If you are married, how did you meet your husband

**mom_of_four** · Nov 3rd 2010, 08:00 AM

My story is quite long, but I know if you all read it that you too will believe that God placed us together...

My first husband left me in 2002 for another woman. He hadn't really been "there" emotionally for the last 3 years of our marriage. He was always going out with friends and leaving me home. I felt like he was already gone even though he was physically there. Anyway, in 2002 he finally left me and moved in with her. This was in July 2002. It took me a few months to realize that I couldn't allow this to ruin my life. I was only 28 years old at the time. I had 2 small boys at home. But, I also wanted someone to share my life with. I truly wanted a CHRISTIAN husband. The problem was that I was never the type to go "out looking" for someone. I had friends who would invite me to dinner parties. But, I felt awkward going alone. So, I would just stay home. I felt like if God had someone in mind for me that He would send him my way. But, the church I attended at that time was full of married couples. There were only 2 males in the entire congregation who were single. And they were both just high school boys! There was no one at work my age who was single. So, where was I going to meet anyone? After months of praying, I stumbled across an online Christian dating website. This website was not one of those cheesy websites. It was truly monitored by Christian people. After a few days of contemplating, I joined. I also joined a second site that was similar to the first. Both sites were supposed to be Christian based. I immediately began receiving emails from single men who wanted to talk. I began talking to a few of them. But, none of them seemed like "the one".

After a few weeks of being a member of these sites, I began going out on dates with men from the sites who would send me a message. Now, here is the sad thing - These were supposed to be Christian sites. But, not ONE of the men that I went out with respected me on dates. They were saying things to me that were inappropriate. One of them even asked me to spend the weekend with him at his house! This is when I decided to cancel my memberships and start over with trying to find another way to meet the man that God had intended for me. I emailed the two sites and asked the site monitors to cancel my memberships to both sites. One of the sites emailed me back and said it was done - I was deleted from the database. The other one said that it would take 48 hours to remove me from the system. Now, here is the interesting part...

4 weeks later, I receive an email from a man who read my information on one of the sites! I was baffled! My info was supposed to be deleted. Why was he able to read it? Out of pure curiosity, I opened the email from him. I thought that even if I wasn't compatable with him that I could at least find out from him how much info he was able to still see. As soon as I opened the email, my heart started skipping a beat. Everything he said in the email spoke to me. I knew that I had to meet this man. I emailed him back and soon we were on the phone talking for the first time. We spent hours talking. He told me on the phone that he had seen my info on BOTH sites! We agreed to meet that weekend in person (because I did not want an "online" relationship). After talking to him on the phone, I telephoned the two sites to find out why I was still in their systems. One site manager told me that he was sorry but that his assistant had not properly removed me from the system. This assistant was new at the job and was still undergoing training. He apologized for the mix-up. The second site manager told me that he HAD removed me from the site. He had no idea why my info was still showing up! But I knew why...God had a plan.

I met this man that weekend. As soon as we met, we "clicked". He was a TRUE Christian. It was very evident. His very being "glowed" with the love of Christ. It is strange. But, it felt like within a few hours time that we had known each other for years. He was very easy to talk to and we had a lot in common. Story made short...We dated 2 1/2 years. Then we were married. We have been married now for 5 1/ 2years. And I can not imagine life without him. He is my soul mate. I truly believe that God intended for these sites to mess up when deleting my info. AND...God also sent my husband to BOTH sites and guided him to read my info on BOTH sites. God is an awesome God! Thank you God for my wonderful husband!

Poetry4Me75 · Nov 4th 2010, 06:18 PM

My story is somewhat similar to SingPeace's. I met my husband at church, we were both freshly divorced and I had just moved to Indiana. I HATED MEN. I mean seriously. I had a horrible first marriage. Anyway, it was weird when I met him I literally felt a tugging on my soul (which gave me chills then I promptly ignored it). I did not know his name, only that he was in my SS class. Well, during church they were thanking a bunch of people for participating in the construction of the new building (it was the first Sunday in the new church, my first day there). When they said his name, the NAME sent the same feeling, a tugging in my soul. I had no idea the guy in my SS class and that name were the same person.

One day he just came up to me and told me he had been through divorce recently, too and we started talking (about the spiritual struggle of being a Christian and getting divorced). We shared testimonies. I foudn out his name and chills again. But I knew, from the day I saw his nameless face in SS class he would be my husband. What I didn't know was that he was saved after his divorce and had since been praying for God to give him a wife ever since (his wife left him unexpectedly for another man). Specifically, he was praying for a woman that already had children (I brought 3 into the marriage). I really resisted at first because I really hated men at that time but God knocked me over the head and about a year and a half later we were married. We took things nice and slow.

I remember writing down on a piece of paper somewhere the day I met him (to prove my sanity) that I would one day marry that man in SS class. I did not even know if he was single or his name! But God spoke so clearly I HAD to write it down to see if it came to pass.

We have been married 9+ years, blissful and still on our honeymoon!