kalamity6
May 7th 2009, 04:20 AM
Hello,
I have an ex-girlfriend who broke up with me in the middle of last year. She told me that she had issues with low self-esteem and worthiness. Our relationship lasted only two weeks, but she had been interested in me for almost four months. Her body language clearly showed that she was interested in me, and when we finally got together, two weeks later, she realized that she didn't want to be in a relationship. My heart was broken and I was in counseling over it. And furthermore, she completely did 180 on me. She did her best not to associate with me. She became cold, cruel and distant. She has a great servant heart, but I imagine that it is a different story with her when it comes to men.
Now, I'm in a new relationship, one that has lasted for four months. This girl is so much healthier and it is a healthy relationship and I love her very much.
However, I am still haunted by the break-up of my ex and there are many times when I "miss" her. I hate it! I hate mysself sometimes for thinking such thoughts. But sometimes they consume me. I love my burrent girilfriend very much but this seems to be a nagging problem. I know that I would never break up with my current girlfriend over this, but how do I get rid of the strong feelings that I had for my ex. I know that it has a lot to do with the fact that she's physically attractive externally. I just can't get past the superficial and I'm emotionally attached to her beautiful face. I have to realize that I don't know this girl at all and that I'm just infatuated.
I'm assuming that if she has low self-esteem, that must have been triggered by something in her past, like emotional/physical abuse, or molestation or possibly rape. I don't know.
I know that in reality, I could never get back with my ex nor do I want to. I am totally committed to my girlfriend and I believe that the Lord has great plans for us. So what's a guy to do? How do I get rid of the thoughts of the ex?
I have an ex-girlfriend who broke up with me in the middle of last year. She told me that she had issues with low self-esteem and worthiness. Our relationship lasted only two weeks, but she had been interested in me for almost four months. Her body language clearly showed that she was interested in me, and when we finally got together, two weeks later, she realized that she didn't want to be in a relationship. My heart was broken and I was in counseling over it. And furthermore, she completely did 180 on me. She did her best not to associate with me. She became cold, cruel and distant. She has a great servant heart, but I imagine that it is a different story with her when it comes to men.
Now, I'm in a new relationship, one that has lasted for four months. This girl is so much healthier and it is a healthy relationship and I love her very much.
However, I am still haunted by the break-up of my ex and there are many times when I "miss" her. I hate it! I hate mysself sometimes for thinking such thoughts. But sometimes they consume me. I love my burrent girilfriend very much but this seems to be a nagging problem. I know that I would never break up with my current girlfriend over this, but how do I get rid of the strong feelings that I had for my ex. I know that it has a lot to do with the fact that she's physically attractive externally. I just can't get past the superficial and I'm emotionally attached to her beautiful face. I have to realize that I don't know this girl at all and that I'm just infatuated.
I'm assuming that if she has low self-esteem, that must have been triggered by something in her past, like emotional/physical abuse, or molestation or possibly rape. I don't know.
I know that in reality, I could never get back with my ex nor do I want to. I am totally committed to my girlfriend and I believe that the Lord has great plans for us. So what's a guy to do? How do I get rid of the thoughts of the ex?