Scruffy Kid
Apr 22nd 2009, 08:29 PM
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Am I living in sin?
Im not sure if I am posting this in the right place or not-so if not I apologize.
My girlfriend and I have been together 2 1/2 years. I love her SO MUCH, and have every intention of marrying her. The only reason I do not at the current moment is financial issues. She and I are having sex. She is the only one I have, or ever will have sex with. She has recently asked me to move in with her. What is everyones take on this? I have asked people whom I feel to both be in a good relationship with God, and have gotten mixed answers. She and I BOTH have no doubt that God has brought her into my life for his will. She has got me going to church, doing bible studies, and basiclly being a better christian in the 2 1/2 years i've known her. Am I an awful sinner?
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"Take my Life and let it be, all for you, and for your glory.
Take my life and let it be yours"-Steve FeeYou're no worse a sinner than the rest of us. The question is what are you going to do about it? If you're that sure about marrying her, then why are you waiting on finances?
Going to church, bible studies, "basically better" ... blah blah blah. Sorry if that sounds rude man, but none of those is what makes a follower of Christ a follower of Christ. It just makes you a attentive church goer. How are you going to show God that you love Him, obey Him, and please Him? Do you love Him enough to do the right thing?[/QUOTE[QUOTE=SeekingGodNGa;2051207]I am waiting on Finances because she is an amazing woman, and while she would not care I want to have that ring to give her as I ask her to marry me.
I show God I love him by wanting to learn more about him, his word, and his plan for me. God did send her to me to bring me closer to him. It may seem like a little not important thing to you, but before I met her I was a Christmas and Easter christian, all my bible did was collect dust, going to a bible study would have NEVER happened. I feel 100% that God has brought me to her for his pourpose, and will.Im very confused. would just LIVING with her-not having sex be a sin???Its so important to give her the ring, and ceremony she deserves, because she is an amazing woman, and has been very patient, and DESERVES it!Then isn't she as equally deserving of righteousness and a courtship that does not compromise her walk with God?She totally is-I am afraid though. She has brought up the idea of us living together. The whole sex issue could probably b fixed. I could just straight up tell her I think we should wait till marrige. but then shed bring up the "THEN WHY DONT WE GET MARRIED" She just does not understand that I want to give her everything she deserves, and right now, I can not afford that.Listen Sweetie, marry the girl and have a nice ceremony and a ring later. Protect her reputation. If you really love her, you should be her PROTECTOR, her PROVIDER, and the PRIEST of your home! That's the man's job!
Don't you care about her reputation? Sure you do! If anyone called her a name because she shacked up with you, I betcha you'd punch their lights out. Protect her reputation. Marry her. Commit to her. Commit to each other.Im tottally commited to her, she deserves a big ceremony and ring though. the engagment ring is the most exciting thing a woman shows her girlfriends. I want her to be able to experience that. I want her friends, our friends to be able to come to the wedding, I want her to have the storybook, princess wedding, because she is a princess.I'd like to share something with you, if I may.
My girlfriends all had story book weddings. Beautiful gowns, rings that cost the earth, huge receptions with catered meals, honeymoons to Hawaii and Europe.
I did not come from wealth as did most of my girlfriends. I met my future husband while working my second, part-time job. We hit it off. We talked and laughed and became friends. He asked me to marry him. After telling him no twice, I finally agreed. We were married three months later in front of the YMCA (that's where I went to church, there was no physical building at that time). I had a plain silver wedding band placed on my finger that day. My gown was one of my wedding gifts from a friend who was a seamstress and designer. It was made out of deep purple velvet and flowed like the wind. i can (and do) still wear it on occassion. Our reception was at a rented space that cost more than the food my mother and I made.
My friends are all, with the exception of one, divorced - some two or three times. My husband and I celebrated our 36th anniversary last October. We replaced our plain silver bands with antique gold ones on our 25th anniversary. I feel just as much a fairy princess today as I did all those years ago. It has nothing to do with my ring or my dress - it has to do with being married to the man who loves me for me.
Be blessed, dear heart. Begin your lives together out of debt and deeply in love.
VI know you love her and she loves you, but I hate to break it to you but stuff happens. I was engaged to the girl of my dreams and it was amazing all we talked about was getting a place together and getting married and having kids and I proposed to her. I was young so we planned on waiting a few years but the love and everything was there and yes we had premarital sex too, and I know its really tempting and it seems perfect and right because your intentions i think are good because you love her. But guess what? we broke a month ago because the "love" just wasn't really there anymore. Now we might try to work things out but my point is play it safe and wait, I mean I wish I did. Things happen no matter how much you try and strive and push and are dedicated, sometimes things just happen. You wont want to believe it and youll push that thought as far away from you as you can and I hope it NEVER happens to you guys but dont think because its perfect now that it will be that way forever. So thats why God wants you to wait because love is a sticky situation that will knock you down before you have a chance to realize whats coming.
Hope things work out for the best
God BlessI am praying on it for sure. Im feeling kinda a sick feeling in my stomach about the whole thing. I kinda just want the decission to come easily and have the whole thing be done and over with. I have no idea what I am gonna do here.:giveup::B
