with masterbation/pornography problem.

[Mandyrin]

J hi,

I just signed up to this board yesterday and I've been struggling with this (lust, masterbation, pornography) before I was a believer and since - I'm now convinced, short of being ill or surgically castrated every bloke must too to one degree or another. The other week I borrowed Everyman's Battle from the local international church library and thought I'd laid this one to rest. Well, I sure got that one wrong! It did help enormously though and I feel I'm on the way to a final fix but the idea of an accountability partner would help methinks. Plus, I don't have any local support on this one.

Btw, I need to change my name. I signed in with it yesterday as a sort of knee-jerk thing since it's pretty inocuous but then since it could mistakenly be construed as a girl's name, and I'm a bloke, it's probably better to change it. I don't want to offend anyone, or have anyone thinking I'm some kind of pre-op trannie:). I'm 48 married with a daughter aged 8.

Be blessed this week,
D

moderator insert: posters who wish to reply..remember that specific accountability partners..not encouraged ..see guidelines about this by our administrator in our sticky above this section. Okay to give help on this thread though.

Guidelines for BtC about this are here: http://bibleforums.org/forum/showthread.php?p=1948531#post1948531

[turtledove]

J hi,

I just signed up to this board yesterday and I'm sure it's no coincidence that I'm answering your post today. You sound just like me. I've been struggling with this before I was a believer and since - I'm now convinced, short of being ill or surgically castrated every bloke must too to one degree or another. The other week I borrowed Everyman's Battle from the local international church library and thought I'd laid this one to rest. Well, I sure got that one wrong! It did help enormously though and I feel I'm on the way to a final fix but the idea of an accountability partner would help methinks. Plus, unlike you I don't have any local support on this one.

Btw, I need to change my name. I signed in with it yesterday as a sort of knee-jerk thing since it's pretty inocuous but then since it could mistakenly be construed as a girl's name, and I'm a bloke, it's probably better to change it. I don't want to offend anyone, or have anyone thinking I'm some kind of pre-op trannie:). I'm 48 married with a daughter aged 8.

Be blessed this week,
D

Rather than posting your need on another poster's thread we ask that you start your own..so I have started one for you. I moved this to Breaking the Chains which is the section for those who want help regarding breaking this habit (masterbation).

However, we don't provide nor encourage accountability partners here on our forum in the Counseling sections. Please see this post in our guidelines (a sticky at the top of this section) in which our administrator's comments about this are given along with the reasons why.

http://bibleforums.org/forum/showthread.php?p=1948531#post1948531

As for a name change, in order to do that you will have to start a thread in Chat2Moderators section as I don't do that. An administrator will help you there. But know that only one name change is allowed per poster.

Welcome to the forum and you are welcome to post more here about your problem on this thread where others will be most willing to help.

[baxpack7]

J hi,

I just signed up to this board yesterday and I've been struggling with this (lust, masterbation, pornography) before I was a believer and since - I'm now convinced, short of being ill or surgically castrated every bloke must too to one degree or another. The other week I borrowed Everyman's Battle from the local international church library and thought I'd laid this one to rest. Well, I sure got that one wrong! It did help enormously though and I feel I'm on the way to a final fix but the idea of an accountability partner would help methinks. Plus, I don't have any local support on this one.

Btw, I need to change my name. I signed in with it yesterday as a sort of knee-jerk thing since it's pretty inocuous but then since it could mistakenly be construed as a girl's name, and I'm a bloke, it's probably better to change it. I don't want to offend anyone, or have anyone thinking I'm some kind of pre-op trannie:). I'm 48 married with a daughter aged 8.

Be blessed this week,
D

moderator insert: posters who wish to reply..remember that specific accountability partners..not encouraged ..see guidelines about this by our administrator in our sticky above this section. Okay to give help on this thread though.

Guidelines for BtC about this are here: http://bibleforums.org/forum/showthread.php?p=1948531#post1948531

Mandaryin, this is a cut-n-paste from another thread. It is from the heart because the addictions are similar.

Hello M and welcome to the forums. I also want to welcome you to the "Recovery: Breaking the Chains" section of this forum. We want to extend to you any help we can by lending an ear and giving advice where the Spirit leads us.

Addiction is a crutch. Whether that addiction is from food, alcohol, video games, internet, porn or masturbation. Addictions are things that bring us out of fellowship with the Creator because they take your focus off of the things of the kingdom and redirect your focus on the things of this world.
Jesus says:
Mk 4:19 (http://bibledatabase.org/cgi-bin/bib_search/bible.cgi?BIBLE=48&BOOK=41&CHAP=4&SEARCH=jesus%20king%20lord&Read=Read&FIRST=OK&HV=19) And the cares of this world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful.

My area of addiction-recovery is not so much porn/masturbation (although it did tie in somewhat with my drug addiction) but all addiction is tied in through the evil one, giving him a foothold in your life where God desires to be. Resist the devil-turn to God and He will help you through this. Cheech, Slug1, wiseoldowl, and myself are the mods for this section, and anytime you feel a need to post, especially about you progress, then feel free to do so. We can help you by praying with, and for you and offering up advice as the Spirit wills us to do. We all have a signature at the bottom of our posts or on the profile pages. Check them out and hopefully it will be some assistance on the road to your recovery.

May God bless you my friend

[Slug1]

J hi,

I just signed up to this board yesterday and I've been struggling with this (lust, masterbation, pornography) before I was a believer and since - I'm now convinced, short of being ill or surgically castrated every bloke must too to one degree or another. The other week I borrowed Everyman's Battle from the local international church library and thought I'd laid this one to rest. Well, I sure got that one wrong! It did help enormously though and I feel I'm on the way to a final fix but the idea of an accountability partner would help methinks. Plus, I don't have any local support on this one.Hey Dude, I haven't read this book but I have dealt with this exact problem before and after my walk with Christ began. Struggled for many years and am still hit with temptation.

What do you do to combat the temptation in your attempt to keep the temptation from becoming sin? In my signature is a link to my testimony and a portion of that is about my problems with and deliverance from my sexual immorality.


Btw, I need to change my name. I signed in with it yesterday as a sort of knee-jerk thing since it's pretty inocuous but then since it could mistakenly be construed as a girl's name, and I'm a bloke, it's probably better to change it. I don't want to offend anyone, or have anyone thinking I'm some kind of pre-op trannie:). I'm 48 married with a daughter aged 8.

Be blessed this week,
D

Once you start a thread in Chat to the Moderators, this can be worked out.

[Pilgrimtozion]

Just remember that you have a choice. Every single time. In Christ, you have the power to say no. I know it might not feel like that sometimes, but my personal opinion is that Satan wants nothing more than for you to believe the lie that you simply have to give in. The Word says that His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through the knowledge of Christ. Romans 6 was a great help for me in realizing that I don't have to give in but have the power to say no. Temptation might come your way and I'm not sure that will ever go away...but every day is a new day and every choice is a new choice. Your past doesn't have to determine your future. Christ has won it all, and you can walk in His victory any time you decide to put your faith in Him.

[Slug1]

I also keep this scripture in my head along with others:

1 Corinthians 10:12-14 (New King James Version)

12 Therefore let him who thinks he stands take heed lest he fall. 13 No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

It's up to us to take the escape or give in to temptation.

Read James chapter one and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you're not gonna forget who you are in Christ when you turn away and go through the day. Allot of good stuff in that first chapter of James to understand stuggle and standing up to struggle.

[gringo300]

Learn from my mistakes:

NEVER LET YOUR GUARD DOWN.

If you hear a voice (not necessary a literal voice) telling you: "The danger of temptation has passed. It's safe for you to let your guard down now.", DO NOT LISTEN TO THAT "VOICE". If you do, it will bring you nothing but misery.

As long as you have a sin nature, the struggle WILL continue.

[beewagfella]

I hear you loud and clear I have tried everything as well
I guess I have come to the point of not trying to be so hard on myself. I used to cry and act out by other sin such as drinking and drugs which would lead me into rage which would lead me back into that sin I originally did! It can be an endless cycle. I used to study the bible all day memorize scriptures. All of this is good. I believe it is a combination of things. Number one you need accountability other than your wife or girlfriend don't ever tell them as tempted you will be. Someone that understands, but will challenge you. Don't listen or watch to anything sensual as much as you can. Get involved in some kind of ministry involving fellowship. Again everything in moderation. With this disease we do things all or nothing. Learn new ways and different ways of coping with this. Remember as God gives grace which He allways does and never runs out give grace to yourself. Stop beating yourself up He won't so you shouldn't either :B