Single Christian Parents

[KarenTX]

:wave:

Just wondering how many we have here! I'd love to start a daily, weekly, whatever! thread where we could all check in, share our joys and frustrations, challenges, etc!

Anyone interested?

[Saved7]

I'm one, and glad to see that someone thought about a thread like this. Though I would like to say I have a whole and godly christian family, I can't, but I can say that they aren't the only families out there and we tend to get left out quite a bit.:(

[LindaJ]

I'm in favour of it, although I dont come in often it would make a nice change to talk about these issues without feeling second best 'cos i'm single:pp

[Momof5]

This is a great idea and I'm glad you thought of it.:hug: I am not a single parent but my daughter is and I know the struggles and issues she has.

[Saved7]

:wave:

Just wondering how many we have here! I'd love to start a daily, weekly, whatever! thread where we could all check in, share our joys and frustrations, challenges, etc!

Anyone interested?

Just make sure you title the thread in a way so we know that it's for the single parents.:saint: Cause I skip a the discussions on this forum, because I don't feel my perspectives will be helpful or respected.

[KarenTX]

Oh yay!! Responses!!! :pp I was starting to think I was the only one out there!

Well, let's talk, people!! :lol:

How about we start with a holiday discussion? I know everyone's situation is probably different, but the holidays are always a challenge, it seems.

For me, it's difficult knowing I'm going alone to all of the Christmas parties and get-togethers, New Year's celebrations, etc. Not that I would wish myself back in the situation I was in "with" someone... Still, I do dread them, and have to talk myself into going to some of them.


How about you guys?

[Saved7]

Oh yay!! Responses!!! :pp I was starting to think I was the only one out there!

Well, let's talk, people!! :lol:

How about we start with a holiday discussion? I know everyone's situation is probably different, but the holidays are always a challenge, it seems.

For me, it's difficult knowing I'm going alone to all of the Christmas parties and get-togethers, New Year's celebrations, etc. Not that I would wish myself back in the situation I was in "with" someone... Still, I do dread them, and have to talk myself into going to some of them.


How about you guys?

I used to dread the holidays without a mate. Then I thought I was getting married, and had a mate for 1 Christmas. That was when I realized the pressure I was missing, and the arguing about being on time, and who's house we are going to and so forth, was something I just wasn't missing. Now I look forward to a peaceful Christmas each year with my family at a relatives house.:D

[KarenTX]

LOL, Saved!! So true!! And you don't have to consult with someone about when it's time to go!! Good point, good point!

How many kids, and how old, does everyone have?

Mine are 16, girl, and 19, boy. :)

[Saved7]

Mine is 11, a girl. I have an 11 year old neice, and 2 nephew's, both are 15; but not twins, cousins by sisters.

[LindaJ]

I have

14/13/10/5 year old...the last 3 are boys:hmm:;)

[Caryn]

I just joined. I am a single parent. My daughter is 2.5yrs old!!

[KarenTX]

Welcome, Caryn!!

This thread isn't really picking up speed just yet, but hopefully it will soon!! At least we're getting it started, right?!

[Saved7]

How long have each of you been single for? I've been single for 9 1/2 years. Gettin' kind of content this way too.:saint:

[Caryn]

I've been single my daughters whole life. For awhile I hated not having a partner to help raise her but now I wouldn't change that for the world! She's my gift from God and I thank Him every day for her!

[KarenTX]

3 years for me, and I hear ya' on getting content!! I always have control of the remote!! :lol:

[Saved7]

Not to mention freedom from arguements when you want to go shopping, or when you are late because of your spouse or because you took too long, or whatever. But I admit sometimes it's really hard to be the only to deal with raising my daughter. Especially now that she's reaching that mouthy stage. But my favorite part is knowing that she still looks forward to our "movie nights" together, when we cuddle up:hug: on the couch, eat popcorn, candy and watch a movie that we rent.
The scary thing is that she hasn't had to share me with a man since she was 2, and even then she didn't really have to, because her dad was soooo uninvolved with her and I. I know that this could be a problem if a man comes into my life, but I suppose that God will work it out so she won't have a problem with it. God promised me a husband, I just don't know when. And sometimes I wish it were now, because she is getting more difficult to raise without another authority figure there. It's like sometimes she thinks that I am just bossing her around and that I'm not in authority over her.:rolleyes: But then I hope that God waits until she is 18 and old enough to have a life of her own so she won't be clingy. But then I know that God's got this, and when it happens, it will be perfect timing.:D And other times, I don't ever want a husband. I like be alone.

[KarenTX]

Yeah, that!! ^^^

My son is 19, and daughter is 16, and there are times I wonder if it's still too soon, and at others I think "Thank goodness I don't have something else to juggle in my life right now!" I guess it's the grass-is-always-greener syndrome!

[LindaJ]

I've been technacally single for 4 years nealy 5 now...(dont live with soon to be x hubbie) and quite honestly I have enough to do in a day without adding to the collection, I'm not sure how I would cope with a man in my life again, as I see it they have all been disasters and i'm too old and wise to repeat the experiance. Apeart from s*x there is nothing I miss about having one.

[kasanm]

Today was bitter/sweet as I was at the airport for the majority of the day. I was there to pick up my (soon to be 17 year old) son. He came from his dad's in TX. He and my two daughters (13 and 15) and I had lunch in a restaurant in the airport and then I put them on a plane to fly to their dad's for Christmas. My kids got to be together for a total of two hours. That's the way it's been more often than not around the holidays and summers as well. They basically see each other 'in passing.'

I can't tell you HOW HARD it is going to be in just a little over a week when I have to take my son back to that airport!!! :cry: I really try to enjoy the time I have my son here, but it is extremely difficult. I've been known to burst into tears at any given moment days before he actually leaves. :rolleyes:

This year may not be so tough. I already know I am driving to TX the end of January because he has the lead in his high school musical.....I CAN do this! :)

[KarenTX]

Where to in TX, kasanm? You comin' my way? :D

I think the holidays are always hard, if for no other reason that just because it can be a reminder of what isn't.

[kasanm]

Where to in TX, kasanm? You comin' my way? :D

I think the holidays are always hard, if for no other reason that just because it can be a reminder of what isn't.


Yes, I agree with you on that! Just when I think I've finally let go I find myself suddenly clutching on all over again. :rolleyes:

My son lives in Allen. I won't be coming that way for the holidays, but I will be there the first of February because he has the lead in his school musical. I'll be there for ALL three of his performances. ;)

[SetFree]

Is this thread still active? I just joined today and was glad to see some people who might have some insight to share! If you are still out there, then please let me know!

[Saved7]

. Apeart from s*x there is nothing I miss about having one.

Did somebody say something about s*x????!!!!!!:D
oooh I miss the touch of a man.:(

[SetFree]

Yay! There is life on this thread! Glad to see you!:pp

[Saved7]

Welcome aboard. Though I admit that I haven't really been here for a while myself. I spend much of my time in "anything goes". Just because I can talk about single parent stuff, or anything else, and I know that I will have others there that I can communicate with. It's sooo, so....hidden in this forum.:saint:

[irlandes]

Though I have no strong feelings about it, Dr. Laura tells women not to say they are single if they are divorced, because single implies too many people something else.

[KarenTX]

I am performing CPR on this thread to see if there's any renewed interest or life in it! :lol: Two and a half years later!!! :)

[sedux]

Hi Everyone! I feel a bit silly responding to this post seeing as to how the last post was back from 3 years ago :blush:

Just thought I'd give it a try though - Please let me know if you're still active out there!

[moonglow]

I am a single parent too..I have one son, Nate, who is 13. I came out of an abusive marriage...been divorced for nine or ten years...something like that. Been raising my son alone though...well not totally alone..my mom and her husband help out with alot of things and my sisters and their families...we are all pretty close and that helps alot. :)

God bless
Julie

[peacebstill]

I am a single mother of one. She is 8 years old and going on 16. But she is my everything. No matter who you're with or not, or whether they work or not, we always have our little ones to keep us going! :):D

[moonglow]

I am a single mother of one. She is 8 years old and going on 16. But she is my everything. No matter who you're with or not, or whether they work or not, we always have our little ones to keep us going! :):D

I think they are all either going on 16 or 30...:lol::lol:

And yea they keep us on our toes for sure...:lol: I have a short break from mine...he left today to go to church camp until Friday...:D He has really been looking forward to this all summer and finally got to go! I am so happy for him...I think he will have a great time. :) Kind of break up the mid-summer boredom too...;)

God bless

[peacebstill]

Church camp is awesome. My lil'' one loves it too! I however, have share my summers with my ex. He lives 6 hours from us in Ohio and doesn't see her as often as he should. Kinda sad for her. So in the summer he keeps her for nearly a month. I just got her back a couple weeks ago. It's hard for me when she goes.

[moonglow]

Church camp is awesome. My lil'' one loves it too! I however, have share my summers with my ex. He lives 6 hours from us in Ohio and doesn't see her as often as he should. Kinda sad for her. So in the summer he keeps her for nearly a month. I just got her back a couple weeks ago. It's hard for me when she goes.

Yea I bet...:( Glad you have her back. :) Nate does not see his dad at all...he is in prison...long story...he has been in prison since Nate was four. So its just him and I. But his grandparents take him on vacation a couple of times in the summer. He isn't gone any month though. That would be hard. This last time it was for ten days and in August they are going to Branson for a six days. I am usually so busy though the time flies by pretty fast for me. I need those breaks...love him to pieces but since I am disabled and home all the time with him (well except to run errands and stuff) we both need those breaks from each other...:rolleyes: Its harder in the winter time...but grandma will have him spend the night once in awhile or stay a few days if he is on break from school cause we can get on each other nerves once in awhile. :blush: But yea when they are so young like your daughter is...you want to be with them alot more of course. :)

God bless