I've discovered that it does not matter whether I call myself a Calvinist or not. The FACT remains that when I speak of the doctrines of Scripture and show through the Bible how they are indeed doctrines of God's Sovereign Grace, then I will be called a Calvinist by those who embrace the doctrine of free will.
To label someone a Calvinist is an attempt to not only justify the unbiblical doctrine of free will, but also to make others believe that they need not search the Scripture to see if what I say is true. By calling me a Calvinist they can simply claim that I follow the doctrines of a man, therefore it is foolish to listen to anything I say. It matters not one whit to some people, that what I might say may align perfectly with the teachings of Christ, still they are comfortable in their doctrine of free will, and would rather not be confronted with what sayeth the Word of God.
I understand why you would not want to be called a Calvinist. In fact neither do I...but that will not change the fact that if you continue to defend and biblically support God's Sovereignty over man's free will, you will be confronted with the title. There are far worse things then being called a Calvinist, like for instance Arminian, Pelagian, or semi-Pelagian.
The question is, do we espouse God-centered Biblical doctrine of God's Sovereign Grace over man...or do we espouse un-biblical man-centered doctrine, where man is sovereign over God?