Re: Dealing with people that ignore me
I remember when I actually had to confront this in my own life and my husband's too. It seemed as we got older...and older, we were not 'included' as much as we used to be. So after praying much about it, and looking at it closely, this is what I found.
We HAD BEEN included more, like to be invited out to eat after services and things like that, when our children were younger. The fact was, we just had more in COMMON with others who also had children. Over the years too, people had come and gone in our church.
But you see, it wasn't that we were being 'ignored'. It was just simply that we did not have as much in common as many younger couples at our church.
Now, since you are new at the church, don't you think it could just be they haven't had time to 'get to know you' yet. Hence...nothing in common. What I suggest is this. When you hear, either from announcements or other ways, that someone is ill and needs prayer...or someone is going to have surgery...or perhaps they have a relative who does not even go to that church...ANYTHING of that nature--then make it a SPECIAL focus to genuinely pray for that person and ALSO find out their phone number and call them, daily if necessary, and tell them PERSONALLY, "I just now prayed for you (or your son or other loved one) and I thought I'd call and let you know that." Or you may ask, "How is your mother doing since her surgery?" And then, before you hang up, let them know you are praying for their mom and tell them to tell her that you are praying for her.
If someone there has a death in their family, show up when they receive friends.
in other words, reach out and let them SEE Christ through you. See what I mean?
People do take special note of those who genuinely care! So I'd suggest reaching out in any way you can.
But not if you really don't care and just want to be recognized for your fine speaking or something like that. (Am I making any sense to anyone besides myself?)
My favorite scripture: Malachi 3:16
"Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name!" (Every time we speak of the Lord, or even THINK of him--its written down in a book of remembrance!)