Girls get hooked on porn too

[nebula_omega]

I've been reading Internet pornography since I was 19. I never really thought it was porn because it was stories, not pictures. A year ago or so, God told me to stop and I did. But now... I'm reading again, and it's getting worse.

It's also a different type of porn... slash, or gay pornography, if you will. It sounds really weird, but a bunch of my friends in college got me into it cause some of them actually wrote it. It wasn't porn, it was slash, that made it okay. We would even talk about it openly! But now that I know homosexuality is wrong, that makes slash wrong. But for some reason I keep getting pulled back into it.

I fell again this morning and.. I really don't want to do that again. Any advice would be appreciated.

[jayne]

Dear sister,

I've been there ..... in bondage to erotic literature. Today I am free.

Romans 12:1-2

"Therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, I urge you to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God; this is your spiritual worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this age, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may discern what is the good, pleasing, and perfect will of God."
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Psalm 101:1-4

A Vow of Integrity

A Davidic psalm.

1 "I will sing of faithful love and justice;
I will sing praise to You, LORD.

2 I will pay attention to the way of integrity.
When will You come to me?
I will live with integrity of heart in my house.
3 I will not set anything godless before my eyes.
I hate the doing of transgression;
it will not cling to me. 4 A devious heart will be far from me;
I will not be involved with evil."
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Philippians 4:8-9

8 "Finally brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable—if there is any moral excellence and if there is any praise—dwell on these things. 9 Do what you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, and the God of peace will be with you."
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Ephesians 5:1-14

"Therefore, be imitators of God, as dearly loved children. 2 And walk in love, as the Messiah also loved us and gave Himself for us, a sacrificial and fragrant offering to God. 3 But sexual immorality and any impurity or greed should not even be heard of among you, as is proper for saints. 4 And coarse and foolish talking or crude joking are not suitable, but rather giving thanks. 5 For know and recognize this: no sexually immoral or impure or greedy person, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of the Messiah and of God.

Light versus Darkness

6 Let no one deceive you with empty arguments, for because of these things God's wrath is coming on the disobedient. 7 Therefore, do not become their partners. 8 For you were once darkness, but now [you are] light in the Lord. Walk as children of light — 9 for the fruit of the light [results] in all goodness, righteousness, and truth — 10 discerning what is pleasing to the Lord. 11 Don't participate in the fruitless works of darkness, but instead, expose them. 12 For it is shameful even to mention what is done by them in secret. 13 Everything exposed by the light is made clear, 14 for what makes everything clear is light. Therefore it is said:

Get up, sleeper, and rise up from the dead, and the Messiah will shine on you. "

[firstpeterone]

you can do nothing without Christ
He is the vine
you are the branch
you must abide in Him, you must love Him
you should not love something more than Him
Just step back and be objective
Say no to whatever is between you and Christ
If you can't then get a sister or brother in Christ to come along side you and help you be accountable.

Jesus was passionate for His Father's Temple
He said it was supposed to be "a house of prayer"
Paul reminded us that our bodies are the new temples
Where the Holy Spirit abides
Continue to keep your body "a house of prayer"
Cry out to Christ to save you from your weakness
Ask Him to perfect His power in your weakness

[SFASH]

Satan's masterpiece, IMO, is his appeal to that basic, legitimate, God-given and powerful pro-creative force within all of us - men and women- promising to fill that need through synthetic means.

It seems there is no end to the extremes or combinations of extremes that get a hold of individuals who have opened that door to the lust industry and it is important to realize that often opening the door just a little bit is tantamount to opening it completely.

For many, that door can represent the floodgate of a huge dam...once opened, only God can shut it again.

It's been demonstrated time and again, that the vice generally goes far beyond a simple desire for sex, and in many cases sex is not the real issue, per se. Sex promises to fill many many needs, but cannot actually fill any of them, in and of itself. It can only be satisfactorily experienced within the marital relationship, and is coupled intrinsically in most cases with pro-creation and parenthood (or, at least, with the trials, responsibilities and intimacy of marriage... male and female). Anything less becomes a perversion of nature as created, and slavery to unsatisfied flesh.

And many, caught up in this horrible vice, are married.

It is by far preferable to live and die, never having those legitimate needs actually satisfied, than to live in the slavery of the illegitimate. We all agree.

Knowing the enemy, and his tactics, IMO, is half the battle. I don't like to use the actual word for this thing, but that deadly realm of sex images, videos and written-word generally promises a safe, or benign taste of satisfaction, while the opposite is always the rule. The end is defilement, shame, defeat.

Don't at all want to sound overly-simplistic here, but the first rule of thumb for me is to flee (RUN). Meaning: Nip the idea in the bud, at it's most innocent-looking/sounding beginning. It's a suggestion, at that point.

If your problem involves the Intenet, it might begin as a harmless desire to go exploring. That's a fitting time to shut the computer off and go do something else, but do not return to the keyboard until you've thoroughly prayed about this subtle, sneaky little temptation, you've searched your heart, and are prepared beforehand. Some have found it necessary to toss their personal computers. (and have survived).

Flee also youthful lusts:...2 Tm 2:22

But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust (desires), and enticed. James 1:14

Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death. James 1:15

My second rule of thumb, which could or should be # one, is to walk in the Spirit of God.

That includes bringing our legitimate needs before the Lord and trusting Him to fulfill or not fulfill them according to His loving plan for us. Ask God for the good things in life. Then wait patiently for them. Don't give in to cheap imitations.

It also includes fellowship and interaction with other believers.

This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. Galatians 5:16

My third rule of thumb involves prayer. Another post. But you are certainly in my prayers this morning...:)

[blessedmommyuv3]

You have received excellent advice and bible verses.
I just want to give you a :hug: and hope. (ok, and a few more bible verses ;))

I , too, am another woman who has dealt with this exact same bondage.... but mine, shamefully, included images as well, which led to further sinning.
God can and will remove these desires, if you submit yourself completely to Him. He can take your lusting for this sin, and turn it to a hatred of this sin.
You cannot do it alone, but abiding in Him, He will strengthen you.
For me, I had to first confess (agree) and admit I was sinning and that these sins were serving to separate me from God. I confessed, repented, and He removed the desires.

It might be helpful to remove any secular romance novels from your home, delete any tempting online bookmarks, and make bibleforums or biblegateway (site to research bible verses), or another Christian website your "homepage" on the computer.
Use sticky notes to post some of the bible verses given in places where you tend to be tempted and give into temptation--ie: bathroom mirror, bedroom mirror, etc.... Strive to replace impure thoughts with those centered on God.
Get rid of anything that might cause you to stumble: massaging shower heads, etc.....

Philippians 4: 8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

Most importantly, immerse yourself in the bible. As your personal relationship with God deepens through prayer (talking to Him) and reading His word (listening to Him) your love for Him will come to include a hatred for all that is not like Him. The Holy Spirit's work in your life in the process of sanctification will make you more like Christ, and less like the world.

James 4:
7Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. 8Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded.

1 John 2:
15Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. 16For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world. 17The world and its desires pass away, but the man who does the will of God lives forever.

In Christ, :hug:
Jen

[Warrior4God]

We live in a sexually saturated culture that says all sex is ok. That's not what God says. If He did, you could do whatever you wanted, but He didn't say that, so that philosophy has no place in the life of a Christian. It's no surprise you struggle with this. Women tend to be more aroused by reading erotic literature and men are more often aroused by images, though there are certainly exceptions to this for women. Keep praying for strength against this. Talk to others you can trust for accountability with this problem. You can have victory. :D

[JohnnieGuy]

Praying for you! Remember God's beautiful promises and His beautiful law and how they are for our own good because He loves us so much! :bounce:Focus on the Lord.

[Twin2]

My husband found a pornographic picture that one of our teens had thrown away. It was torn, but was very clear of what it was and easily put back together. He showed it to me, because he wanted me to see what our teen was up to. I don't know what the effects were on my husband, but I was very disturbed. It had a pull on me that I couldn't get that image out of my mind.

Another time, I found porn on the computer and took it upon myself to delete every bit of it. Well, I know of no other way to delete it but to click on it and delete from there. With each image, even though I was angry about it being on my computer, I felt like I had sinned. The thing was, even with all the guilt I felt somehow drawn to it. Again, I could not get these images out of my mind. Weeks later, I finally had to repent of what I had seen, and asked, no begged the Lord to get those images out of my mind. I didn't want to be tormented by them. Had I not done so, I believe I could have truly been pulled into that kind of sin.

We don't always have to go looking for something to be pulled into it. We have to stay prayed up and to rebuke evil things as they come to us. We can't let them have place in our lives, or they will get us.

[Sold Out]

I fell again this morning and.. I really don't want to do that again. Any advice would be appreciated.

Throw away your computer. You won't hurt any of our feelings.