I've asked my pastor for some advice, but I also wanted to see what people here have to say. Almost 2 years ago, my daughter Amber moved to Texas after meeting a guy on the Internet. I didn't want her to go, but, since she was 18, I couldn't stop her from going. It was hard enough watching her leave to go shack up with some guy she barely knew, but one of the reasons it was really hard was because I know she didn't leave only because of the guy. I know she left, in part, because I wasn't always nice to her. I have a bad temper and she is the type of person that can push buttons, and when she was being mouthy or rebellious, I would say mean things like, "You're stupid!" Even before she left, I tried to make up for those things by stopping with the name calling and trying to be more positive and telling her she's smart enough to finish high school when she was struggling with her classes and told her she is pretty when she complained that she is ugly. She joined the "emo" crowd for awhile in her teens and dabbled in cutting herself and did the bulemic thing for a short time, too. As far as I know, she isn't doing these things anymore, fortunately. Amber always was an insecure kid, so I don't think I'm fully to blame for things, but in her teen years she sure frustrated me often and I know I said things that were not nice. I think she is still hurt by the things I've said to her. I didn't hear from her this Father's day. I don't remember if she called the year before or not. She does keep in touch with my wife and I somewhat, but it's sparse and its been awhile since we've heard from her. My pastor suggested I write her a letter and apologize for the hurtful things I've said to her. I guess it's something, but is it enough? Or, has the damage been irreversibly done?