Dealing with Irritation

[J<3sunshine]

I'm pretty much stuck in a house with seven people. Three kids and who are loud and routy, none of the disciplined the way they should be. I'm the only Christian in this house. I love them very much, but sometimes they push me to the edge. God has delt with me about my tendency to react with agression. Any tips? :B

[markdrums]

I'm pretty much stuck in a house with seven people. Three kids and who are loud and routy, none of the disciplined the way they should be. I'm the only Christian in this house. I love them very much, but sometimes they push me to the edge. God has delt with me about my tendency to react with agression. Any tips? :B

Hey Hey,

I'm a Husband, Father, former traveling musician, warehouse manager.
I've spent many days/weeks/months years etc... being confined with a variety of people; Family, friends, bandmembers...(who BTW are the worst! LOL!) So yeah, I have experience with being stuck in the company of MANY differing personality types. ;)

My questions for you would start with:
Seven people? (3 of which are undisciplined children?)
Who else is in the house? And Who do the children belong to?

You also mention reacting to them with aggression...... (Now be honest with me) What kind of agression are we talking about? How aggressive do you get / have you been?

If your aggression towards these children is to the point that God needs to deal with you, are you visiting the forums in an effort to get some help?

Because, if that's the case, I'm sure there are folks here that CAN help you through this situation.

All ya' gotta do is ask.
:)

God Bless,

-Mark

[DaniHansen]

Prayer.

Prayer.

And more prayer after that.

For yourself, for the kids, for everyone in the house. Call God unto the scene. Ask Him to take control. Ask Him to give you grace. Then ask for more grace. Read your Bible. Often. Pray. Often.

And do make sure you make time for yourself. We all need a breather and some alone time, even if it's for just a few minutes locked in the bathroom.

The best way to deal with aggression and unkind thoughts toward children is to just become involved in their lives, and really pay attention to them. Kids tend to be a nuisance if there is competition for attention and if they feel nobody cares or is paying attention and if there are very little or no boundaries set by the adults. Involve yourself. Pray for them. Play with them. Talk to them. Show interest in them. Keep them busy. Become their best friend. Take control of the situation and be their role model. We often can become reactionary when we feel we have no control. That's a lie. There are things you can do to take control and to influence them. Take them to the park, to the library, play with them in the yard, and spend quality time. Involve them in chores. Cook with them. Bake with them. Help clean up the house with them. Give them responsibility. Help them with their homework. Listen to them share their day, and ask questions. Don't just talk at them, talk to them. Pretty soon, you'll be too in love with them to be angry at the little things. Be kind, but firm. Show them how it's done, and don't forget to have fun while you do it. :)

[revrobor]

I'm pretty much stuck in a house with seven people. Three kids and who are loud and routy, none of the disciplined the way they should be. I'm the only Christian in this house. I love them very much, but sometimes they push me to the edge. God has delt with me about my tendency to react with agression. Any tips? :B

The only person you can control is you. Your reaction to any situation is under your control. If you can't eliminate that situation then you need to exercise control over your reaction to it.

[Followtheway]

I work at a youth treatment facility:

1. Your in charge

2. No is no

3. No big speeches to explain things, you are their authority apointed by the Lord

4. The rod is a must, but not done out of anger

5. For every action they do, give them an equal or greater reaction. (exp: up late talking on phone they lose phone privlidges for a week)

6. stay calm, they will always match your temper

7. make sure you have time for yourself

8. The Lord first

9. you can run things like a class (lines, raising hands, etc.)

10. the Lord says to raise them up in his ways and they will not depart

11. Its ok to play drill sargent

you can also take a look at Dr. James Leihman

[bagofseed]

I'm pretty much stuck in a house with seven people. Three kids and who are loud and routy, none of the disciplined the way they should be. I'm the only Christian in this house. I love them very much, but sometimes they push me to the edge. God has delt with me about my tendency to react with agression. Any tips? :B

When dealing with Irritation I would suggest applying a good cream before bed. :D

Have the right heart behind any aggression. (Be angry about the things God is)
Consider your self as less important then them. (if God sacrificed his son for sinners like us, he would sacrifice you for sinners like them.)
Thank God for them. (testing makes you stronger, Lover stronger still)
Pray for them, ask them what to pray for. (open a door for God to show Him self to them through answered prayers)
Don't skimp on the gospel. (print it out and hang it on your door or something)
Be ready to give an answer (stay in the word)

Sounds like God has given you a great opportunity, that and the sooner you do your job there the sooner your situation will change.

God Keep You