Parents say I'm too young to get married.

[Godslittleangel]

I don't always think age should always make a difference, I've seen people older than you get married and were not really mature enough for that step. But I have to agree with others that have said to sit down and talk to your parents. Because sometimes people outside the relationship see things that we don't see or miss. Love does blind a person. So take what they have to say and pray over it. Let God have the final say in the end whether or not you get married right now.

[esper88]

I'm 22 and I'm engaged to my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years. Thankfully both of our families approve of our marriage. You're not alone in wanting to get married young. When you find the right person, why wait? You're doing the right thing to follow your heart.

[galbro48026]

1 Cor 7:36 ---- But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

[andrew_no_one]

You're doing the right thing to follow your heart.

I'm sorry, I know this is a little dated but I hate "worldly wiseman" advice like this. “Follow your heart”??? That is terrible advice and must never be done. We much choose to lead our hearts with the Word of God and never trust our emotions or “feelings”.

Jeremiah 17:9
The heart is deceitful above all things
and beyond cure.
Who can understand it?

[episkopos]

I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 6 years. He lives with his brother and a friend, and I live at home with my parents. We have decided that we want to buy a house together in about 12 months time and have saved up enough money for a downpayment etc as we both have very steady, well-paying jobs.

Before we buy a house though we want to get married. He is a Christian and firmly believes in marriage, and I too believe that we should get married before living together. We love each other more than anything... the problem is that my parents don't approve. They think I am too young to get married and that I should just live at home for a few more years.

I thought that by getting married we were declaring our love before God and doing the right thing. Isn't it better that we get married before we move out together? I just don't know what to do. We have been together for 6 years and I was so excited to marry him and start a life together. Now I don't know what to do because my parents don't approve - they think I am way too young to get married and settle down.

I don't know what to do. I want to marry the man that I love but I also want my parents to approve of my decisions, I am so torn.

Do you have any other married brothers and sisters? Is there another reason for your parents to think you are not ready? Is there something you are leaving out of the OP?

Kindly
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[Withoutfcf]

I'm 17.
I'm getting married in a Year.

If I can do it when I'm an adult.
You who are older should be able to.

[lovex]

Hmm... I think, because of your age and your stance with Christ, that you should be trusted enough by your parents to know that you are not making a mistake by desiring to become one with your boyfriend of 6 years. The fact that you've been together for six years shows that you haven't rushed into this just to "get married" but have taken the time to learn and grow and have a close relationship with one another. I definitely think that your parents should be respected though.. they may have concerns that you need to hear before making such a committment as this. Listen, respect... humble yourself and be honest. Pray that God would give you the words to speak to them about your future plans.

[katycloud]

Wow, I haven't been back here in such a long time and my post is so old now! But I thought I'd provide an update

My partner and I are now officially engaged and my parents are quite pleased! However, I still find myself being judged for my age by other people, which I think is ridiculous because we will both be 25 when we marry. When work colleagues found out I was engaged they replied with, "Oh my, you're so young!" and all my cousins and family members commented "Oh but you're the youngest grandchild!" (My other cousins are 28-31 and while they all have steady partners, none are engaged/married). However, despite this, my parents and my fiance's parents are both very pleased and happy for us. I'm just trying to not be affected by the people who say I am too young or make snide comments and just carry on living the life that I want to live.

I think it also makes it harder that I LOOK much younger than I am. I am almost 25 but I look about 16, so people tend to be more judgemental

Thank you everyone for your replies.

[Dani H]

Wow, I haven't been back here in such a long time and my post is so old now! But I thought I'd provide an update

My partner and I are now officially engaged and my parents are quite pleased!

Great! That's all that matters.

However, I still find myself being judged for my age by other people

Who cares? You've got the support from the people who actually matter. So don't worry about it.

And, congratulations on your engagement. May the two of you spend the rest of your lives growing closer to God and one another every single day.

[Godslittleangel]

Glad to hear it! And for the young comments, they will be there no matter what. Just smile and laugh along with them. I suppose in a way when you get older, kids that age do seem really really young and it may not be meant as in insult, but a reaction from the shock, maybe not ready to see you grow up so fast. I'm thirty, when I was in younger, high schoolers seemed like adults, now they seem like kids still. Its perspective a lot of times. I'm sure there are some who may believe your too young but don't mind them, you do what God tells you to do.

[katycloud]

Thank you everyone

[bdh]

I am 24 years old and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for 6 years.

I was not 21 yet [and we had known each other for less than a year] when I got married and last week we celebrated our 32nd anniversary. Everyone told us at the time we wouldn't last 6 months. huh... well, they can eat their words now

[Jeanne D]

Wow, I haven't been back here in such a long time and my post is so old now! But I thought I'd provide an update

My partner and I are now officially engaged and my parents are quite pleased! However, I still find myself being judged for my age by other people, which I think is ridiculous because we will both be 25 when we marry. When work colleagues found out I was engaged they replied with, "Oh my, you're so young!" and all my cousins and family members commented "Oh but you're the youngest grandchild!" (My other cousins are 28-31 and while they all have steady partners, none are engaged/married). However, despite this, my parents and my fiance's parents are both very pleased and happy for us. I'm just trying to not be affected by the people who say I am too young or make snide comments and just carry on living the life that I want to live.

I think it also makes it harder that I LOOK much younger than I am. I am almost 25 but I look about 16, so people tend to be more judgemental

Thank you everyone for your replies.

Congratulations on your engagement and upcoming marriage. I was 20 when I got married, my husband was 21.
Like bdh we will be married 32 years (next month).

God's blessings to you both!

Jeanne

[Diggindeeper]

Katycloud, I am so happy for you and your fiance! I wish you a long happy, healthy marriage.

Katy, I met the man I married at age 16. We dated for a year and planned on getting married after I graduated from high school. But my dad came home one day telling us that he was being transferred by the company he worked for. The family would be moving to another state. So, Bill and I decided we wanted to go ahead and get married. He asked my dad for his blessings for us, and my dad actually had to go before a judge and sign a paper giving me permission to marry. (The legal age then was 21. I was 17. Bill was 21.

We had our share of problems, but this April was our 55th Wedding Anniversary! Sadly, I lost the love of my life to cancer the end of May and I honestly feel like, after so many years, that we were truly ONE. We were almost like conjoined twins, but joined at the heart. Believe me, part of me and part of my heart went with him.

I will pray that you two will be 'as one' just as we were! (And still are. He was the love of my life.)

[Karaite]

I was 19 when I got married and my parents would have never approved because of religious reasons. He is a devout christian and I converted from Judaism.
So we eloped!
The best decision I ever made!
Some people were skeptical of our age, but what do they expect me to do as a christian? Go out and have a fulfilling sex life and career and then have to "settle" to being married and having a family.
I would not trade this for anything!
Good luck and God bless