God is teaching me something

[JesusPhreak27]

Hey everyone..... its been a while since Ive posted but I need some help.

God has been trying to get through to my wife through me (He has already gotten this through to me but know is using me to teach her the same lesson)....

Here is the situation:

About two (?) weeks ago I was outside shoveling the driveway (up here in North Dakota we have been hit hard with snow) and I was grumbling about how Im sick of shoveling and that I didnt want to do it anymore.

Well that very minute God spoke to me and He said: "Be grateful that you have a driveway to shovel, some of my children dont have a roof over their head" -- Let me tell you that woke me right up and got me thinking straight again!

Now fast forward to the day after Christmas. My wife wakes up and is in just the nastiest of moods because she has to go into work that morning (I was blessed with the day off but made sure I didnt bring that up in conversation as it would only make matters worse). I try talking to her and mentioned that instead of being upset about having to go into work she should praise God for having a job that she is upset about going into -- because many of God's children dont have a job.

So again fast forward to today. We got about 6-8 inches of snow last night and I went into work at 7 like usual and she went in at 10 like usual. Well I was released early due to the weather but her employer did not offer her that luxury. So I came home and spent about 3 hours shoveling the driveway (sometimes I REALLY dislike the snow plow drivers!!!!!) and she calls and is yet again in a bad mood because she had to drive into work this morning (this time it took her about 2 times longer because of the roads) and she was just rotten and impossible to talk to.

So here is my question:

How do I (with out being too "preachy" or what have you) explain to her (again) the revelation that God gave me, that we should praise Him for everything that He gives us even if it seems (to us) unfair the way life is working out?

Thanks everyone in advance!

[th1bill]

... There are some things that we must leave to God's timing and this lesson is one of those. The best advice I can render here is to begin to pray daily for her understanding in this matter, stand ready to be used of God to help her and do not forget to pray for God to prepare you to be used in this way.

[Lefty]

Yeah I would pray for her too, and maybe also doing something special for her that'll lift her mood through this rough time of the winter.

[Vhayes]

Hey there! I was wondering where you disappeared to -

I agree with what Bill and Lefty have said - this is a very personal lesson that we all need to learn at the correct time. For each of us, it's a different circumstance that triggers the realization, the lesson.

Pray for her remembering to thank God for the liberation you felt when you first realized that while the snow shoveling is a pain, the greater blessing is a home.

Shower your wife with hugs. Do something special for her, maybe flowers or do a "honey-do" job that she's been bugging you about but make sure she understands that you are grateful for all the two of you have as a couple and that she is a huge part of that which you are grateful for.

I hope that helps a bit - please stay around, I've missed you!
V

[JC4ME]

You have been given some good advice, I don't have much more to add. I just want to say that you must remember, the path to God is a lonely one. Yes, more than 1 person may walk this path together, but they must walk in darkness allowing God to be their light. Like the others have said - this is her lesson, but there is nothing stopping you "holding her hand" down this dark path.
May God shine down on your wife and highlight her way.

[MercyChild]

Hi There, well I am not always the best advisor, but what I can do, is to pray that God will give you the right words on the right time.........and also pray for your wife, that her heart will be ready to receive what you need to tell her....

Praying both you and your wife................

[JesusPhreak27]

Hey there! I was wondering where you disappeared to -

I agree with what Bill and Lefty have said - this is a very personal lesson that we all need to learn at the correct time. For each of us, it's a different circumstance that triggers the realization, the lesson.

Pray for her remembering to thank God for the liberation you felt when you first realized that while the snow shoveling is a pain, the greater blessing is a home.

Shower your wife with hugs. Do something special for her, maybe flowers or do a "honey-do" job that she's been bugging you about but make sure she understands that you are grateful for all the two of you have as a couple and that she is a huge part of that which you are grateful for.

I hope that helps a bit - please stay around, I've missed you!
V

I needed a break for a while sis! It was becoming too easy for me to get into an argument with my brothers and sisters on here so I backed away for a bit.....

Thanks everyone for the advice.....

It looks like God is using this to teach ME yet another lesson..... I dont like it when I cant fix something..... it looks like He wants me to learn to lean on Him huh?

[Walstib]

A while back I made the decision to thank God for everything. I mean I had read it before but I started living it.

And I mean everything. Sickness and heath, riches and poorness, for better and for worse, in joy and sorrow.

The peace I have found in doing this surpasses all my understanding. It turns "why me" into "thank you".

Live it and she will see it in you I think. Sometimes words just get in the way.

Peace,
Joe

[one_lost_coin]

Maybe allow her to learn it the same way you did and until then live a consistent witness to that beautiful lesson you were taught. But that answer was not revealed to me, I can however confidently recommend prayer.

[tt1106]

My wife and I try to pray together every morning. Talking to God together has really improved our spiritual connection. Try getting on your knees together in the morning and praying that God uses you.
Speakign to God TOGETHER has meant alot to both of us and quickly became the highlight of our day.
Speaking to our Father together each morning starts it off fantastic and we really miss us, when one of us gets up before the other.

[Revinius]

i would wait until she has stopped being emo about it and then speak of your experience, not in a 'this applies to you dear' sort of way, but in a 'this is my theophany (epiphany from God)' sort of way.