If I were to have premarital sex after I've been saved b/c...

[tmentour]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.

[apothanein kerdos]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.


Grace and forgiveness isn't about, "Well, I can try this and get away with it."

If you know that such relations would constitute sin, that is, require forgiveness, why do it? Why go against God's Will? If you're not even tempted to engage in the act, why try it? Maybe God has called you to be celibate?

[kc989]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.

Im new to this too, but I've thought about the same type of thing. Not with anything sexual but with other stuff. That is one of the main things that confuses me about the Bible and Christianity.

Can you knowingly comit a sin (pre-marital sex, abortion, divorce, stealing, or whatever) knowing that it goes against the Word of God and just say sorry after your done?

I would say no...but thats me. I could be wrong.

Bad things come into my mind sometimes like "Why follow the Word of God and live by it when you can just party like an animal all your life and get saved right before you die."

Your question is a little more direct than that but I think what you are asking is a very common question.

[flybaby]

God will always forgive, because the Bible says that He will - I John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

However, in Romans, it also speaks of not continuing in sin just because we know that God's grace will cover us. We are to forsake sin and not purposefully go into sin just because we know that God will forgive us.

You have to ask yourself why you would want to do such an act if you have no desire to do it and are in fact repulsed by the nudity of anyone. Also, remember that if you were to commit such an act, it wouldn't only be you sinning, but the other person that you would be engaging in the act. Do you want to cause someone to sin? Once again, the Bible warns us against being a stumbling block to others.

And my last point, there is no such thing as safe s@x outside the boundaries of marriage. You do not want to put yourself in the position of having a disease the rest of your life just to satisfy your curiousity.

[tango]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.

If you have no desire for sex why does it matter what it's like? Why would you choose to go out of your way to deliberately sin just to find out what it's like?

Regardless of whether you would receive forgiveness from God there may be consequences to deal with in this life. I don't know if you're male or female - either way an unwanted pregnancy or STD is a very real possibility if you simply find "someone, anyone" to satisfy your curiosity.

Seriously, if you were asked "I have no desire to poke myself in the eye with a sharp stick, but if I tried it just once out of curiosity would God heal me?" you'd say the question was absurd. If you have no desire for this particular act, why deliberately go out of your way to sin in a way that doesn't even tempt you? Why make the devil's job easier?

[Gregg]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.

May I ask how old you are? Sometimes when we are younger (ok older too) we feel like we have peer group pressure to be thought of as normal. Sometimes our inside thoughts do not match up with what we see on the outside of others. This can be confusing. Smoking always looked good to me when I was younger. I was told it was not good for me. When I tried it I did not like it, so I practiced until I did. Then I became very good at it and really really liked it. I was blessed in that I quit, but it would have been better never to have started.

[Sojourner]

:) God is not mocked, what a man (woman, girl, or boy) sows that shall he also reap. Sure forgiveness is provided by the death and resurrection of Christ, but that doesn't mean that you will escape the consequences. The are STD (sexually transmitted decease) plus your impurity would open you heart for Satan to mess you life around. That single act could lead to all sorts of things, such as, promicuity (addicted to sex). God says in His Word that our bodies are the Temple of God in which He dwells, question to you is, do you really want to defile His temple.

You may need to see an Endocrinologist (gland Doctor) to give you a blood test to see if your hormone levels are nomal (testostrone for boys).

In conclusion: This experiment thing is a major bad idea. :)

[DaniHansen]

I don't have to try snake poison to understand that it's bad for me ... curiosity is all good and well and fully understandable, but with everything there is a price tag attached.

It only takes once to get somebody pregnant. And then what? Are you ready to be a parent? It only takes once to get some weird STD that's going to haunt you for the rest of your life. And then what? It only takes once to reap consequences you never considered, so I would strongly encourage you to keep that in mind.

[th1bill]

... First off, Christians might fall into sin and repent of it but they do not plan to sin and this question from the OP is a plan to sin. The best answer to your, I believe, intended question is found in the text of the book of Judges. Please, do your self a huge favor and read the entire book of Judges.

[Xel'Naga]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.

Why would you try it? So you're thinking, 'She won't get pregnant' and 'I won't catch any STD's, I'll make sure of that' and you know what, that absolutely might be the case (it absolutely might not be the case). I'll tell you though that the one thing you won't escape is the spiritual and emotional consequences - trust me, you don't want to have to live with those for the rest of your life.

[Partaker of Christ]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.

Lets just suppose you did fall in love and got wed.

If both were virgins before you met and got married, would it be forgivable (although God does forgive) to go and try out, what it would be like, to have sex with another person?

How would you feel, if the spouse you greatly loved, knowing that you would forgive, did this against you (stricktly out of curiosity of course)?

[9Marksfan]

God will always forgive, because the Bible says that He will - I John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Sadly, this isn't true - God only forgives the penitent - the awful thing is that with just ONE rash act of disobedience, we can blow the possibility of repentance - these passages are a solemn warning to all of us...

For if we sin willfully after we have received the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful expectation of judgment, and fiery indignation which will devour the adversaries. Anyone who has rejected Moses’ law dies without mercy on the testimony of two or three witnesses. Of how much worse punishment, do you suppose, will he be thought worthy who has trampled the Son of God underfoot, counted the blood of the covenant by which he was sanctified a common thing, and insulted the Spirit of grace? For we know Him who said, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord. And again, “The LORD will judge His people.” It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. Heb 10:26-31 NKJV

Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking carefully lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled; lest there be any fornicator or profane person like Esau, who for one morsel of food sold his birthright. For you know that afterward, when he wanted to inherit the blessing, he was rejected, for he found no place for repentance, though he sought it diligently with tears. Heb 12:14-17 NKJV

The word of is clear - presumptuous sin is just about the most dangerous thing ANY of us can do. It's not for nothing that the psalmist asked God to keep him from presumptuous sins....

[bagofseed]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.
Sex without love has no real attraction outside of a moment of chemical pleasure. But the negative side effects of sex without love is devastating.
If you ever find someone you love, someone that you are willing to give your life for, wanting to spend the rest of your life with. Then if you both belong to Jesus and feel the same way you will have all the feelings and the desire too.

Keep it sacred, undamaged for someone worthy, someone you love so much you are willing to give your life away for her like Jesus gave His life away for us, His Church, His Spiritual Bride.

Some people take sex lightly taking it as something less then marriage.
It is an often unwelcome biblical truth.
Just as you would not take marriage lightly do not take sex lightly.

I hope my rewording of this truth is acceptable to the moderators.

[Metalwolf]

Hi, 1st off, this is my 1st time on the site, i signed up b/c i was looking for someone to help me with something. I'm hetero-asexual, which means i'm straight, but i don't desire sex, I am repulsed by the near site/thought of any form of nudity on either gender, and I know very little about sex. I just want to know, if I were to try it strictly out of curiousity just once, but then ask for forgivness and never ever do it again (which shouldn't be too hard b/c I'm not even sexually stimulated by nudity) then do you think god will forgive me? I will never get married, so it seems like the only way of knowing what sex will be like, and again, i'll repent.
"Just to see what its like" in this case, is a road best not tread upon. I have never had relations either, and I do have desire, but I know I don't want to do that sort of thing.

Many guys (and girls) will not tell you about the diseases they have, or they don't know they have them. HIV doesn't show up on a test for a while (I think at least 6 months) after its caught, and many STDs are becoming resistant to the standard treatments.

Also some posters made mention of Scriptures concerning deliberate sinning where you know what you're doing is wrong, and doing that is far more dangerous then any STD.
Trust me when I say this, you really don't want to go down that road. :no:

[RabbiKnife]

Presumptious sin (sin that you plan to commit, knowing that it is wrong) is extremely dangerous. It presumes that God will forgive.

The part that it forgets is that only the Holy Spirit can convict of sin and draw one to repentance. It is a dangerous thing to assume that the Holy Spirit will so convict, when Scripture is clear that the spirit of God will not always strive with men.

[Gregg]

Presumptious sin (sin that you plan to commit, knowing that it is wrong) is extremely dangerous. It presumes that God will forgive.

The part that it forgets is that only the Holy Spirit can convict of sin and draw one to repentance. It is a dangerous thing to assume that the Holy Spirit will so convict, when Scripture is clear that the spirit of God will not always strive with men.

We may also assume we will want to repent, but after the sin we may have a complete change of heart. It is dangerous stuff.