Man's role in the home/marriage/relationship

[xsellaunt]

Hey guys,

I have been thinking and praying long and hard about marriage to my girl at some point and I want to get your opinions on the man's role in the relationship, from a biblical standpoint.

I know that the bible says the man is the head of the home, spiritual leader etc. Some guys take this wayyyy to far in that they become a tyrant, and others maybe don't do enough. I have spoken to my girl about it and it's been the cause of some discussion. She was brought up by her mom only and didn't have that strong male influence, so she is very strong and independent in that she only saw her mom as the leader. She agrees that spiritually the man is the leader of the home etc but with other things (big decisions etc) it should be joint, which I agree with too, but am I not accepting the true role of the man to have the final say? is that how it should be at all? She sais she knows there will be things that she will be vocal about and others she will step back from and let me take the lead.

I basically want to know if I am not taking up my Godly role as head of the home if I am more willing to make the decision together. I understand there are some things that obviously you have to discuss etc (buying a home, car, motrgage, RRSP etc).

[Denny606]

sorry man if I knew how to handle this any better than you I would probably still be married,But there are just some things I will not compromise on and that didn't fly. My definition of compromise is a way of settling a disagreement where nobody concerned got what they wanted.

[tt1106]

The man's role is to be the spiritual leader and head of the household.
All things should be handled with Love and open communication.
My wife is my other half. We started as good friends so we have lasted through 20 years of marriage with very few challenges.
The key there is in knowing that it is the long haul and not looking at it as a 50-50 relationship. It is a 100-100 relationship. Both of us pour our spirits into our marriage and keep God in the center. I wasn't a Christian for most of our marriage so I cannot explain the growth that we have experienced the last two years since I came to Christ.
We pray together every morning. We read the word of God together. Although we have seperate hobbies, we love to be together and hate to be apart. We put our relationship first (after God) and our children SEE how much we love each other. We get on each others nerves and we bicker and banter. She's a very decided on her Faith and I am still learning, so we constantly argue about doctrine. The important thing has been, that we never go to bed in the midst of an argument. We never sleep in seperate beds, no matter how mad we are. Not to say that we haven't slept on opposite sides of the same bed. :)
In the beginning you have to commit to making others happy at your expense. I take her where she wants to go. We do what she wants to do.
Most of the time, she wants to go where I want to go and do what I want to do.
When you are both selfless, ego and pride become less intense and important.
And we know that Pride is the root of all evil.
Also, I devote all my attention to her, I make a conscious effort to not talk to other women, except in business relationships, but I abstain from flirtation and I try to control my thought life.
These things keep me on the straight and narrow and avoid any delicate circumstances that would cause me guilt later on.
She will eventually as she grows and matures as a Christian learn that submission is not about giving up your identity and being subservient to your husband it's about submitting to his authority the same way we submit to Christ's lordship. We do it because we want to honor and obey him not because we are told to.

[9Marksfan]

The man's role is to be the spiritual leader and head of the household.
All things should be handled with Love and open communication.
My wife is my other half. We started as good friends so we have lasted through 20 years of marriage with very few challenges.
The key there is in knowing that it is the long haul and not looking at it as a 50-50 relationship. It is a 100-100 relationship. Both of us pour our spirits into our marriage and keep God in the center. I wasn't a Christian for most of our marriage so I cannot explain the growth that we have experienced the last two years since I came to Christ.
We pray together every morning. We read the word of God together. Although we have seperate hobbies, we love to be together and hate to be apart. We put our relationship first (after God) and our children SEE how much we love each other. We get on each others nerves and we bicker and banter. She's a very decided on her Faith and I am still learning, so we constantly argue about doctrine. The important thing has been, that we never go to bed in the midst of an argument. We never sleep in seperate beds, no matter how mad we are. Not to say that we haven't slept on opposite sides of the same bed. :)
In the beginning you have to commit to making others happy at your expense. I take her where she wants to go. We do what she wants to do.
Most of the time, she wants to go where I want to go and do what I want to do.
When you are both selfless, ego and pride become less intense and important.
And we know that Pride is the root of all evil.
Also, I devote all my attention to her, I make a conscious effort to not talk to other women, except in business relationships, but I abstain from flirtation and I try to control my thought life.
These things keep me on the straight and narrow and avoid any delicate circumstances that would cause me guilt later on.
She will eventually as she grows and matures as a Christian learn that submission is not about giving up your identity and being subservient to your husband it's about submitting to his authority the same way we submit to Christ's lordship. We do it because we want to honor and obey him not because we are told to.

Excellent post, tt1106.

[9Marksfan]

Hey guys,

I have been thinking and praying long and hard about marriage to my girl at some point and I want to get your opinions on the man's role in the relationship, from a biblical standpoint.

I know that the bible says the man is the head of the home, spiritual leader etc. Some guys take this wayyyy to far in that they become a tyrant, and others maybe don't do enough. I have spoken to my girl about it and it's been the cause of some discussion. She was brought up by her mom only and didn't have that strong male influence, so she is very strong and independent in that she only saw her mom as the leader. She agrees that spiritually the man is the leader of the home etc but with other things (big decisions etc) it should be joint, which I agree with too, but am I not accepting the true role of the man to have the final say? is that how it should be at all? She sais she knows there will be things that she will be vocal about and others she will step back from and let me take the lead.

You really need to discuss this VERY fully with her now - the Scripture says that she must submit to you in ALL things - if she's a strong and independent type, then unless she accepts that truth BEFORE you get hitched, I guarantee you will have major problems.

I basically want to know if I am not taking up my Godly role as head of the home if I am more willing to make the decision together. I understand there are some things that obviously you have to discuss etc (buying a home, car, motrgage, RRSP etc).

You must discuss everything - absolutely - an open, trusting relationship is utterly essential - but if she's only prepared in principle to submit to things that don't really matter to her, that's not really submission, is it? Remember that marriage is meant to reflect Christ's relationship with His church - husbands are to love their wives sacrificially and tenderly, as Christ loves His people. But wives are to submit to husbands in the way they submit to Christ - do you think it's right for ANY of us to say to the LORD, "Hey, I'm not agreeing to THAT! I'll do my OWN thing, thank you very much - and you'd better be OK with that!" Kinda inappropriate, isn't it?

If she feels that's too much, remind her, while both roles are INCREDIBLY demanding, YOUR role is WAY harder. If that's still not good enough for her and she isn't prepared to lay down her strong, independent spirit and die to self a bit, then I think you have to think very seriously indeed about whether this is the right girl for you. PM me if you want to discuss things further.

Blessings.

Nigel

[JK18]

You really need to discuss this VERY fully with her now - the Scripture says that she must submit to you in ALL things - if she's a strong and independent type, then unless she accepts that truth BEFORE you get hitched, I guarantee you will have major problems.



You must discuss everything - absolutely - an open, trusting relationship is utterly essential - but if she's only prepared in principle to submit to things that don't really matter to her, that's not really submission, is it? Remember that marriage is meant to reflect Christ's relationship with His church - husbands are to love their wives sacrificially and tenderly, as Christ loves His people. But wives are to submit to husbands in the way they submit to Christ - do you think it's right for ANY of us to say to the LORD, "Hey, I'm not agreeing to THAT! I'll do my OWN thing, thank you very much - and you'd better be OK with that!" Kinda inappropriate, isn't it?

If she feels that's too much, remind her, while both roles are INCREDIBLY demanding, YOUR role is WAY harder. If that's still not good enough for her and she isn't prepared to lay down her strong, independent spirit and die to self a bit, then I think you have to think very seriously indeed about whether this is the right girl for you. PM me if you want to discuss things further.

Blessings.

Nigel
Can you please exsplain what you mean by Submit in all things. I'm not sure I fully understand what you mean.

[9Marksfan]

Can you please exsplain what you mean by Submit in all things. I'm not sure I fully understand what you mean.

I was just quoting the Scriptures:-

Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their husbands in everything. Eph 5:24 NKJV

The Greek is hupotasso and is primarily a military term - troops being subject to their officers. Surely all Christians must show complete loyalty and submission to Christ and not display any kind of self-will or independent spirit, expecting Him to "rubber stamp" all our little plans and ambitions? Sadly, modern feminist and egalitarian philosophies have led some Christians to be embarrassed - even ashamed - of these passages, but God's word is unchanged. Do you have a problem with God's order in marriage?

[JK18]

so, are you saying that a wife has to go along with everything her husband says?

[xsellaunt]

way. See what yu are saying. I don't think she only agrees in principal, she has come a long way snce we started talking about it. N retrospect she does give me the final word on various things in our relationship so. Am prbably stressing over nothing right now. But we will coninue to talk about it. Thanks for yur help!

[xsellaunt]

way. See what yu are saying. I don't think she only agrees in principal, she has come a long way snce we started talking about it. N retrospect she does give me the final word on various things in our relationship so. Am prbably stressing over nothing right now. But we will coninue to talk about it. Thanks for yur help!


Sorry lol, I typed it from my cell phone so it's kinda messed up gramatically.

[9Marksfan]

so, are you saying that a wife has to go along with everything her husband says?

If he is encouraging her to sin, of course not. If he is exemplifying Christlike sacrificial love and displaying biblical wisdom - absolutely. For the miilion and one questionable decisions he takes - are you saying the wife should say no if she thinks she knows better? If so, who is in fact the head? Who has the FINAL say?

[9Marksfan]

Sorry lol, I typed it from my cell phone so it's kinda messed up gramatically.

Did you mean to say "No way"? That's encouraging but you need to think of umpteen hypothetical situations - and stuff WAY far ahead like what you're going to do about sex after you've decided not to have any more kids - will you have a vasectomy? What if you say "yes" now but later change your mind? You really need to see if she will respect your headship in EVERYTHING - if not, then you have to question whether she's prepared to follow the bible - granted, many (most? ALL?!?) wives won't AGREE with every decision of their husband, but will they joyfully and willingly SUBMIT to them? THAT'S the big question!

[JK18]

If he is encouraging her to sin, of course not. If he is exemplifying Christlike sacrificial love and displaying biblical wisdom - absolutely. For the miilion and one questionable decisions he takes - are you saying the wife should say no if she thinks she knows better? If so, who is in fact the head? Who has the FINAL say?

Marriage is a partnership. And I hate to brake it to you, but the husband isn't always going to be right, so, I think that a couple should pray over things, and work them out together. The husband doesn't rule over his wife, and the wife doesn't rule over her husband they are equals. Now yes the Husband is the head of the house, but that doesn't give him the right to tell his wife what to do all the time. Correct me if I'm wrong here, but You talk like a wife has no say at all.

[9Marksfan]

Marriage is a partnership.

Yes, but not an equal one in the sense that neither partner has a casting vote. What happens when there's an impasse?

And I hate to brake it to you, but the husband isn't always going to be right, so, I think that a couple should pray over things, and work them out together.

I never denied that. But I'm sorry to brEAK it to you, but a wife isn't always going to be right either (batons down the hatches while he awaits tirade of male chauvinist accusations.....)

The husband doesn't rule over his wife, and the wife doesn't rule over her husband they are equals.

That's not what the bible teaches. A head rules. An officer rules his troops. They are not equals when it comes to rank. As I said, do you have a problem with God's order in marriage?

Now yes the Husband is the head of the house, but that doesn't give him the right to tell his wife what to do all the time.

Correct - but who has ultimate decision-making authority when there's a disagreement that can't be resolved?

Correct me if I'm wrong here, but You talk like a wife has no say at all.

You're misinterpreting me - of course the wife has a say and of course there should be discussion and prayer. But when a soldier disagrees with his commanding officer, who ultimately has to submit?

[JK18]

Yes, but not an equal one in the sense that neither partner has a casting vote. What happens when there's an impasse?



1. I never denied that. But I'm sorry to brEAK it to you, but a wife isn't always going to be right either (batons down the hatches while he awaits tirade of male chauvinist accusations.....)



2. That's not what the bible teaches. A head rules. An officer rules his troops. They are not equals when it comes to rank. As I said, do you have a problem with God's order in marriage?



3. Correct - but who has ultimate decision-making authority when there's a disagreement that can't be resolved?


4You're misinterpreting me - of course the wife has a say and of course there should be discussion and prayer. But when a soldier disagrees with his commanding officer, who ultimately has to submit?
ok I have numbered what you said and I will answer them in order.
1. I never said that a wife would be. Neither one will allways be right. That is why you must pray about things and work them out together
2. No I don't have a problem with God's order in Marriage, but Scriptures on this are miss understood and miss used all the time.
3.I believe if you have a dissagreement that can't be resolved than you should both pray about it, and let God have the final say
4.On this I kind of agree to a point, but I believe compromise is best in some of this. Because as I said before their will be times when you won’t be right and their will be times when she won’t be right.

[9Marksfan]

ok I have numbered what you said and I will answer them in order.
1. I never said that a wife would be. Neither one will allways be right. That is why you must pray about things and work them out together

Agreed - up to the point of impasse. Then we disagree.

2. No I don't have a problem with God's order in Marriage, but Scriptures on this are miss understood and miss used all the time.

You mean people like me who refer to the Greek and remind folk that the husband is in a God-given "officer" position (albeit a considerate and caring one, yet an officer nonetheless)? Please expand. Do you think your relationship eith Christ is an equal partnership where you, like Peter, advise him on a better course of action?

3.I believe if you have a dissagreement that can't be resolved than you should both pray about it, and let God have the final say

Where do you find that in the Bible? If the wife believed that, she is failing to submit. If the husband goes along with that, he is relinquishing his headship. Let's go back to the military situation - if a soldier and a platoon commander disagree, do they go to a higher officer to leave him to sort it out? Of course not! I guess a soldier has a right to complain about his platoon commander's behaviour to the commanding officer, but if a platoon commander is operating within his remit and hasn't behaved unreasonably in the eyes of the commanding officer, what kind of treatment do you think the soldier is gonna get? Pretty short shrift, I reckon! We're in the LORD's army and there are spiritual battles to be fought - it's no accident that Eph 6 (spiritual warfare) comes right after Eph 5 (marriage, family, workplace) because THESE are the arenas where the Devil seeks to get a foothold in our lives. If we rebel against God's order, whether we're kids, wives or employees or if we abuse our position as parents, husbands or employers, we better watch out....

Please remember that I said earlier that I accept that the husband has a MUCH harder role in his responsbility to love his wife as tenderly, patiently and sacrificially as Christ loves the church. But remember Paul's instructions to Titus:-

But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Tit 2:1-4 NKJV

Do you have a problem with these instructions? Do you perhaps believe they belong to another era and are perhaps cultural only?

4.On this I kind of agree to a point, but I believe compromise is best in some of this. Because as I said before their will be times when you won’t be right and their will be times when she won’t be right.

Of course. If a husband is wrong (as he will frequently be) and his wife points this out - graciously - then he should rethink things. But if she just doesn't like his views and feels she knows better and after discussion they can't agree - in particular if there is either no pressing spiritual principle about the matter at stake but the husband simply feels it's the wise thing to do (eg moving job, moving area, etc) OR if there IS and the husband can show clearly from Scripture that he is correct and the wife just doesn't "get it" (eg changing or choosing a church) - what then? Who submits?

[Buck shot]

My wife likes to say that I'm her umbrella :lol:

If we disagree on how we are going to do something (which is getting more and more rare :pray: thank you Lord) she lets me know what she would do and then does it my way. She also reminds me that I will have to answer for the outcome before the Lord :)

[JK18]

Agreed - up to the point of impasse. Then we disagree.



You mean people like me who refer to the Greek and remind folk that the husband is in a God-given "officer" position (albeit a considerate and caring one, yet an officer nonetheless)? Please expand. Do you think your relationship eith Christ is an equal partnership where you, like Peter, advise him on a better course of action?



Where do you find that in the Bible? If the wife believed that, she is failing to submit. If the husband goes along with that, he is relinquishing his headship. Let's go back to the military situation - if a soldier and a platoon commander disagree, do they go to a higher officer to leave him to sort it out? Of course not! I guess a soldier has a right to complain about his platoon commander's behaviour to the commanding officer, but if a platoon commander is operating within his remit and hasn't behaved unreasonably in the eyes of the commanding officer, what kind of treatment do you think the soldier is gonna get? Pretty short shrift, I reckon! We're in the LORD's army and there are spiritual battles to be fought - it's no accident that Eph 6 (spiritual warfare) comes right after Eph 5 (marriage, family, workplace) because THESE are the arenas where the Devil seeks to get a foothold in our lives. If we rebel against God's order, whether we're kids, wives or employees or if we abuse our position as parents, husbands or employers, we better watch out....

Please remember that I said earlier that I accept that the husband has a MUCH harder role in his responsbility to love his wife as tenderly, patiently and sacrificially as Christ loves the church. But remember Paul's instructions to Titus:-

But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Tit 2:1-4 NKJV

Do you have a problem with these instructions? Do you perhaps believe they belong to another era and are perhaps cultural only?



Of course. If a husband is wrong (as he will frequently be) and his wife points this out - graciously - then he should rethink things. But if she just doesn't like his views and feels she knows better and after discussion they can't agree - in particular if there is either no pressing spiritual principle about the matter at stake but the husband simply feels it's the wise thing to do (eg moving job, moving area, etc) OR if there IS and the husband can show clearly from Scripture that he is correct and the wife just doesn't "get it" (eg changing or choosing a church) - what then? Who submits?



ok. I'm going to adress two things here. But first let me state that I am by no meas saying That we are the same or more than God, and I'm not saying a husband dosn't deserv respect, but you have to understand that doesn't mean we have a right to tell our wives what to do. Now when the Lord is telling you to do something that is different. But anyway on to your question.




You mean people like me who refer to the Greek and remind folk that the husband is in a God-given "officer" position (albeit a considerate and caring one, yet an officer nonetheless)? Please expand. Do you think your relationship eith Christ is an equal partnership where you, like Peter, advise him on a better course of action?
I answered this in the above statement
Since I don't know how to put it into a quote I will separate it and put the first question in bold.

Where do you find that in the Bible? If the wife believed that, she is failing to submit. If the husband goes along with that, he is relinquishing his headship.
Where do I find that in the Bible? (this in theNew International version as will be the other vers) Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.
And James 1:5, If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.
God is suposed to lead us. If the Husband and wife aren't willing to let God have the final say How can the Husband lead his family in a Godly way? God knows more than we do and wants what is best for us. So when a husband and wife have a dissagreement that can't be resolved than they should seek God and let him have the final say Because God won't stear you wrong.


Let's go back to the military situation - if a soldier and a platoon commander disagree, do they go to a higher officer to leave him to sort it out? Of course not! I guess a soldier has a right to complain about his platoon commander's behaviour to the commanding officer, but if a platoon commander is operating within his remit and hasn't behaved unreasonably in the eyes of the commanding officer, what kind of treatment do you think the soldier is gonna get? Pretty short shrift, I reckon! We're in the LORD's army and there are spiritual battles to be fought - it's no accident that Eph 6 (spiritual warfare) comes right after Eph 5 (marriage, family, workplace) because THESE are the arenas where the Devil seeks to get a foothold in our lives. If we rebel against God's order, whether we're kids, wives or employees or if we abuse our position as parents, husbands or employers, we better watch out....
Yes we are in a spiritual War and the devil is trying to get a foothold in our lives all the more reason that A Husband and wife should come together and seek the Lord and let him lead. For whil yes the Husband is the head of the house God is the one who tells the man what to do.
Please remember that I said earlier that I accept that the husband has a MUCH harder role in his responsbility to love his wife as tenderly, patiently and sacrificially as Christ loves the church. But remember Paul's instructions to Titus:-
Ok.. Um how is it so, hard to love your wife tenderly? Ok maybe the other might be kinda hard, but come on.
But as for you, speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine: that the older men be sober, reverent, temperate, sound in faith, in love, in patience; the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed. Tit 2:1-4 NKJV

[baxpack7]

Hey there X-blessings to you my brother in Christ

I'm not sure about these other guys writing responses, but as a veteran of 23 1/2 years of marriage, I'd like to offer up MY two cents:2cents:

Our marriage has been wonderful, yet VERY rocky early on. It was because we were both NOT truly saved and made some very bad choices. So, when we both came to Christ after being married for awhile, we decided to let God lead our marriage, which leads me to put up this bible passage:
Ephesians 5:21-25
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Yes, wives are supposed to submit in a respectful way, not a weak way. My wife and I certainly share in all the decisions, she then steps back and tells me that the ultimate decision is mine and since I am the biblically-appointed head-of-household, I go with the best decision, which is what we had been discussing anyway! The bible also says this:

Gen 2:24 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=1&CHAP=2&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Remember that even as you make the ultimate decision, that she, as a part of your flesh, is actually making that decision with you!

I wanted to throw two more verses out to you:


Prov 18:22 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=20&CHAP=18&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=22) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Prov 19:14 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=20&CHAP=19&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=14) House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.


God has given you a blessing of a wife to have and to hold, for better or for worse, but be assured that you've been blessed with a treasure! Love and respect her just as "Christ loved the church" and pray and read the word together and grow together.

God bless

[9Marksfan]

Hey there X-blessings to you my brother in Christ

I'm not sure about these other guys writing responses, but as a veteran of 23 1/2 years of marriage, I'd like to offer up MY two cents:2cents:

Our marriage has been wonderful, yet VERY rocky early on. It was because we were both NOT truly saved and made some very bad choices. So, when we both came to Christ after being married for awhile, we decided to let God lead our marriage, which leads me to put up this bible passage:
Ephesians 5:21-25
21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Yes, wives are supposed to submit in a respectful way, not a weak way. My wife and I certainly share in all the decisions, she then steps back and tells me that the ultimate decision is mine and since I am the biblically-appointed head-of-household, I go with the best decision, which is what we had been discussing anyway! The bible also says this:

Gen 2:24 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=1&CHAP=2&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=24) Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Remember that even as you make the ultimate decision, that she, as a part of your flesh, is actually making that decision with you!

I wanted to throw two more verses out to you:


Prov 18:22 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=20&CHAP=18&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=22) Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
Prov 19:14 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=20&CHAP=19&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=14) House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.


God has given you a blessing of a wife to have and to hold, for better or for worse, but be assured that you've been blessed with a treasure! Love and respect her just as "Christ loved the church" and pray and read the word together and grow together.

God bless

Great post - but who are you addressing? The OP ain't married!

[baxpack7]

Hmmmmmm:rolleyes: you know, you're right......

Oh well, maybe I'll cut and paste it for the next time a married guy needs that type of advice:D