I put a similar thread in the Solomon's Porch area but i think it is better to get a general both sexes perspective. Am i justified to be angry at the excuse that women are emotional, hence they are entitled to do any ridiculous, spiteful selfish thing as long as their "emotions" are involved. Reason i'm saying this is that i've had to work and do projects and time and time again, they've been messed up or delayed by some woman for some emotional reason. Example-
- Doing a play, as a director i gave a girl a role in the early planning stages, but then it becomes apparent that someone else would do that part better 9inbitially i wasnt sure if said person would be available so i gave the lady the part) so I changed around their parts, (note no practice had been done, scripts werent even handed out yet) The girl in question gets upset and calls me ranting and raving about she doesnt want that part, even thought she doesnt know what it involves, I try to be diplomatic but still get shouted and screamed at. Eventually I say we can discuss this at length when i get to practice (since i was walking to get a bus to practice where i'd see her). I get a phone hung up on me.. Then she drops out and i have to scramble to find someone to replace her.
- At another, production, a similar drop out happens when the girl stops coming without discussing anything with me, because she feels that shes not doing enough in her role much. Even though i make it prefectly clear that if you have any problems come to me.
So basically any neccessary changes that i have to make should be forgotten and the production must suffer because it might disrupt the flow of what a girl wants and she probably wont be able to adapt her feeling to it. Later i heard someone comment on it in a way that seems to me that i'm painted as a bad guy for changing stuff all the time.
- Sometime later, after other incidents with said girl who tends to drop out whenever she doesnt like what's going on, i decide that i dont want to work with her anymore since she always causes trouble by dropping out when she cant get her way, i get talked to by older women who intercede for her- The case i was given was this- I basically caused the trouble, because if a woman prepares her mind for something and it gets changed, its different than for a man, a man can just adapt to change but a woman will be messed up mentally and it would cause problems.
I've had different problems with other girls doing parts- One stopped coming because she dont like doing X or Y in practice,as in stop coming completely, no word, no returning calls, just disappear for 5 weeks, by then i had to find a replacement, only to complain to others that i replaced them and didn't give them a chance to quit(Hello you werent here!!!) One flat out refused to do something which would have made the programme better because they didn't want to do it,no mattter how many times they were nicley asked (the just stubbornly did what she wanted.
When i discussed this frustration with another director after all these incidents- he basically said the woman is emotional so stuff like that will happen.
Am i wrong to think this is utterly stupid and ridiculous belief, which just excuses selfish behaviour and villanises people who have a job to do???