First of all, I want to apologize for the length of the following entry. It will probably be kind of lengthy. I will try to make it short.
As most of you know, I gave birth to my new daughter on Dec. 23rd. It was a very happy day for my husband and I. But, there was also something going on at our house during my hospital stay that was very emotional for me.
See, it had already been pre-planned that when I had the baby my sisters-in-law (my husband's 2 sisters) would stay at my house and watch my other daughter who is 17 months old. So, it was set and settled. My C-Section was not due until Jan. 6th. I had a feeling that I would not make it that long. But, I had no idea that I would go into labor as early as the 23rd of Dec.! Anyway, on Dec. 23rd, I had a regular Dr.'s appointment. One of my sisters-in-law came to my house to watch my 17 month old so that me and my husband could go together to the appointment. Well, upon being examined that day, the Dr. told me I was already dialated to 5 cm and had to go straight to the hospital to have the C-Section right then! So, we called home to let the sister-in-law know. She said OK and that she would stay at our house with the 17 month old. So, things seemed fine.
Well, my other sister-in-law came later that night to help her sister watch our daughter at our house while I was in the hospital. They stayed at our house the night of the 23rd and all day on the 24th. Then, on the evening of the 24th, things started blowing up. My mother-in-law called my house to talk to her daughters who were watching my child. She was just calling to make sure things were OK and see how our 17 month old was doing. Well, she mentioned to them that she was beginning to start cooking Christmas dinner ahead of time. And that is when my 2 sisters-in-law realized that they needed to help her because my MIL has 2 very bad knees and will need to be replaced soon. And she is not supposed to be standing on her legs for long periods of time. Now, in most cases, people would say "OK, pack up the 17 month old and head to MIL's house to help her." Right? That would work in a normal situation. But, my 17 month old has scoliosis and was due to have her 2nd cast put on just a few days later. The doctor had advised us to not have her out in the weather because if she got sick, they would refuse to put on the cast (because she has to be put under anesthesia to have it done and kids with colds can't be safely put to sleep). So, they could not take my daughter anywhere. They had to keep her at my house. So, they called MY 2 sisters and asked them if they would care to come to my house just for a few hours - long enough for them to go to their mom's house and help her and then they said they would come back. My sisters refused!!!! My sisters said that they had already made plans and that had they known a couple of days before hand, they would have helped out.
So, my 2 sisters-in-law stayed at my house, my MIL did all the cooking, and now my Sisters-in-law are very upset with my sisters and my sisters seem to feel like they have done nothing wrong. It is causing family strife and lots of hurt feelings. I have cried over this. And it hurts me to think that my own 2 sisters would not take a couple of hours out of their day to watch my 17 month old. I have talked to my sisters about this and they feel no remorse and say that they did nothing wrong and they feel like they owe no one any apologies. They said that my sisters-in-law had already agreed to watch the baby and that they should not have even called them asking for help since they had agreed to stay at my house.
Here is my question to you all - How do I deal with this? I am so angry with my sisters. And I am so upset that they have hurt my sisters-in-law - as well as my MIL. How can I help my family to come to peace with this thing so that everyone feels comfortable being around each other again? ADVICE???