Re: I need help!!
Jerome, I think I have the experience to qualify me to answer you since I have 4 children all married with their own families. They have given me 7 grandchildren and 3 great-grandchildren!
Not that I am an expert or anything, but I do have 52 years of parenting behind me and my grandchildren are aged 25 down to age 10.
First of all, parenting is just IN us. We can't help it.
Now, first of all, I think you and your wife are making too much out of their offering their help. Let them do for your baby! Its their job and it sounds like they love him so, SO much! In the future, like at Christmas and Birthdays, you are going to be SO VERY glad his grandparents are in his life! Its going to mean many more gifts for him!
I really think you and your wife are going a bit overboard in setting certain rules for the baby, but since he is your FIRST child, I can understand. But, baby is going to touch lots of things with those hands, and that rule for him is just kinda, well...far fetched.
Lighten up, friend! Hey, you should be so thankful that they are letting the three of you stay there for now. And one more thing I'd like to ask you to do, especially since you and your girlfriend are both Christians now. Friend, go ahead and marry the girl. Make it legal, for her sake and for the baby's. He deserves parents who have the same last name and...marriage puts your house into God's divine order of things.
Listen, its not gonna hurt one thing if someone TOUCHES his little hands! Doctors and nurses certainly will! And he is not going to get contaminated from lying on someone's bed. I'm telling you as nicely as I know how...lighten up on the things that aren't so important and start doing the things that ARE. Like, praying with family and the baby. Listen to good Christian music. Get the baby in Church.
You are slowly alienating everyone from the baby's life. If you were one of my children, I would be thinking, Okay already! I won't touch the kid. I'll stay away.
On down the road, in a short matter of months, you will be needing them to babysit now and then and they could be scared to death to keep him a few hours. Listen, face it, you and your young girlfriend are young, NEW parents.
Don't be the over-protective, silly kind! And that's what EVERYBODY is going to be thinking.
Again, I urge you to get married. That baby deserves it!
My favorite scripture: Malachi 3:16
"Then they that feared the LORD spake often one to another: and the LORD hearkened, and heard it, and a book of remembrance was written before him for them that feared the LORD, and that thought upon his name!" (Every time we speak of the Lord, or even THINK of him--its written down in a book of remembrance!)