Piercing... nose stud

[DesignerWife]

What do christians think? I'm 24, I just got married.

The reason I ask is, I teach my pastors children, they are very...i dunno... women don't wear pants, or makeup.

I teach their children music and art so I want to be respectful-also don't want to loose them as students. Options are: A. No problem as long as it's a small stud (no bull horn, yuck) or B. They don't feel comfortable with someone having a piercing teaching their kids. They know me already and we get along well, I plan on asking them but I'm shy and the pastor is..NOT.

[Firefighter]

Having been raised in a similar church, they are probably gong to freak out... BUT... you never know until you ask them.

Are you considering getting one? Is that the scenario?

[DesignerWife]

yes, and i wasnt raised there i have been going there about 2 years and know the pastor and his family only. I teach their kids piano and art. I am considerin going like this weekend or next weekend to get it.

[dljc]

DesignerWife,

I moved your thread in the Christian Fellowship forum which is more appropriate since you are Christian, and the Christians Answer forum is for unbelievers to ask questions.

[butterfly1234]

hmm idk... i have a nose stud and its funny, because i never even thought about there being a negative reaction to it. however i have had it for over ten years and usualy forget that its there lol. idk ,i would just say for u to approach your pastor about it. my church is pretty contempory tho, i cant see anyone there having an issue about it....

[Firefighter]

If it helps any, Rebekah had a nose ring (Genesis 24:22), and it is a sign of prosperity of the Jewish Women (Isaiah 3:21)... but I doubt it will help.

[Dani H]

Is you teaching those kids and your love for them, worth you foregoing the nose ring for a bit in order to avoid confrontations right off the bat?

[amazzin]

Don't do it, it's a statement you don't want to make

[Athanasius]

What do christians think? I'm 24, I just got married.

The reason I ask is, I teach my pastors children, they are very...i dunno... women don't wear pants, or makeup.

I teach their children music and art so I want to be respectful-also don't want to loose them as students. Options are: A. No problem as long as it's a small stud (no bull horn, yuck) or B. They don't feel comfortable with someone having a piercing teaching their kids. They know me already and we get along well, I plan on asking them but I'm shy and the pastor is..NOT.

If you get it, they'll take it as a sign of rebellion, or of at least going against their authority (which you are submitting yourself to). You could talk it over, and you'll probably have to compromise. Otherwise, I would advise against it, at least in the capacity that you're presently in, if you want to stay in it.

[KATMAN]

I have a bull ring thru my nose since I've been married,does that count? Personally I wouldn't get one,but if that's your thing,you should probably check or ask your pastor.Some people are very old fashioned when it comes to church.Some of our people don't like the electrice guitar or drums being played in church.

[nebula_omega]

If they're strict enough to not allow pants or makeup on women, I would say a nose piercing would be a big no-no. Personally, I have nothing against them, I just can't rock one myself (allergies!). But they sound really old-fashioned to me and probably wouldn't appreciate it.

[Dravenhawk]

My own personal opinion here, If the person teaching my kids showed up with a nose piercing I would show that person the door as I would not want my children influenced by what piercings and tatoos represent in todays pop culture. I have always thought hardware and tats carry a certian "ick" factor and cheapen the human form as God created it.

Dravenhawk

[-SEEKING-]

Though I never went through the nose piercing experience, I did get an earring in my teenage years. It's still marked on the surface of the skin but I don't think I could get an earing in there now. I think it closed up. I guess I never opened it up again to offend others by becoming a stumbling block. And I never got anymore tattoos after becoming a believer for the same purpose. But if I met someone with some fresh ink and a stud in their nose, it wouldn't offend me in the least bit.

[Godslittleangel]

I agree with those you say to wait. Wait until you know them better to know if they will be ok with it or you know them enough and them to know you enough to talk about it. And if you get one, and are able to talk about it, maybe make a deal if they aren't comfortable to not wear it when you are at thier place if that works out for them?

[tango]

This is a situation where the first question I would ask is why you want a nose stud at all. From a purely Scriptural perspective I don't see a specific reason to say that you must or that you must not, but it's a question of striking a balance.

Sometimes we need to respect the opinions of those in spiritual authority over us, sometimes they need to accept that their opinions aren't binding on others. Moving too far one way risks alienating people for no reason, too far the other way leads to living your life trying to please the whims of those around you. I assume you don't avoid wearing pants simply because your pastor thinks women should wear dresses?

If you do get this stud it may be that the pastor decides he doesn't want you teaching his children. Knowing that's a very possible outcome I'd be minded to ask whether you regard the nose piercing as sufficiently important to you to risk creating an unnecessary situation like this.

Of course it's ultimately your decision, so whichever way you decide you have to be willing to accept the consequences of your decision. It may be that getting the stud will alienate you from your pastor, it may be that it helps the pastor to appreciate that people with piercings aren't automatically bad people.