friendship

[treeinheaven]

Any suggestions on how to make friends.I have spent years in my apt. because of a combination of social awkwardness, medication side effects and sensitivity to sounds that I don't have any friends.I assume the town hates me because medical problems make me look like a psychopath or drug user.I have face contorting/spasms, etc.I wore a beanie all the time to hide it.I feel almost hopeless to get friends let alone a girlfriend.I will take classes online next term because stress in public is unbearable.

Adam

[Friend of Jesus]

It's cheesy, it's overused, but it's correct: To make friends, be a friend

Also, if people avoid you because of your medical problems- that's not your fault it's their's. And they're probably not the type of people you want as your friends.

[Revinius]

Do you go to church mate?

[WonderWoman4Jesus]

Adam, I'll be your friend. I have occasional muscle twitches that make my face look weird. I also have a thyroid problem so my weight fluctuates like crazy. First of all, see if you can find people who understand your problems. I have also struggled with depression and anxiety. If people can't look past the physical, they're very shallow. I would take it one step at a time. Find a group that you feel comfortable with and take baby steps.

I would love to be your friend though!

God bless

[treeinheaven]

I don't go to church.I don't trust people in general.I want to go to church-I have one in mind...Most of my physical/medical(including spasms) ailments can be traced to the medications I took from 1993 to 2008.According to much research I will continue going through prolonged withdrawal from clonazapam until at least June 2010.A minimum of two years.1/3 done.People on the bus or a club tried to be friendly but I was stand offish not because I meant to be but because my senses are messed up. Take care.

Adam

[Revinius]

It may be hard, but i reckon the best places to make friends are places with like-minded believers.

[JesusMySavior]

Adam, you are loved by God and by the brotherhood. I pray to the Lord that He would give you the friends you need to help you grow and be God's.

If I had any advice to give you, I would say every time you feel inferior or afraid, offer up a sacrifice of praise. Just start thanking God for everything He has done in your life and what you have been blessed with. Remember that perfect love casts out fear and when we're praising God from our hearts we're covered in His love.

Stand strong my friend. One of my best friends and Christian brothers has tourrette's and his face/body twitches a lot. Yet he's one of the best friends and greatest Christians I know.

Hang in there bro, God will get you through.

[treeinheaven]

My best friend has tourette syndrome too.He is an amazing friend and great christian brother.Are some people just born with mental problems that can't go away?Like it just part of life?I have got ahead before but strange things happened and set me back.Over and over.I believe they were demonic attacks.Medications have messed me up so much but without them I don't function.(I praise you God in all this)

Adam

[RedBird777]

Just as Friend of Jesus said - be a friend. Start talking to people. Get to know them. If they are going to be a friend, ten they will.
If you have these weird quirks (I have my own as well), then a true friend will accept you anyway. My click of friends in college and I don't care who you are, what you do, or whatever weirdnesses you have. As long as you are truthful, honest, and a good friend to us, we will do anything for you as well.

With that said, just hang out with people. See what happens. If they are your true friend, then they will be a friend back.

[treeinheaven]

I have been visiting an asperger forum the last 2 days.I feel natural, calm and collected there.I feel kinda ill-not physical because I feel I can relate with them better than any christian in general.I don't know what to think of that.I feel I have to pretend otherwise.Not completely but to a degree.I asked God to save me years ago.I believe He did.The fact that I feel disconnected on this site disturbs me greatly.

Adam

[RedBird777]

I have been visiting an asperger forum the last 2 days.I feel natural, calm and collected there.I feel kinda ill-not physical because I feel I can relate with them better than any christian in general.I don't know what to think of that.I feel I have to pretend otherwise.Not completely but to a degree.I asked God to save me years ago.I believe He did.The fact that I feel disconnected on this site disturbs me greatly.

Adam

The church is there to support each other (what I mean by church isn't the building that people go to every Sunday, but the Christian Community). I would highly recommend finding a Christian friend. I understand how one could be more comfortable in a secular setting, especially when Christians may have rejected you for whatnot. However, I think you should find a good Christian friend. It seems to me like you really need someone to get your back in this time of need...if I knew you personally, I would be your friend. If you can find someone that will accept you for who you are, and they will do anything for you (METAPHORICALLY here...), then that is the person that you need in your life.
Pray about it...God gave Adam Eve because man can NOT be alone - people are social creatures. If it is a friend that you need, then pray about it.

But something that I would have to remind myself at times, and I think you'll need it too, is that no matter WHAT happens, God is there for you. Make your relationship to God intimate - like a father to son, or a friend to a friend, or a brother to a brother. God will be your best friend forever.

[Raptor]

But something that I would have to remind myself at times, and I think you'll need it too, is that no matter WHAT happens, God is there for you. Make your relationship to God intimate - like a father to son, or a friend to a friend, or a brother to a brother. God will be your best friend forever.

Exactly. Adam you say you need a friend, when you got saved you got the best friend you could ever ask for! It doen't matter what mood your in, how mean you are to him, or if you have a medical problem. Jesus will NEVER leave you. He will ALWAYS be there. He will ALWAYS have your back. He will ALWAYS stand with you against anything that the world throws your way. And even better, when you made Jesus your closest friend, you gained not one, but MILLIONS of friends in your brothers and sisters in Christ! Not one of us would ever let you go through this alone! So don't let this world drag you down. Don't let the cruel people in this world discourage you. We ALL have your back. We're all your friends, and we'll help you any way we can. That's what it means to be a part of this brotherhood of believers. If you ever need anything from me, I'll help you as best I can. And I want you to know, I'll be praying for you. You got a friend in Jesus, and a friend in me bud. Now Adam, we just need to make you some more friends!

-Raptor, out.