
Originally Posted by
BroRog
Take lust for instance. How does one overcome lust for a woman? Well, we don't exactly overcome it, but we can fight it with the truth. Lust is based on infatuation, which is based in fantasy made alive through a physical reaction and feeling in the solar plexus.
Our psycho-emotional response is a God given, natural response to a woman, meant to help us in a marriage situation. However, a man can illicit this response artificially through his imagination, often with the aid of pictures. Lust becomes a problem for a man when he craves the feeling he gets, while at the same time feeling guilty, alienation, and self loathing. To avoid the guilt feeling, and the sense of self-loathing, the man will bring on an other imaginary session, which begins a cycle of pleasure, guilt, self-loathing, and pleasure.
In order to fight this kind of addiction the man must break the cycle at the point where he would normally allow his fantasies to illicit his pleasure. He starts with the truth that the woman of his fantasy is not real, whether the woman is the figment of his imagination or a picture of a woman. In order to break the chain, he must realize that the woman in the picture is fictional woman, being portrayed by a real woman, with actual feelings, dreams, hopes, preferences of her own. She doesn't really want to be with the man. He just allowed himself to imagine she did. She doesn't care about him at all. It's all for show. Her picture isn't even real as the picture has been airbrushed and touched up to look good. To fight lust, the man must not indulge his fantasies or escape into his fictional world, but face the truth about himself and about the woman.
Fantasy is the enemy of faith, when it comes to lust. Fantasy pulls the man into his head where the woman can be anything he wants her to be, where she never complains, never argues, never has needs, or places restrictions on him at all. Faith, on the other hand, faces the truth, sees himself as he is, cries out to God for mercy, sees the woman as she really is, or at least knows that the woman in the picture is just a two dimensional fiction. The real woman behind the picture has a real name, a real family, real bills, real cares, real problems, and could care less about the man.
When a man faces the truth and denies his fantasy life he suddenly feels like he is going to die like a drug addict looking for his next fix. Going without the fantasy feels like going without food or air. Faith believes and trusts that denial of fantasy and pleasure will not kill him. He knows that even though his body tells him otherwise.
To overcome sin, find the truth you deny and face the truth and the truth will set you free.
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