I agree with JerAyala. I have thought that maybe "worldly sounding" music was not great - even though I liked it. Ultimately though I couldn't find any scriptures that say it's bad. As far as what your father is saying about drums, there are drums in even traditional gospel... there is some sort of percussion in a large percentage music, so I'm confused as to why he draws that conclusion. However, if a particular person avoids drums because of what it evokes to THEM, then that's great--- for THEM.
As for me, I love gospel- traditional (Clark Sisters, Mahalia Jackson) as well as the r&b type (Kirk Franklin, Mary Mary, Smikey Norful, Yolanda Adams) as well as christian "pop" and a bit of the chritian rap as well. IMHO if the music brings you closer to God and Christ, if it helps you praise our God, go for it! It's all about making a joyful noise for the Lord!!
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.
My soul yearns for you in the night; in the morning my spirit longs for you. When your judgements come upon the earth, the people of the world learn righteousness.