Hi, I'm new here and wasn't sure where to post this but thought this would be the best place to get some good advice.
I am so upset over something going on between my sister and I. She is about seven years older (Iím late 50ís, sheís late 60ís) and since we were young, she has always tried to tell me what to do, give me advice that she thought I should always follow, tell me how to dress, wear my hair, etc. Iím by nature a very easy going person and just try to get along with other people, if at all possible. We have had falling outs over the years and if I feel like itís my fault I always apologize to her but if itís her fault and I just stop emailing or calling, she will call and act like nothing ever happened, but will never admit she was the one who started it. One of the things that we have never mentioned but is understood is, you never talk about each others children unless itís in a positive way. I have never said a bad thing about any of her kids but here is my problem that Iím hoping someone can give me some advice. Both of my daughters are Christians but only my youngest daughter and son-n-law are really trying to raise their children in Church and involved in a lot of different outreach programs to help other people. She has the sweetest personality and they would both do anything for anyone. They are hard working and happy. My sister has got to where she makes little remarks about her that kind of bothered me but I thought I was maybe overreacting so I let it go. She finally said something that was to me, crossing the line. So early Christmas Eve I emailed her and told her it was really on my mind and bothered me a lot so from now on Iíd just as soon keep my daughter out of our conversations. I was as nice as I could be and the email I got back from her was unreal! She got so mad and said some terrible things about my daughter. I emailed her back and told her what I thought but kept it nice. I told her, now, you can be mad if you want to or we can get past this and go on. You wouldnít believe what she wrote back and even used a couple of bad words! I love my sister. She can be so hateful if sheís crossed and turn right around and be the most kind hearted, giving personÖ.until she doesnít get her way. I honestly donít think I can get past this, this time. Iím done being her doormat. Am I wrong? I wrote this fast and I'm sure I left out some things but I just wanted to give you a general idea of what Iím dealing with and get your feedback.
Thank you so much for any advice.