what should i do

[jsgirl]

recently my husband started to act really odd..staying out weekends, not talking much, and when he does is angry, defensive. It seems like he is halfway out the door of our family already, after only having met someone only matter of weeks ago. I have tried to talk with him, tell him I love him, ask if we can talk, ask if we can pray, etc etc. ask him for us to spend time as a family, etc. His main reply is either silence or "Im busy, dont ask questions" should I continue to try and foster some type of closeness with him and try to talk to him, or ?? I feel very hurt and rejected, my attempts at talking and being close are just brushed off with "im busy"..even saying "i miss you" evokes "stop it, i told you im busy"..we have a family I dont want to give up or divorce him.
but he doesnt seem to be interested or moved by his family waiting at home for him.
thank you for any help..it is litereally making me sick, but i take our promise to God seriously..if he is bent on leaving I cant stop him, i just want to know what is the best I can do on my end of things, to keep our marriage together.

[Sojourner]

Read this similar thread
http://bibleforums.org/forum/showthread.php?t=168892

The marriage triangle is when a pastor tells the bride and groom that they are starting their lives at opposite points on a triangle.
And as they draw closer to the top of the triangle, which is represented by God, they will in turn draw closer to each other.

Focus your attention on your relationship with God, and don't pressure your husband, he is evidently already under pressure be it mid-life crisis or stress at work and home. He you push him it will have the opposite results that you want.

[karenoka27]

Sometimes silence speaks louder than words. I dont' mean ignoring him kind of silence,jut being quiet. It's not easy,I know.
If you need to share,share with a close friend or us.
Sometimes when we talk at times like this,we are giving them a reason to behave as they are. Quietness speaks volumes.

Ecclesiastes 9:17-"The words of wise men are heard in quiet more than the cry of him that ruleth among fools."

(I'm not calling you a fool,it's just the verse I thought of to share with you.):hug:

[My_King]

Hmmmmmm..........

I remember one time as a child, my mother informing me that my father was in his "cave." She explained that me taking his silence personally was normal, but not needed, since he'd come out eventually - after he'd had a chance to mull things over in his own mind.

I'm not suggesting this is what your husband IS doing, I'm only saying it might be. If this is the case, then what he needs is simply your support, your respect, your quiet and gentle spirit.

This could be a good time to do those extra special things for him. Maybe quietly be there for him in ways he'll appreciate. Does he have a favorite meal? Is there something he would like to do? A back rub?

I'll say a prayer for you both.