New - Could use some encouragement

[Sunshineformyheart]

Goodness, I don't know where to start. These last few weeks have been a blur, but God is doing a lot!
3 weeks ago, my best guy friend & more (of 14 years) - and I broke up. I now see that I was making him an idol in my life. I think he might be a Christian, but I don't really know - all I know is that I was willing to date & marry him even if I didn't know he was a Christian....*sigh* God has shown me that I was in disobedience, & I have repented.
I moved to a new state to be with & work for this friend a few months ago - I also live in a house his family owns. I feel at peace, however, about being here for now.
When we broke up, he told me that he felt like something was holding him back - that maybe it wasn't God's will - that if it were up to him, he would. Sadly, I saw him with another woman (arms around each other) 2 days after we broke up. :cry: I found out that she is not a Christian. I know that there is a spiritual battle going on, because in Jan., my friend told me that he could see what it meant to be unequally yoked (he told me this in reference to his male best friend, who is not a Christian). I believe that God was warning him about this woman he's now seeing at that time. (He was in turmoil about choosing between me & her for a while.)
I have asked God to help me give up hope for this man, & I know that it is not God's will for me to be with him (even as best friends only), because I do not know if he is truly a Christian or not. I have prayed a lot about this situation and now feel that I'd rather be single than be in disobedience to God in an unequally yoked relationship. I have also prayed a lot for deliverance for this man and that God will provide him with a Godly, Christian woman. I'm in new territory here! I see how prayer is helping me to grow closer to God - a conversation! (not just selfish desires, like how I used to pray a lot before). I believe that God has the victory here - that He loves this man even more than I love him, & that His desire is for both this man & me to draw closer to Him; that NO plan of the enemy will succeed. I have prayed that God help me to not try to take this situation into my own hands, and to trust Him in everything - to guide my words & actions when I have to interact with this man (I still work for him). I have also prayed that God keep me from him so that I can keep putting God first in my life. I do miss my friend, & I know that he misses me. He used to call me every night, & I was his only Christian friend. I've prayed for God to send him an abundance of Christian friends & a spiritual Mom & Dad to help him.
I could use some encouragement & prayers.

[Diggindeeper]

Oh my...Sunshine! You are in a difficult place. I'm wondering, how often must you see him? I know you said you work for him. Do you work every day, side by side, or in the same office or something?

I'm going to really pray for you, if you must see him and work with him daily.
To me, that would be so, SO hard. What a shame we can't turn off love like you do a light switch. And you see, I went through something very similar, but I did not have to see him or talk to my husband every day. I did not dare. I knew he was my weakness.

But at this terrible time in my own life, it was HERE, in the midst of pain so horrible its hard to describe, that I really drew closer to God than I had ever been before. It was during this time I came to know the POWER of His strength! Whatever you do, hold tight to that unseen hand, and read your Bible, and if possible at all...please find a church where you can have other Christians to surround you, and help hold you up!

We will be here, on this board for you, I promise! But oh dear, I don't know what I would have done without caring neighbors and other friends at church.

I pray that God gives you strength to go on, in spite of working for him, and living in a home that his family owns. DON'T GIVE UP! DON'T GIVE IN! DON'T WEAKEN!

I promise, God DOES honor our faithfulness!
You are doing the right thing.
I can't promise that God will change him in a hurry, but I can promise that God WILL honor your faithfulness! In ways you can never imagine! :hug:

[miepie]

I agree with Diggindeeper.......
I was married to an unbeliever and it all became a big mess in the end......
then I started to listen to God and He led me to a good husband who loves Him as much as I do..... I am married again now for 4 1/2 years and I love every minute of it! It's difficult as we are both battling a disease that will never go away again and creates much pain, but we hold on tight to God's Hand and He'll lead us through anything.......

I think you did the right thing..... if possible you should come all the way free of him...... so you can heal from this...... :hug:

Love you,
Mieke :kiss:

[Sunshineformyheart]

God has been working in this situation, but I am having a rough day.
I am glad that I don't have to physically see my friend, but I still have to speak with him on the phone occasionally. It's hard when he compliments me - I get my eyes off God for bit, then have to pray instantly for God to help me. I am crying out to God all day to help me to put Him first; to not look at the flesh & what's happening in the world; to remind me that this man is unequally yoked to me, & to keep my motives pure when I pray.
God has been answering prayer. I believe that He has been calling my friend to Him. I see that he is weary & is looking for something to fill him - he chose to date an unbeliever, unfortunately. I know that God was talking to him re. being unequally yoked back in Jan. God had also been making him bolder in sharing his beliefs with unbelievers.
Well, God is showing me how to pray. Easter I spent with God - going to church, then praying. I asked Him to guide my prayers - to pray what He wants me to pray & to take away my selfish motives *again* :pray:
I started praying that the Holy Spirit pour out over my friend - to fill him from his head down to his toes - to open his mind to give him understanding, to open his eyes to see & his ears to hear, to fill every part of his body (like silt or soil that absorbs water), & to give him a new heart - a soft heart that turns to God & desires salvation. I then started thinking re. how he would shine when God had filled him - it made me laugh. I don't know why I found it funny, but I laughed for quite awhile. I thought "oh, boy, what's his family going to think when they see him shining?"
I went to the Bible after, thinking how can this be? Can the Holy Spirt pour out onto someone who might not be a Christian? God showed me verses in Ezekiel 25-27; 1 Samuel 10 (Saul's conversion), & more. Wow... blew my mind. I then remembered what my friend had said - that he was drained emotionally, physically, mentally, & spiritually, & then I realized that my prayer was the answer to his need - he needs God to fill him in all those areas. I had also prayed that God would surround him with Christians.
2 days later, the cleaning people for his family's homes cleaned the house I lived in. One lady asked me if I was a Christian - she had seen my Bible, but also said that she could see God in me - she speaks mostly Spanish, but put her hands near her face, like maybe she could see God shining in my countenance. I told her that yes, I am a Christian. She told me that she was also a Christian and that she prays for the people whose homes she cleans. I don't speak much Spanish, she doesn't speak much English, but together, we praised Jesus! :)
I am thanking God for showing me that He is in this situation. I am trying to keep my hands off - like not giving my friend verses about being unequally yoked - & to keep putting it in God's hands. That's sooo hard to do! I don't want to see my friend pulled away from God by the person he's dating. She believes New Age/Buddhist philosophies. I keep praying for deliverance for my friend, especially in light of how God had warned him re. being unequally yoked. I also have to remember that it's a spiritual battle we fight, not of this world.
Please pray.

[Sunshineformyheart]

Ok - I prayed a bit more - I was wondering if I should remind my friend re. being unequally yoked, but then I remembered that God was speaking to him earlier re. this (when I didn't even know!).
So.... if God was speaking to him re. this, He will remind him.

Thank you Diggindeeper & Mieke! (& anyone else who is praying!)