Awful Dreams

[LoveGod_LovePeople]

This has some sexual content. Nothing graphic at ALL but I thought I would warn you just in case.

I'm a christian 19 yo girl and in my waking life since i've been in middle school, high school, and college I've never had sexual desires for the same sex. When I was in grade school I had a couple encounters with friends of mine mainly because we were just learning about everything and were curious. Since then I've always had and enjoyed boyfriends. I have an amazing boyfriend right now that I know i'm physically attracted to, but I keep having these awful homosexual dreams. I wake up disgusted and distressed and I pray every night for them to go away and they do for a while but then eventually Ill have one again. I just don't understand these dreams at all. It's not a struggle for me while I'm awake, unless I'm so freaked out by my dreams that I started questioning myself in general. I don't know what to do about them anymore. I've talked to my counselor but he doesn't think they are a big deal. I don't know if I should tell my boyfriend because it doesn't have much bearing on me when I'm awake (unless I'm scared). What do these dreams mean? And do you have any suggestions on how to stop them?

[DaniHansen]

Dreams come and go, and there isn't anything inherently "evil" about them. They're just dreams, and they can be rooted in all sorts of things we encounter during any given day. Maybe one of your friends is having a struggle in that area, and God is simply calling you to pray for her and showing you what she is going through? Who knows?

So don't torment yourelf over it and just pray and give these things over to God and do as He tells you. Pretty soon you'll be dreaming about something entirely different, I'm sure. :hug:

[moonglow]

I wouldn't tell your boyfriend because it would only cause problems. I think we all could 'guess' why this is happening which might not be helpful at all...I think you need to ask God why. Also check any medications you might be taking..even over the counter meds. Many times they can cause strange dreams and even nightmares. Once the med is stopped the dreams stop..

God bles

[LoveGod_LovePeople]

Thanks for the replys. I just found out that I have OCD which can cause a fear of being homosexual. I saw a movie a couple weeks ago I saw a movie with a lesbian in it and it freaked me out so I just thought about it a lot which I can only assume is why the dreams started. I will just have to pray through it.

[moonglow]

Thanks for the replys. I just found out that I have OCD which can cause a fear of being homosexual. I saw a movie a couple weeks ago I saw a movie with a lesbian in it and it freaked me out so I just thought about it a lot which I can only assume is why the dreams started. I will just have to pray through it.

Ok I see...well I think you need to be more careful about the types of movies you watch..and things you read too so they don't trigger this in you. Are you getting on medication for the OCD? That can help alot....

God bless

[LoveGod_LovePeople]

Yeah I am being much more careful about things I watch in general because there are multiple things that i'm kind of OCD about that can get triggered easily by things like that. But I'm going to talk to my therapist about medication when I see him next. I just wish this world weren't so depraved.

[ohmylove]

Here is something that could help you out:
http://bbs.stresscenter.com/eve/forums/a/tpc/f/372105472/m/3771025954/p/1

this is a thread from people that were HOCD sufferers. My brother included, he has a severe case of OCD, and I mean really severe. From what I researched it takes just one thing to trigger it. In your case.. a video. But it can also come from teasing by your peers that can get that obsession to become an issue in your mind.

[Welder4Christ]

There is no reason to be afraid of homosexuals or lesbians. They are people, just like you and I, who are in need of a saviour, just like you and I were.

There is no need to be afraid of them...just pray for them.

[Sojourner]

LoveGod_LovePeople, my best friend was molested as a child and into his adult life would go to homose-ual webpages. I didn't learn of his molestation though him or his wife straight forwardly, I ask his wife (maybe through discernment), if he ever molested - she said, yes.

I never judged him or change my behavior towards him and now (no thanks to me, thats not what I am saying here) he is having great victory.

Perhaps you need to go to the Throne of Grace and repent of improprieties and sin; get a clean slate today and open up God's avenue of Grace to flow in your life.

Your dreams will be sweet and untroubled if you read a portion of God's Word last thing before you turn over to sleep.

Thanks for the previous counsellors, praise God for counsellors.