1106]

Agreed, weekend to remember. It's probably the best gift you can give each other that will last your lifetime.

[TransformedSon]

http://www.familylife.com/site/c.dnJHKLNnFoG/b.3204637/k.3EE3/About_the_conference.htm

If this doesn't work, go to familylife.com and click on Weekend to Remember.

That's a great idea guys, thanks for sharing. I am going to get some feedback from her about it.

This is only for couples that are married, right?

[HankZ]

That's a great idea guys, thanks for sharing. I am going to get some feedback from her about it.

This is only for couples that are married, right?

It is also for engaged couples. They do a section of the weekend for soon to be married couples that focuses on what they can expect once they are married.

I and my wife are attending our 4th conference in February. We will been helping in the resource center. We don't get paid for it, but it has such a profit that we keep going back. We also promote this at our church and to our friends every year.

[treeinheaven]

You don't need a marriage conference, the bible is adequate.Psychology is almost always contrary to sound doctrine.The big danger is clever sounding lies that incubate and cause destruction after the conference.The potential for damage outweighs any possible benefit.I suppose any gift is alright as long as it's not hurting the relationship.My brother gets video games from his wife and they have a great marriage.He is envied.Be careful of religious sounding arguments which are anything but.

Adam

[thunderbyrd]

:idea:ask her to give you ten million dollars. it's what i would want.

[Uriel]

You don't need a marriage conference, the bible is adequate.Psychology is almost always contrary to sound doctrine.The big danger is clever sounding lies that incubate and cause destruction after the conference.The potential for damage outweighs any possible benefit.I suppose any gift is alright as long as it's not hurting the relationship.My brother gets video games from his wife and they have a great marriage.He is envied.Be careful of religious sounding arguments which are anything but.

Adam

I will have to respond to this since my finance is a therapist with a masters in Christian Counseling from Asbury Theological Seminary. What I want to say is that you have it all wrong. Psychology is not usually contrary to sound doctrine. All truth is God's truth. So if it comes from the Bible or a Therapist and it is truth it is in line with God. Also if the Bible was enough then we would not have any writings from the Church fathers nor would we have shelves of Christian literature or commentaries or any other Christian writings or preaching of any kind we would just go to church and have the Bible read to us.

Since my finance is a therapist it has made the relationship so much better she asked all the questions that would usually be asked in marriage counseling sessions after the first couple of months to make sure that we agreed on a lot of stuff. So that if we did not then we could break up or work on what we wanted as a couple. Some things that were brought up for those who might be in a similar place were number of kids, how we felt about adopting, money issues, how we handle anger and other emotions that kind of stuff. But think that you should be aware that psychology is not evil or bad in and of itself. If a Christian is doing it then it can be great and good for you, if an athesist or anyone else is doing it, it can be great and good for you. Or in either case it can not be so benefical but it will depend on the therapist, Christian or not. Making broad uneducated/offenisive claims is not a very good thing to do.

[God-Gave-R+R-2-U]

What are some ideas of what I should ask for?

I'm thinking a PS3....
Ask her for a lifelong commitment to being married (and intimate) with you and only you. That's the best "present" that you could ever ask for and, in turn, give right back to her. In my opinion, if you didn't think that that was the best "present" to receive, then I would think that you were too young to get married and/or not fully capable of understanding the true meaning of love and lifelong commitment. I can't imagine anything better from a woman then to be loved by her in every possible way as well as knowing that you'll be together with her for the rest of your life. Sadly though, divorce is always out there as an option. When both are truly in love with each other as well as committed to God, divorce will never be an option/choice. Money (and gifts that require money alone to buy) isn't even near as great as true love. Good luck with your journey though.

[God-Gave-R+R-2-U]

I Think we are going to do engagement presents, hers being the ring and the nice steak dinner I took her out to. She wants to get me a pipe.
How about reading one of my absolute favorite Bible verses (Proverbs 15:17). There's quite a great message there.:saint:

[Nothing]

I would ask for at least one hour of pure, uncut silence a day.

[Clavicula_Nox]

I would ask for at least one hour of pure, uncut silence a day.

This is worth more than you know...

[TransformedSon]

Ask her for a lifelong commitment to being married (and intimate) with you and only you. That's the best "present" that you could ever ask for and, in turn, give right back to her. In my opinion, if you didn't think that that was the best "present" to receive, then I would think that you were too young to get married and/or not fully capable of understanding the true meaning of love and lifelong commitment. I can't imagine anything better from a woman then to be loved by her in every possible way as well as knowing that you'll be together with her for the rest of your life. Sadly though, divorce is always out there as an option. When both are truly in love with each other as well as committed to God, divorce will never be an option/choice. Money (and gifts that require money alone to buy) isn't even near as great as true love. Good luck with your journey though.

Yea, we are very committed to being together for the rest of our lives. That's not what this is about. I could care less what physical present I get, she just wants to know what I would want.

[God-Gave-R+R-2-U]

Yea, we are very committed to being together for the rest of our lives. That's not what this is about. I could care less what physical present I get, she just wants to know what I would want.
Well, if she wants to know what you want "giftwise", then what is it that you think you really want and/or like to do? How about these examples?

1. Vacation tickets.
2. A new DVD/tape player.
3. A new CD/tape player.
4. A new videocamera.
5. Gym membership(s).
6. A new pet (dog, fish/tank, turtle, bird, etc...).
7. Exercise/sports equipment.
8. Got any favorite books you wanna read?
9. Got a nice suit or pair of shoes in mind?
10. Season tickets to a favorite sports team.




Hey, all of the above sound good to me, but maybe you'd like some of them too. I mean, it would be nice to be able to ask to a house, a car or a boat, but man would they be expensive, ya know? Good luck in finding out what fun gift you'd like, but don't forget to remember that you already have the best gift out of anything as long as you both follow alongside God's guidelines and stay committed forever.

[MeerkatMadden]

OP why are you concerned with material things?

[God-Gave-R+R-2-U]

^ I already kinda asked him that, but I guess he just wanted some help on choosing a (material) gift. Obviously a strong, long (hopefully everlasting) marriage would be the best gift of all, but apparently he already said that they had that and now wanted to pick out a material gift for each other. To each his own.:hug:

[NHL Fever]

Apparently, on top of everything else, the bride and groom buy presents for eachother.

I'll probably get her jewelry, or buy her a massage or something like that.

What are some ideas of what I should ask for?

I'm thinking a PS3...I'm not a huge gamer, but I know it has a blu-Ray player also. I have a Wii already. I saw the gamer thread in here too, and would like some input from yall about the PS3.

You could always get a gift card to scantily-clad-items 'R us or your local equivalent. Its the gift that keeps on giving. She gets to shop, you get to enjoy the results, a win-win.

If that backfires, go for the the conference. :P

[Ascension]

Just starting out, I think the best presents are the ones you make yourself, or have some kind of sentimental value. For instance, you might take a picture of the two of you on honeymoon and put it in a frame.

You could buy her a special leather-bound Bible with a special message from you to her written inside the front cover.

Forget the PS3. :)

Think in terms of something unique, unusual, one-of-a-kind, a small treasure of some kind.

Want something completely off the wall?

My wife and I give massage oils, massage booklet, and massage tools to our friends as a wedding gifts. Why? First, no one else would think of it. Second, young couples need to learn to express intimacy through touch, in a relaxed and restful state of mind and body. One thing that husbands need to learn is the art of touch and to learn how to touch a wife without any strings attached if you know what I mean.

So, if you want to give your new wife a gift, give her a nice relaxing massage from the neck down to the toes. And don't expect anything in return. Just enjoy her company in the quiet of an evening. Believe me, after you have children, the quiet evenings will be sorely missed. :)

What to ask for? Let her surprise you and enjoy whatever she gives you. Believe me, its all for the best. :)

Amen to that bro, couldn't agree with you more. Forget the PS3, sorry TFS that's just a bit selfish. This is your wedding to whom you marry a lady for the rest of your life and you want a PS3? 5 years down the road and there will be a new improved Sony Playstation and your wedding gift is now obsolete. You love this lady no doubt, something more sentimental that will last your life time will be of greater value. The most valued gift anyone has ever given me in my life time came from my youngest daughter when she was 10. All it is, is a small block of wood wrapped up in a piece of paper that she decorated. It came with a card with a photo of her and a writing, this is what it reads.
"This special gift from me is just for you to hold. It's only a tiny token but precious- more than gold. If ever you feel lonely, or just a trifle blue remember that this tiny box holds love from me to you. Please do not unwrap it, keep the ribbon tied so all the love I'm sending stays safely locked inside." And I have done just exactly that and I treasure it. So simple, but so effective and I have it to hold for a life time.

[ShadowWolf]

I agree with most of the othe posts. Either use it to serve the Lord (like doing something together to help a charity or something), or use it on marraige resources. The weekend to remember is good from what I hear.

I would highly recommend the "Song of Solomon" series by Tommy Nelson. It is a great tool for the both of you. It talks about sexual relations, marriage, love, lust, arguments, the whole she-bang.

It is an invaluable resource and me and my wife love it very much. Well worth the money.