Please pray for me, my girlfriend, our relationship.

[JesusMySavior]

This is so hard. (caution : long post) I feel God has brought this woman into my life, and for a short while she has been my friend. She is a wonderful girl, a "baby" Christian but is growing in the Lord, and has changed immensely (in a good way) since I first met her. A lot of her old addictions are drying up and her hunger for Jesus is getting stronger and deeper. I've been helping her along the way, encouraging her and pressing her to keep seeking God. Our time together has been very pure, very deep...honest and heartfelt, getting to the core issues of God and life.

After awhile, we started spending a lot of time together, and I got a chance to see what she was about. Our friendship was growing deeper and more meaningful. I knew something was building and I was anxious about it, but I kept trusting God. After a lot of prayer and petition, I finally decided to spill the beans to her about how I felt, and she felt the same way so we started dating. For awhile it was hard for me because subconsciously in my mind I was always taking her spiritual "temperature", and it's not the same as mine (I've been walking with God way longer), but she has a wonderful hunger. I kept doubting but God gave me confirmations and answered prayers about the whole thing. Our relationship is amazing, but of course the enemy tried to get his hands in there and mess everything up. He started lieing to both me and my girlfriend about different things, telling me that she's disinterested or is looking elsewhere, and telling her that she'll never amount to my spirituality in God. We have been pulling through these things, and are able to talk long distances about our issues and resolve them easily.

We work together and yesterday she got off an hour earlier than I did. She playfully came up to me and said, "give me a call when you're done working", so everything was fine. I called her when I got off and she was very quiet. I finally asked her to tell me what was wrong, because she sounded absolutely crushed about something. And she told me when she got home she was thinking about the relationship, and how amazing I am, and how far off spiritually she is to where I'm at. I told her it doesn't matter, her hunger is what counts, and she said "I know, but there's so many things I need to seek God about".

So I came over and we talked last night, and she said she wonders why I even bother with her, because she's got so many problems still, and I encouraged her and told her not to look at the problems, but to look at the God Who can solve them. She feels pressured from every side and the relationship is one of the pressures right now. She said she needs to seek God honestly for herself, and let Jesus deal with a lot of the issues in her life. After a bunch of talking and cuddling and everything, we ended the night and she told me she needed some time off from the relationship, so she could seek Jesus personally and let Him grow her spiritually. She said there's all kinds of things on her mind, me being one of them in a huge way, and sometimes it gets in the way of focusing on God. She said, "it's just not the right time right now, and it's not that I don't want to be with you, I do, I really do... but I need some time off to seek God and build my relationship with Him".

Though I was humbled at this point, I was completely heartbroken... we held each other and I began crying (go figure) and she started crying, and we embraced for awhile. I am so in love with Jesus, but I don't want to lose this girl either, she's so sweet and beautiful, and she encouraged me and told me that I'm not going to lose her - she just needs a much needed break. Though I understand, it's hard to let go.

I drove home and just wept, wept, wept. I came home and bawled for an hour, I was so sad, and Jesus was with me, helping me with His loving arms.

Through my tears I began to thank Him because of her hunger for Him. I can only imagine how difficult it was to make that decision - to choose between me or God. And I'm so glad she made the right choice, I'm so proud of her, she's growing so well, she's maturing, she's on the right path. This is the heart of a woman who loves God.

We're still going to keep contact and talk, but please pray for wisdom and for guidance. Please pray for my mind, that it would be covered in the blood of JESUS, as well as my emotions - the devil likes to play around with those a lot. Pray for my beloved and dear Chelsie, she's so sweet, pray that God grows her so intensely and brings her deeper still into His wisdom and His loving embrace.

I have faith that it's all going to be fine, but the battle is a tough one sometimes.

Thank you for listening, thank you for praying, thank you for being there my fellow brothers and sisters. You all mean so much to me. :) May God richly bless you all as you seek Him and your friends seek Him as well.

[Desperaux]

Your girlfriend took one giant leap into her maturity in Christ. Rejoice!

Now wait on God.

Blessing is on the way!

[karenoka27]

You show great maturity in giving her time to seek the Lord.
Praying that His will be done and that you both have peace with what the Lord has for each of you.

:hug:

[bryner]

Be thankful, and God bless you for doing the right thing and letting her have time to seek the Lord herself. You are SO blessed to have such an amazing girl on your hands. Be honest, and stay truthful with her. God is testing you brother, and you need to stay strong throughout these trials in life. Sometimes life can be confusing, and 95% of the stuff that happen sometimes don't make any sense, but God says:

In the book of Proverbs 3:5

"Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding."

Stuff doesn't make sense, but continue to trust in the Lord and don't even try to understand it, God will reveal the answers to you when you are ready.

You're not the only one that has been in this situation, and you should be thankful for the situation you're in. Some people with the same test had a much harder and more extreme situation than yours. Take Abraham for example, I trust that you are familiar with his story.

Genesis 22:1-14

1And it came to pass after these things, that God did tempt Abraham, and said unto him, Abraham: and he said, Behold, here I am.

2And he said, Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.

3And Abraham rose up early in the morning, and saddled his ass, and took two of his young men with him, and Isaac his son, and clave the wood for the burnt offering, and rose up, and went unto the place of which God had told him.

4Then on the third day Abraham lifted up his eyes, and saw the place afar off.

5And Abraham said unto his young men, Abide ye here with the ass; and I and the lad will go yonder and worship, and come again to you.

6And Abraham took the wood of the burnt offering, and laid it upon Isaac his son; and he took the fire in his hand, and a knife; and they went both of them together.

7And Isaac spake unto Abraham his father, and said, My father: and he said, Here am I, my son. And he said, Behold the fire and the wood: but where is the lamb for a burnt offering?

8And Abraham said, My son, God will provide himself a lamb for a burnt offering: so they went both of them together.

9And they came to the place which God had told him of; and Abraham built an altar there, and laid the wood in order, and bound Isaac his son, and laid him on the altar upon the wood.

10And Abraham stretched forth his hand, and took the knife to slay his son.

11And the angel of the LORD called unto him out of heaven, and said, Abraham, Abraham: and he said, Here am I.

12And he said, Lay not thine hand upon the lad, neither do thou any thing unto him: for now I know that thou fearest God, seeing thou hast not withheld thy son, thine only son from me.

13And Abraham lifted up his eyes, and looked, and behold behind him a ram caught in a thicket by his horns: and Abraham went and took the ram, and offered him up for a burnt offering in the stead of his son.

14And Abraham called the name of that place Jehovahjireh: as it is said to this day, In the mount of the LORD it shall be seen.

Be thankful that God didn't ask you to sacrifice your dear Chelsie as a burnt offering :lol:. You can see how far Abraham went because of His love for God, and you too, are doing what is right, and making the sacrifice that God is testing you with. Imagine how Abraham felt and how troubled his heart must have been. After all those years of waiting, he was finally given a son (at the age of 100!) and then he was asked by God to sacrifice his only son (real son with his actual wife)! Don't forget the rest of that story though. We can assume that he had a heart too, and he wept and wept and asked for God to spare his son in his prayers but didn't get a sign. He probably dwelled on the thought of killing his own son on his journey to Moriah. I believe that Abraham had a close relationship with God (seeing as how God communicated with him audibly), and a close relationship with God requires communication (through prayer from our part). The journey to Moriah was 3 days, and I would imagine Abraham prayed day in and day out and I would guess he even fasted and lost sleep from praying to God to spare the life of his son. There were 3 days worth of pain and tears for the life of your son, and the Bible says in Genesis 22:4: "..Abraham lifted up his eyes, and saw the place AFAR off". His heart probably stopped, and he probably lost his breath, but he trusted God and continued with his son towards the place God had told him.

You wept on your car ride home, and Abraham wept on his way to kill his own son. Abraham's trip took him more than 3 days, how long did yours take you? Abraham was also 100 YEARS old when he received his blessing. I don't think your anywhere near that age, and you have received such a blessing from God already. Again, your situation is pretty similar to Abraham's. You are making a sacrifice (for a period of "3 days", (3 days could or could not be literal for your situation, I don't know). And if you stay strong, and faithful, your Father in heaven will bless you just like he blessed Abraham.

Genesis 22:15-18

15And the angel of the LORD called unto Abraham out of heaven the second time,

16And said, By myself have I sworn, saith the LORD, for because thou hast done this thing, and hast not withheld thy son, thine only son:

17That in blessing I will bless thee, and in multiplying I will multiply thy seed as the stars of the heaven, and as the sand which is upon the sea shore; and thy seed shall possess the gate of his enemies;

18And in thy seed shall all the nations of the earth be blessed; because thou hast obeyed my voice.

Listen to His voice and obey, and He PROMISES that He WILL bless you!

Sorry for writing a novel, but I recently went through my first breakup and it wasn't because my girlfriend wanted to seek Christ. So when you're about to think that God has abandoned you and hasn't been answering your prayers, just remember that your WORST day/situation is still BETTER than someones BEST day/situation. God Bless you brother and I pray that He may guide you in the right path to lead you to your blessings that you have been freely given by your heavenly Father that LOVES you.

God bless you brother, I'm praying for both of you to be re-united and I pray that she may find the answers she has been looking for. Have her ask you what some of her questions are, and if we can answer any of them, we will be more than willing to help you guys out. We love you and will remember you in our prayers.

God bless,
Bryner

[L'Ange]

Praying for YHWH to give you peace, patience, comfort and wisdom, and just in case she isn't the one He wants for you, then someone better who is what He wants for you.

[livingwaters]

May the Lord give you wisdom, love and knowledge to lean solely on HIM! You both have made some incredible decisions, having put God in the fore front of your feelings....that is very admirable of you both! The Lord will smile down and bless you for your pure hearts and desire for HIM.:pray::pray::pray:

God bless:)

[SFASH]

Yes, praying for you both as you struggle to put your relationship on a Godly basis and in His hands.

[JesusMySavior]

Yesterday was incredibly super hard for me. I dealt with so much anxiety, depression, hopelessness, and hurt that I was literally crushed by it. I cried several times yesterday, it was the hardest day for me in an very long time. I had the day off which gave me time to clear my head, but everywhere I went and everything I did just made me feel worse.

But last night I started to feel better, it was as if God opened my eyes to really see the situation for what it was, leave the past behind, look at what's ahead, and embrace the current time.

She is once again my good friend, with the idea that we will build each other up and in the future, if it is God's will, to go ahead with this again. The relationship is merely chilling on the shelf for now and we're enjoying each other's company.


This morning I came over to her house and we visited for a few hours. We talked about God and salvation and the Bible. We also touched a bit on the relationship and our plans for the future. We agreed that we won't see anybody else until this works out. She made me coffee and lunch and it was a relaxing, fun time. We hugged goodbye and I went on my way.

It was such a blessing and now I am realizing why God wants us to take a break. I am insecure and she is busy and a bit like I am. I need growth in some areas, and she needs growth in many areas.

I laughed on the way home :lol: ... everything else aside, I have a huge advantage here - I'm totally single, free, with no attachments; but yet I still have a wonderful girl in the picture for the future. I'm set! :cool:

I love being single, but one of the thoughts I always had while I was single was "I wonder if I'm not attractive enough, or maybe some girls just don't like me"... but now not only do I have the freedom and simplicity of being single, this 'problematic thought' can be eradicated too! Haha, God is good!

Thanks guys, keep praying, this is wonderful! :bounce:

[Quovadis]

You need to let go for a while. You are both dealing with the overwhelming feeling of taking in a lot to grow and mature in Christ, especially her, who hasn't walked with the Lord for long yet. It consumes energy in the psyche, don't take it personally if she needs more quiet time alone with the Lord. She will come back when she is ready. Remember, the Lord expects us Christians to practice self-control, and you need to hold your desires to keep really close back somewhat. If you don't, you will achieve the opposite of what you would like so much. This, however, doesn't mean that you shouldn't be supportive and should walk away. Let her know that you are always there for her, without expecting anything from her, and you will receive many blessings from Him who sees you are obedient. Praying for you. :pray: