Just had my first snog at 32.

[saintsaucey]

Did my post get deleted? Seriously.

[IMINXTC]

I was fix'n to offer sound rebuke for mixing Schnaaps with egg-nog, like the old-timers did back in my obscure, hazardous youth.

Never mind

[episkopos]

How about that smog over India?

[cicero]

Okay so I'm gonna be 32 in march and 5:30 this morning was my first snog. I'd say it went fantasticly as she is coming back for more tomorrow morning. FYI I am a Christian Male who doesn't believe in sex before marrige.

Snogging at 5:30am? hmmmmm

j/k :p

just stay true to your convictions. emotions can cloud judgement very easily.

[GitRDunn]

I'll just repeat what I said earlier.

I hope that she is a nice Christian girl and that this is the start of a beautiful relationship.

I'll second that.

[Boo]

Oh, yeah, if I were to want to be walking as Jesus walked, I'd be sure to create lots of temptation for myself. Being young and aroused is a great way to accomplish that.

At what line does the scriptures refer to our actions as being sexual or not sexual? At what point are we sinning against our bodies and where can we stop to be sure that we are not?

Sorry, my brother, but I am not going to "cheer you on." My convictions won't permit that.

[BrianW]

Oh, yeah, if I were to want to be walking as Jesus walked, I'd be sure to create lots of temptation for myself. Being young and aroused is a great way to accomplish that.

At what line does the scriptures refer to our actions as being sexual or not sexual? At what point are we sinning against our bodies and where can we stop to be sure that we are not?

Sorry, my brother, but I am not going to "cheer you on." My convictions won't permit that.

Everybody has different levels of temptations brother. And guess what? God gives us the strength to overcome all of them.

Faith, belief, convictions and sound moral judgement are given to each of us in part. Faith, belief, convictions and sound moral judgement can also be trained and strengthened and increased along with a good amount of will.

I try not to allow my personal weaknesses to cloud my judgement of another. I also try my best not to pre-judge another without knowing the whole situation and having enough facts to make a decision about someone or their circumstance.

In the very first post he wrote:

Christian Male who doesn't believe in sex before marriage.

I take him at his word and so therefore encourage him.

So let me ask those who would disparage him.

Have you ever been lonely?

Have you ever given council to one who feels loneliness so deeply in their hearts that you can see it bleeding out of their eyes when you're talking to them?

I have. And it shook me to my core.

How about some empathy instead condemnation when you don't know the background, facts and feelings involved?

How about a little of that love we all know we should have and talk about eh?

Guess what? You can work on strengthening the love you have too. And the more you give it the more it comes right back at you kind of like a spiritual boomerang.

[saintsaucey]

Thanks Brian. I tried to post some things earlier but I think something happened to the post. I've never had anyone. In any capacity. I've never held hands with a girl that didn't jerk her hand away right after the prayer circle was over
I've never hugged a girl and not gotten the pat on the back saying the hug has gone on long enough. She is good for me
she makes me happy. I am a miserable person almost every day but the thought of her makes me happy.

[episkopos]

Thanks Brian. I tried to post some things earlier but I think something happened to the post. I've never had anyone. In any capacity. I've never held hands with a girl that didn't jerk her hand away right after the prayer circle was over
I've never hugged a girl and not gotten the pat on the back saying the hug has gone on long enough. She is good for me
she makes me happy. I am a miserable person almost every day but the thought of her makes me happy.

I think some here are alarmed at the easy worldly terminology you have employed to relay this happening. If you said a word like "frolic" that would still bring concern from many here. When we see things from our own desires rather than the will of God then only carnality can result.

Perhaps God is withholding from you something that you would understand carnally?

God wants us to be fulfilled...so if you prayed for a godly mate and leave it to Him, maybe you would be putting it differently.

I tried finding my own mate by my own choice for many years before I gave up and asked the Lord for HIS choice of a mate for me. I asked for a Proverbs 31 woman! He answered me instantly and said I would meet her that year. I met and was even married that year. We have been married for almost 25 years now and have 8 wonderful children all serving the Lord.
I wish you well in the Lord.

[Amos_with_goats]

I think some here are alarmed at the easy worldly terminology you have employed to relay this happening. If you said a word like "frolic" that would still bring concern from many here. When we see things from our own desires rather than the will of God then only carnality can result.

Perhaps God is withholding from you something that you would understand carnally?

God wants us to be fulfilled...so if you prayed for a godly mate and leave it to Him, maybe you would be putting it differently.

I tried finding my own mate by my own choice for many years before I gave up and asked the Lord for HIS choice of a mate for me. I asked for a Proverbs 31 woman! He answered me instantly and said I would meet her that year. I met and was even married that year. We have been married for almost 25 years now and have 8 wonderful children all serving the Lord.
I wish you well in the Lord.

AND!

She even posts here and says the same kind things about him too...



Absolutely excellent advice!

[bdh]

Well, if snog means smooching -- as in kissing in the back rows of the movies kinda thing -- and that's all it was and it was your first time, I'd say congrats bro. I'd also venture to guess you may be thinking this girl may be the one and if that is so, double congrats.

Me, I've been married for as long as you have been alive and it's been the most enriching experience of my life. Don't jump into it but also don't be afraid of a committed relationship. Lay it before the Lord daily, let Him the the lamp unto your feet and the Light to your path and the way forward will become clear. Believe that.

[saintsaucey]

Yeah it was just making out no groping or grinding. Unfortunantly thats all it will ever be. We both know there is no future for us but we will continue to have fun(not too much mind you)

[Amos_with_goats]

........ Unfortunantly thats all it will ever be. We both know there is no future for us but we will continue to have fun(not too much mind you)

What causes you to believe this?

[saintsaucey]

She told me. She's younger than me by a significant number of years but she is still an adult. She says her parents would never approve.

[BrianW]

Um...................that changes things quite a bit there bro. I guess I was wrong to encourage you after all.

From what you've just wrote the two of you are being deceptive.

I mean, seriously, if you can't proudly walk up to her parents, look them in the eye and say "Yes. I am the man who's dating your daughter." then you really need to reevaluate the whole situation. Lying and deceptions are sins man.

And if she's lying to her parents and you are involved with it you are just as guilty of that lie as she is.

Dude. Better to be alone than to proudly sin.