Why do GOOD guys fall for BAD girls?

[DesertRose]

Hey everyone!

I'm new to this site but I've read a couple posts and I think I'll be able to gain some help here
so there's something that has been bothering me for a while and I can't figure out why it's like that...
I'm 20 years old and have never had a boyfriend. I've never been kissed, hugged or touched by a guy. People consider me a good girl. They also say that I'm very attractive. I've been asked out by guys a lot in the past but never had interest in anyone. I'm very humble, quiet and shy. The reason why I've never had a boyfriend is because I haven't found the right guy but I also think that it has something to do with me, my personality...it seems to me that guys nowadays don't like my kind of girls; I think they prefer active girls. For example, I have a female friend who dated guys and did pretty much everything but sex...she's a real coquette...she dated multiple guys at the same time and stuff. but lately she's been asked out by a really good guy and they're dating now. I wish her happiness and all but I also think that she doesn't deserve someone like him. it just makes me feel like you're better off being bad. why do bad girls always get the best guys??

[DesertRose]

sorry guys, my English isn't good so if there's anything that you don't underspend ask for a clarification

[Hunter121]

That's not true, I'm looking for a good girl, this remind me of proverbs chapter 2, don't fall for the seductress who flatters with her words, her house leads to destruction. Be patient the guy is out there, but I've seen too many good girls go bad, so keep your morals and be patient.

[SteveL]

I wish her happiness and all but I also think that she doesn't deserve someone like him

When you think about it, what do any one of us deserve? Death. Those are the wages of sin. And as we know in Romans 3:23, all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

It's only by His grace that we are saved and sanctified. Do not get caught up in judging others, thinking yourself better than others. Humility, trust in God and faith goes a long way.

Desert Rose, Romans 6:9, do not grow weary of doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up

Keep your eyes on the prize (Christ) and He will lead you to great things for His glory. Do not look unto others or make comparisons. Be patient and diligent on continuing to do, think and live right. All the best.

[lovex]

I know what you mean in a way. I am also twenty years old, but I've have one boyfriend my whole life. We dated for about eight years, and since it's been over, I am putting my hope in Christ who (if it's in His will) will bring us back together or set us apart to where no relationship will be united.

But, I completely understand you. Many times during my day, I feel so different from girls around me. Like you, I am very quiet shy and reserved. I consider myself boring in the eyes of others but to me, I prefer my life to be quiet in that way. I am not outgoing, and I really only want to become close to the man I'm going to share the rest of my life with. I am very cautious in the way I present myself to guys because I don't want them to get the wrong idea of me. Whether that means in the way that I dress (which I am very modest in my dress... which is the biggest factor that I feel different from other girls) or in the way I act.

What I learned from that relationship ending was that... all hope needs to be in Christ. I cannot put my hope in getting a husband..but I can put my hope in the Lord to bring me someone who is going to strengthen my relationship with Him and allow me to be the companion of whomever it is. I cannot forget that... whatever is in the Lords will, is going to happen. Which means, if marriage isn't in the cards for me...then, I need to accept it .

Please don't feel alone though. I feel the exact same way as you. Let us continue to love, encourage, and strive for Holiness above worldliness.

Love ya sister.

[Withoutfcf]

Be content with what you have and if it is Gods will then He will send you someone..But then again that can turn into..where yo uare trying to seem content but at same time are looking around like "Where is he??" But also the way the biblespeaks of prayer is to pray against God's will..Because to pray for Gods will is Just pointless because if Its already in Gods will....Then it will happen or so on...so waste of breath praying for something that will already come to pass..

Pray for the right guy but in the mean time..Focus your energy on God...At the moment you forget about guys and only see Christ...then well..that will be the moment you find your someone