I have a Question for those who know anything about facebook

[JK18]

Ok, so, here is my question. You know how when one of your friends changes their relationship status it will show up in the recent activities section both on the main facebook page and on said friends wall? Example, "Fred went from single to in a relationship one hour ago."
Well, what if you saw your friends page yesterday and the relationship status was completely blank and had been completely blank all this time, but suddenly said, Married, but didn't have anything posted on their wall or in the recent activates section of the main facebook page.
First off, why would that do that and second could it possible be a glitch in the system?
The reason I ask is, this girl I have come to really care about We have been talking back and forth for a little over two moths now and we both started developing feelings for each other.
Anyway we were talking last night and everything was fine, but I go on her facebook page today to see a photo and saw in her info beside her profile picture she was now listed as married where it had been blank yesterday.
At first I thought it was just some kind of prank, but then I saw that her Ex changed his to married as well.
But again none of this showed up in the news feeds, or on her wall, it was just like blank one minute and then poof Married.
I just don't understand how that could change that fast, I mean she told me last night that she spent the day with her sister.
So, could this just be a joke and should I ask her about it?

[RevLogos]

Well if you really have feelings for her, and you think she does for you, then I'd attack it head on and ask. I mean, what's the worst that could happen? You discover she's really married and still in love with her ex, has no feelings for you, and decided to get back together. Bummer.

On the other hand, perhaps her ex got jealous and hacked into her account and changed it.

Always be willing to take risks when those feelings are developing...

[the sound]

i think when that happens it's because some one tagged you as having a relationship, and will be posted as such on the news feed once you confirm.

so he probably tagged her as married and she dosn't even know it yet.

[thethirdtuttle]

I would agree that the best thing to do is be straightforward and ask. Of course, you don't want to come across all accusatory and hostile, so the best approach would probably be to ask her about it in an off-hand and/or casual kind of way. For instance, the next time you talk to her, say something along the lines of, "You know, I happened to notice that your marital status on Facebook changed recently from being blank to married. Did you happen to notice that, as well?" Then, you can go from there, depending on what her response happens to be. Who knows? Like RevLogos said, maybe her ex hacked into her account and changed it without her knowledge. It's always best to give people the benefit of the doubt in ambiguous and/or uncertain situations like this one. That way, they have an opportunity to explain the situation without feeling like you are looking down on them with condemnation. Not that you are doing that, but I hope you catch my drift. That's about it for now. God bless, and have a great day in the Lord!

Yours in Christ,

Benjamin

[tango]

Ok, so, here is my question. You know how when one of your friends changes their relationship status it will show up in the recent activities section both on the main facebook page and on said friends wall? Example, "Fred went from single to in a relationship one hour ago."
Well, what if you saw your friends page yesterday and the relationship status was completely blank and had been completely blank all this time, but suddenly said, Married, but didn't have anything posted on their wall or in the recent activates section of the main facebook page.
First off, why would that do that and second could it possible be a glitch in the system?
The reason I ask is, this girl I have come to really care about We have been talking back and forth for a little over two moths now and we both started developing feelings for each other.
Anyway we were talking last night and everything was fine, but I go on her facebook page today to see a photo and saw in her info beside her profile picture she was now listed as married where it had been blank yesterday.
At first I thought it was just some kind of prank, but then I saw that her Ex changed his to married as well.
But again none of this showed up in the news feeds, or on her wall, it was just like blank one minute and then poof Married.
I just don't understand how that could change that fast, I mean she told me last night that she spent the day with her sister.
So, could this just be a joke and should I ask her about it?

If she's married then she's married and that's pretty much the end of it. If it's a prank someone is pulling on her, or she's set that status as a prank to see who notices, or whatever else, then things are much as they were before.

Why not congratulate her on her new marriage?

Just keep in mind you don't own her - it's easy to get caught up in the mindset that you have feelings for her, she has feelings for you, and therefore nobody else gets a look in. If she has feelings for you but something stronger for someone else she could date/marry/whatever that someone else.

[JK18]

I finally talked to her about it, She said she did it because she was tired guys hitting on her and for few other reasons, reason I can't really go into.
I really want to believe her, but ever since this happened we hardly talk and when we do she doesn't act the same as she used to.
It honestly makes me nervous, because I went through something similar with my ex as some of you may remember and I ended up getting played.
I just don't know what do or what to think.
If you guys could please pray for me. Pray that things go back to normal soon and that if she is lying to me that God would open my eyes to see it.
and if you guys have any advice I would be more than willing to hear it.
Thanks in advance and God Bless.

[-SEEKING-]

My advice would be, as painful as it may be for you to hear, is to just let it go. Perhaps she doesn't want to be upfront with you. Just take a break from talking to her and she if she seeks you out.

[JK18]

That's kind of what I have started doing.

[BrianW]

I have some advice for you.

Stop having relationships over the internet.

Meet a girl at church functions. They have singles groups for a reason. Take advantage of them.

Meet girls at the park, or the Christian book store. Meet a girl at a Christian rock concert.

There are plenty of good, single Christians girls out there looking for a good, single Christian man.

Get out there and start mingling man!

[-SEEKING-]

That's good advice Brian.

[tango]

I finally talked to her about it, She said she did it because she was tired guys hitting on her and for few other reasons, reason I can't really go into.
I really want to believe her, but ever since this happened we hardly talk and when we do she doesn't act the same as she used to.
It honestly makes me nervous, because I went through something similar with my ex as some of you may remember and I ended up getting played.
I just don't know what do or what to think.
If you guys could please pray for me. Pray that things go back to normal soon and that if she is lying to me that God would open my eyes to see it.
and if you guys have any advice I would be more than willing to hear it.
Thanks in advance and God Bless.

It's easy to play someone online, simply because from the other side of a computer screen you have no way of validating what she says. She could be telling the absolute truth, she could be making out with her new man while telling you how much she cares about you.

I'd second what Brian said - stop looking online. I met my wife online back in 1996 and it's not something I'd recommend people do (it's also not something she'd recommend either). That's not because we ended up with something useless, but because of the number of people who do find that the person they are in love with is something totally different to what they thought and the number of ways it can go horribly wrong.

If you want to use an organised dating web site to meet local people go right ahead. The crucial thing is that a relationship has a reasonably local aspect to it.

Another thing I'd suggest, I don't know if this is something you're already doing or not, is to hang out with women as friends. Go to social gatherings and get to know people. If you get to know groups of people and then get to know a few of them better and one or two in particular better still that's all well and good. If you try to jump from stranger straight to soulmate you're just as likely to get burned as to meet Miss Right.

Since you're obviously not looking for a one-night-stand with no strings, you can afford to take your time to get to know people and let relationships develop when the spark is there on both sides.

[JRFifty]

I don't know; I don't use facebook. I have never been in a relationship Never had no one ever.
I don't know a thing about it.

[JK18]

I have recently read some things that make me think she may have been lying to me all along.
Please pray for me that God will help me find out the truth.

[tango]

I have recently read some things that make me think she may have been lying to me all along.
Please pray for me that God will help me find out the truth.

Honestly man, forget about "finding the truth". It sounds like this situation is pretty much a text book example of how online relationships go wrong and leave someone burned.

For as long as you're concerned about "finding the truth" you leave her hooks in you. I'd suggest the best thing to do from here is just forget about her.

[BrianW]

Honestly man, forget about "finding the truth". It sounds like this situation is pretty much a text book example of how online relationships go wrong and leave someone burned.

For as long as you're concerned about "finding the truth" you leave her hooks in you. I'd suggest the best thing to do from here is just forget about her.

Bingo!

*Ding Ding Ding*


We have a winner folks!